Has Mishti been fake with Veer? - Page 8

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

My point is nowhere about cloths , all I wanted to say was about two very different side of mishti that veer has already witnessed and this is very natural to have question in mind.

I don't think its so odd so as to warrant a comment at all. Almost all of us change dresses according to the occassion- we wear formals for work, short dresses for partying, traditional with maybe the head covered for temples, more modest clothing on meeting elderly relatives. Its not such a drastic thing so as to trigger a questioning on why those particular clothes, in my opinion. He has seen her in all those avatars so suddenly questioning personal clothing choice would be weird

Originally posted by: Heisenberg23

I don't think its so odd so as to warrant a comment at all. Almost all of us change dresses according to the occassion- we wear formals for work, short dresses for partying, traditional with maybe the head covered for temples, more modest clothing on meeting elderly relatives. Its not such a drastic thing so as to trigger a questioning on why those particular clothes, in my opinion. He has seen her in all those avatars so suddenly questioning personal clothing choice would be weird

Being married and working woman I wear all type of cloths from maxi dress to mini dress but in front of my in laws or while visiting temple I never wear mini dresses due to my own mind set .

But I never do this outdated pallu thing in front of my in laws . Yes I don't prefer mini dresses but this pallu looks OTT as per mishti 's personality . My question is why veer never questions to mishti that she is not behaving as per her true personality in front of his family . If ansh pari ruhaan all can understand that mishti is not behaving as per her true personality in front of in laws then why can't veer?

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

I never meant anything about clothes while writing this comment. For me it's all about only mind set.

All I wanted to say was one side she is having free /modern mindset where being herself she enjoys party /dancing/work life etc and veer had seen her happy like that with his own eyes and other side that same girl thinks she should wear pallu in front of her in laws and these both mishti can't be real .

Why veer is not asking her that
" why you behave differently with my family by putting pallu on head because I have seen that mishti who is independent, modern and who can think this pallu thing is outdated but same mishti chooses to put pallu on head even after my family is not insisting it to do so being your would be husband it's my right to know that why I am witnessing two different mishti since the day I met you ".

Originally posted by: FruitToasty

Pallu is just a piece of clothing.

@Bold - So women who are modern don't put Pallu in head? Party, dancing, work life vs Pallu

Do you see the insignificance of it?

Veer has seen Mishti happy dancing so putting a pallu means she is not happy as women who put pallu in head don't dance? What kind of a comparison is this?

I didn't realize being modern was so frivolous that a person goes from modern to regressive by wearing a piece of clothing, it's just something which does not make sense to me, I don't believe in judging people for their clothes, I don't think clothes are reflection of progressive or regressive mindset. Clothes are insignificant to me..

Dancing, working, drinking alcohol does not make one modern, because women have been doing this since ages, a woman can wear a pallu and be modern, if I judge someone for wearing a pallu, I am giving them the right of calling me a s**t because THEY think women who wear skirt are s**ts. Clothes do not define character of a woman.

Its Mishti's wish, if she wants to wear a pallu, if she doesn't want it, she shouldn't wear it, none is forcing her to do so, why judge women who like wearing pallus as backwards? I don't get this narrow minded view of putting women in categories.

Pallu = Regressive

No Pallu = Progressive

I am still trying to understand how putting on a Pallu is changing someone's character. I live in a city and I cover my head everyday to travel due to pollution, When we go to Gurudwara covering head is mandatory. It's ultimately about choice of an individual, no?

About acting differently, how many people watch po*n but act like they don't know first thing about sex in front of their parents? So we are not presenting our "Real self" in front of our parents?

I also cover my head when I drive in sun light and I also cover my head while my temple visits .

Pallu on head definitely shows so many things. In rajasthan India so many marwadi Bahus have to do it in front of in laws whether they like it or not just to show respect . In gujarat/UP/MP India mostly today's woman doesn't like to put pallu on head just to prove that she has respect for in laws.

I am living in India and in India pallu is significant sign of having progressive or regressive in laws because here today's woman doesn't like to put pallu on head in front of in laws every day.

