Broken Expectation of getting a bride for Ram-Kaikeyi - Page 2

@Shruthi: Good post but choice of title is not my cup of tea😉. As I have an unidirectional view in this regard, I will stay as an observer of ur thread 😆

@Ramya will like to know your unidirectional view also. Only then it will become interesting😃. You know I am open to all views😆😆

@Savitha I had not noticed that much during the invitation episode. Ekta Kappor and Ramayana. I will be bagho. You will not see me anywhere near SKR. 😆😆. As a policy I don't watch Ekta Kapoor and Rashmi Sharma shows 😆😆

@Shruthi: vithi valiyadu😆 Okay, I start my one-dimensional view
1. I have expressed my view on Kaikeyi already in other thread so I will skip it.
2. Parents expectation on their child: I accept that parents can have an ambition, foresight, expectation on their kids but its their duty to know the wish and interest of children. It is equated to our prayers to god. As already discussed, if our wish turns our aim and then our expectation reaches the point of utmost need, we meet with the disappointments. Same holds good here, if the parents impose their wish on children, it will be a failure but if they mould the children in a way, where they themselves gets attracted to their parents wish, the result will be a wonder. Is it happening 😕
3. Coming to marriage issue, whether its parents or their own choice, it will be a disaster only. First, each one (both husband and wife) has to compromise for other losing their originality. On a lighter note, even the initial changes.😆 I am against love marriages where its merely a suicide. When I was countered by my colleague that when people choose their leader why not their life-partner. My replies 1. is the leader going to live with us? 2. do we definitely have the option to change our life partner every 5th year? 3. How many times we are successful in selecting our leaders?

Coming to arrange marriage, it depends on how well the parents understood their children. I dont think this is also as perfect, when many still dont know who they are how will they know their children.

So my personal opinion is for both men and women marriage is an obstacle in their ambitious life.😉

@Ramya point 1 and 2 I guess I agree to you. Yes there are many kids who get the right mentoring from parents and move up the ladder of success as per their parents wish. But the numbers are low. We have more controlling parents than mentoring parents

@Shruti: oops, u almost agree my 3rd point. Good 😃.

My view is either one among the partners should have the quality of adjustment to lead smooth life. There is no need to get into marriage life and learn about us, just stay back, relax, watch and observer our relatives and take the decision😊. I did this only and I am so happy that not only me even I saved some unknown family😆

@Ramya you should be sure of your decision. That's all there to it. You should be convinced why you are taking such a decision. For you it is marriage, for me it is children. When I couldn't conceive after 3 years into marriage we went for check ups. No major problems were detected but still many medicines and supporting devices for conception were given. Next 2 years I went about religiously following all the rules the doctors told me to the extend my marriage life became automatic like a set of pre determined activities. It lost the fun, sheen, and the comradeship we shared. It all revolved around certain dates. Then when we were unsuccessful the doctor suggested the next level. That was the day when both me and my husband decided enough is enough. We walked out of that hospital, threw away all the gadgets and medicines and decided to invest time in what we have than what we don't have. Yes we are the risk of not experiencing parenthood in this life time. But then we have got back all the things we so much treasured in our marriage. Instead of wasting our time in the waiting room of some money minting clinic, we decided to use our time fruitfully in mentoring students, financially supporting under privileged meritorious students, engaging in social activities and we discovered there is much more to life and we don't regret our choice.

@Shruthi: I can understand your pain. Its all in our mindset. As you know, we should live our life for us, others and not designed by others.

Usually, I won't disclose the matter told to me by others. This quality of mine (idk good or bad😉) made way for my relatives and friends to come and pour their problems. See how long we can tolerate it yaar. I got myself isolated from all. I, me and my books (now internet, all forums to debate 😆) is my favourite place.

When people around you can understand you and ur feelings, there is nothing to worry about. This is what lacks in current scenario. Taking Ram-Sita, they are separated apart but still each felt for other. No need of physical help always, an emotional support is vital. So my words for u is "Be patient as u r, god is busy in chosing the best soul for u".

I simply admire ur last line " we discovered there is much more to life and we don't regret our choice."👏