Ram Ram Ram

Lord Ram, is an embodiment of truth, the ideal son, personification of morals, the ideal husband, and most importantly, the ideal king for all people.
---Swami Vivekananda

VVivekananda may not be completely right. But I think it's wrong neither.once I had an opinion that Ram was such a boring Avatar. Look at Krishna, how much witty! What a charming! But I couldn't understand one thing why Ram always treated as something special while Krishna Leela was so amazing. One fine day,I got a chance to read Ramayana content. then only I started to realize my incapability to understand Ram character.

Ram never posed him as god. He acted and reacted how normal humans behave.He did some immoral acts how normal human does.

He lied (which Raja Arichandra didn't do),
he blamed his parents(which shravan didn't), he left his wife (which many pati didn't), he killed sambuka without proper enquiry (which many kings didn't)

Then which could make him as ideal son,ideal pati, ideal brother and ideal king.


I believe answer is in his actions.If Ram wanted to get rid of sita, then he could've do it when he conquered Raavan. None could've question him.
Because Mata Sita was under suspicion on her chastity.
Why he didn't?because he loved sita much.


He abandoned sita for Raja dharma. on name of Raja dharma he could have marry many princess (in those period kings were allowed to marry many wives for making smooth relation with other countries. It's quite normal. So if Ram did this, it wouldn't be surprise). why he didn't.?Because he believed in husband material(some may ask about other brothers too didn't do second marriage. I just want to give two facts 1.Ram was only king 2.Ram survived without wife. Though Lakshman did same,count differs.I mean Lakshman was seperated from his wife for 14 years. But Valmiki Ramayana tells Rama ruled Ayodhya 11000 years)

If Ram so obsessed with kingdom, then why he was ready to leave throne even though he had Right to get.
Dhasarath Maharaja never ordered him to go forest.Kaikeyi only informed Ram that as Dasaraths wish.Even though Dhasarath begged Ram to conquer him to take throne.Ram refused to do that.


Some may question Why Ram allowed lakshman to stay without wife. In real Ramayana Rama wanted lakshman to stay back in palace and take care kousalya but Lakshman only refused to leave him.Ram valued Lakshman relationship much. But He didn't utter single word when Lakshman decided to give his life for His brother's vow. Honestly, people accusing Ram did injustice to Sita on Raja dharma but if they read how Lakshman died, they can understand King Ram better how he kept his vow all time.




Ram loved sita much but he avoided to enter kishkinta to call sukriva.Because he took a vow not to enter city for 14 long years.He killed vaali (he didn't hit vaali behind. He killed vaali while vaali about to throw sukreeva.) Technically here vaali is right.


I don't think Ram is prefect always. Ram is a man who always got dilemma between big things. Be it abandoning sita,be it killing lakshman, be it leaving kingdom etc.. He showed all humans dilemma.but one thing is sure. I think His two quotes will make sense to understand his Character.

"My father ordered me to obey you. So I'm ready to fulfill your wish though it is a sin"
Rama to Vishwatra when he wanted Ram to kill thataka.

"When one was incapable to satisfy/obey visible father, mother and master, how can he fulfill invisible God's wishes. "


I think He is right. One's morals can't satisfy all.Ram words to Vishwamitra was so worthy when one who debating about Dharma. Ram also know killing a woman is such a sin. At same time, disrespecting father's wish also sin. Both are big sins in morality texts but when situations forced Ram to choose. He chosen what he felt and decided to face the consequences. He was ready to bear punishments for sin.


Ram is the one who listens his inner soul and kept move on without rethinking about decision. He honored his decisions though he suffered much at numerous circumstances.
That's his dharma. That's why he is maryada purshottama.

Well. There are numerous versions on Ramayana. That made easy to debate Rams eligibility. in fact there was a Tamil short novel called "neethi the van mayakkam" that highly accusing Ram character as antagonist. Day after day, I realized truth.Valmiki's Ram was maryada Purshottam by his actions.Kambar altered him for his Maryada Purshottam. Similarly, Tulasi das molded for his Maryada Purshottam. Every single author of Ramayana altered Ram actions for their own Maryada Purshottam respectively.then I concluded myself that Ram was not king of Ayodhya, not husband of Sita,not son of Dasarath.Ram is me,you,us.Ideal morals dwelled inside our mind is Ram.He is also like epic Ram. He believes his actions.Rather than accusing other's Ram,we should find our Ram and follow him. He will drive us on the Right path. He will guide us at all odds.

Some May feel I didn't tell Mata Sita name anywhere as I believing Ram only as ideal. It's not like that. You can't understand without explanation unless you have same enough knowledge. Mata Sita was the only person who never criticized Ram actions. She trusted, respected and loved her husband. She understood his actions and accepted those. Love on Sita only was Ram's moral support. You can't separate Sita from Ram, vice versa. They both proved the world trust and love are more important than physical togetherness.Rather than differentiating between them, find them in your mind and brain to realize a truth Moral and love both are inseparable

Beautiful post dear!

nice post, @ sussy, i agree with you. hum sab ke andar ram hain. par humare andar raavan bhi hain.

when he lied i wana know ?? i dont think he could lie ? each n every action is counted . and even if u do mistake for a mili second ur powers are lost like renuka mother of pashu ram ji lost ! and i agree that lord ram was ek patni vrat. could married hundreds and hundreds of woman but didnt and lived a life of hermit. he used to sleep on dry grass bed beside their bed on floor. and whole grass bed used to get wet due to tears caused by mata sita ji viyog separation. respect d chastity of such husband . i implore all.

I'm sorry I texted as he lied. but he supported Lying.and do you think I'm accusing Ram as bad husband. big no. I know how much he suffered after Sita Separation.

| || --46. dasharatha= Dasaratha;chukrosha=exclaimed saying;tishheti= "Stop!" raaghavaH = Rama;yaahiyaahi iti= "go on;proceed!" aatmaa= the mind;sumantrasya= of Sumantra;babhuuya= became;antaraa iva= as in between;chakrayoH= two whirl-pools.Dasaratha exclaimed saying "Stop!" while Rama called out "Go on, proceed!" (In that way) Sumantra's mind became confused, as in between two (opposing) whirl pools.Verse Locator | - || --47. raamaH= Rama;abraviit= said;tam= to him;iti= thus;vakshhyasi= "you can say;rajaanaam= to the king;naashraushhamiti= that you did not hear;upaalabdho.api= even when scolded;duHkham= (seeing) their gief;chiram= for a long tiem;paapishhTam= is a very wicked thing.Rama said to him: "You can say to the king that you did not hear (his call), even when scolded (later). seeing their grief for a long time is quite unbearbale."

what a post
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