'only' Nandini isn't a homebreaker. - Page 5

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

in a marriage counseling perspective, blaming the 3rd party actually doesn't solve or mend the relationship. from counselor's perspective, if a marriage has to be mended, the responsibility lies with the husband and wife because they are the two who got married. what the 3rd party did or did not do is not part of the consideration because to mend a relationship, it has to be the 2 of them. that is why only the husband and wife are called in. not even other family members like children, in-laws or parents ever go for these sessions and neither are their inputs taken.

both the spouses would need to put in lot of work but the one who cheated has to put in more as the trust has to be rebuilt. they have to acknowledge their wrongdoing, ask for apology and work on the issues that led them to taking those steps. with the spouse who got cheated, they have to forgive, heal as well as accept if there were behaviours/dynamic that may have contributed to the relationship breaking down. so from a counseling perspective, it is always and only the spouses who go in for these sessions. (this is all from what my cousin sister has shared with me and she works in the field)

now, am saying radhika is dysfunctional because she has never talked to her son. her talking to nandini is all good and expected as she knew nandini and she felt a breach of trust. so she can give all the lectures and hold nandini accountable for her actions. what is hard to digest for many of us is their attitude to kunal. he is not some 5 year old child. he is a grown man who has brains to think and function. where is his accountability for his actions?

episode after episode, I kept thinking that these women will sit down kunal and ask what happened. question his behaviour. fight with him. absolutely nothing. he was there for one month and they didn't do a single step towards mending the relationship between mauli and kunal. no communication. no finding out what happened. no sitting them down together or separately. instead mauli gets all the lectures. when there's issue in the house and one that is caused by her son's behaviour, as a mother, she needs to talk to her son no? what's so great about giving him 2 slaps in front of mauli but not actually talking to him? she is his mother. if the mother can't talk to her son, then isn't the family dysfunctional?

Originally posted by: Ruhi122

I guess nobody blaming Nandini alone. Ppl are hating Nandini n Kunal both.

Originally posted by: looseseal

But if marriage is matter of husband and wife why should even Radhika talk to him? Mouli is dysfunctional for being too perfect, Radhika is dysfunctional for not talking to him (what is she supposed to say that she already hasnt tbh), dida is dysfunctional for forcing M and K back together (this i agree with).

But what about K and N? According to you K and especially N live in a vaccum who has nothing to do with the situation and are infact victims of dysfunctional people around them. I disagree with this because: 1) she was very aware of what she was doing and more importantly to whom. 2) she was the part oft he dysfunctional famiily. so if dida and radhika have responsibility to talk to kunal, dont these very people also have the right to talk to Nandini?