Mishti is living in mumbai India where women covers her face in local train , temples etc but here in Mumbai also today's working women have no time to put pallu on head in front of in laws and they definitely believes it outdated and orthodox thought where women needs to put palla on head just to prove she ha respect for elders .

My question is again same if ansh pari ruhaan all can understand that mishti is behaving differently and not according to her personality I front of in laws then why can't understand or ask mishti that " why you are behaving differently in front of my family when they are not expecting it from you ? If Your younger siblings ansh and pari can understand you behave differently in front of my parents so I also can understand that you are behaving differently and being your would be husband I wat to know reason".

@Tania

Mishty was not at a temple or any other place where she needed to cover her head...she was at home ..she could have met veers parents in the clothes she wears everyday ..but no she felt she had to dress up in an Indian outfit and cover her head because this is the image she wants to project to them,..and yes veers mom told her she doesn't need to do that.. so it's not about clothing being progressive or regressive ..etc. it's just about mishty feeling she needs to project this sort of image to her future in laws in order to get accepted. I think that's what the writers are trying to show us by giving us that scene. So yes in a way ...mishty is being fake with veer,.but in a actual fact it is because of the warped conception she has that you have to dress or behave in a certain way for you to be a good wife or daughter in law ...I think that's what they are trying to show us,.. mishtys misconceptions about marriage, and commitment and love ..the whole package,..that's why she's making such a mess of her life ...so even though she thought she was doing the right thing..she wasn't ..she needs to understand that her husband or the man who loves her truly will accept her just the way she is ,..she doesn't need to change in any way ...

Originally posted by: Indira1211

Mishty was not at a temple or any other place where she needed to cover her head...she was at home ..she could have met veers parents in the clothes she wears everyday ..but no she felt she had to dress up in an Indian outfit and cover her head because this is the image she wants to project to them,..and yes veers mom told her she doesn't need to do that.. so it's not about clothing being progressive or regressive ..etc. it's just about mishty feeling she needs to project this sort of image to her future in laws in order to get accepted. I think that's what the writers are trying to show us by giving us that scene. So yes in a way ...mishty is being fake with veer,.but in a actual fact it is because of the warped conception she has that you have to dress or behave in a certain way for you to be a good wife or daughter in law ...I think that's what they are trying to show us,.. mishtys misconceptions about marriage, and commitment and love ..the whole package,..that's why she's making such a mess of her life ...so even though she thought she was doing the right thing..she wasn't ..she needs to understand that her husband or the man who loves her truly will accept her just the way she is ,..she doesn't need to change in any way ...

Originally posted by: FruitToasty

In temple or at home, it is a choice of that particular individual, we can decide for ourselves only, why is wearing a Pallu regressive? That's what I am saying...

About Mishti, if Veer's mom already asked her not to cover her head, if Mishti does not like it so she should not do it.

Veer's mom didn't demand it so she not the one who is expecting Mishti to cover her head, Mishti is still doing it.

Why would Veer question her? Anyone would think that, it's her choice

yes but the problem here is with mishty herself and her misconceptions and insecurities...she feels she needs to behave in a certain way to have a successful marriage ,..which is false...so hopefully they will explain these insecurities of Mishty ..but I wonder when will this all happen,...there's like a little more than a month left of the show if they planed a 3 months show 😕

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Exactly ! I mean since the day they met , he has already witnessed how she is living with her family where kids drinks beer like water, loves to party , girls are financially independent and all in all having modern outlook at their home and that mishti who is independent, modern and smart May be not believe in outdated pallu things . And that mishti who he witnessed in front of his family is completely different then why he is never asking her that why I witness two different mishti in front of my family and your family?

There is nothing about cloths in my mind so please don't take it in wrong direction.

Veer doesn't interfere whn she wears mini, why would he interfere when she puts pallu? It's her OWN FREE WILL.

Mishti projected a different image for perfect life. Who is fake here? Veer asked her to? In fact I don't understand, did she project this fake image when they met? When they started dating? Matlab what, saw a bakra for perfect life and projected an image?
I don't even get how is veer at fault when it's HER who hides and lies and projects a false image.