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Ram values female as precious gems and respects them by keeping them on high pedestal as he knows the value of love, sacrifice and devotion of female since he has grown up seeing his 3 mothers love & devotion for their family & kingdom, and then his sister's sacrifices for the state etc.
The kings who were present in the swayamvar were there to take away a girl as token of their victory as they were ignorant of the value and the truth of the Shiv Dhanush. If they were least known about the strength of it, may be they would not have attended the same to face the failure. As they thought the girl (for them Sita was just a mere girl who will be given away by her father to anyone who strings the Bow) has no value or may be they thought Janak found an easy way to get rid of his adopted daughter so that he can think well for his own daughter. Hence they thought Janaki as a lust able product than a lady with wisdom and pride. So including Ravan, Sita was a bonus prize or complimentary gift given along with the Shiv Dhanush.
On contrast, Ram was not even aware of the fact that he may take part in Swayamvar as a participant as he had not received any instructions from his father in that line. All he thought was to obey his Guru and do whatever has been told by him without a countering question. His devotion to his Guru had made him victorious as it was not wanting to win but to fulfill his Guru's words and to uphold his first guru's teachings (Vashishta). For Ram thought it was his fortune to even touch the Shiva Dhanush and he respected it for its sacredness and never looked at it as a way to win a wife.
Ghum Hai Kisikey Pyaar Meiin
