'only' Nandini isn't a homebreaker. - Page 4

Originally posted by: Feynmann

Thank u for reminding me that this post is about nandini.

Ofc there are posts on Kunal bt the intensity of posts of nandini ND the words used in them only shows that the TM is dealing with that kind of person in real life.

I would suggest to make a poll on whom do u hate most?Kunal or nandini ND I think the result will answer your question.

Originally posted by: White..Magic

Because Nandini was not any X, Y, Z woman or any random chic walking on street who started an affair with a married man. She was bestie of wife who was cheated.

Logically there was no issue in Mauli-Kunal marriage, even if we put logic aside and assume that there must be some issue, still one sided love exist, but there is no 'One sided friendship' concept. Somewhere 'love' and 'lust' are dependent on physical requirements, but frienship is all about trust and mutual understanding. Here target is not Nandini- the woman, but Nandini- kala dhabba on friendship.

There are many post on 'There must be something lacking in Mauli-kunal marriage' but no one has idea about what was that 'somethin'? Lets put logic aside for a moment and assume there was indeed something missing in that marriage which forced kunal to start bang leela... but what was lacking in Mauli's friendship which made Nandini cheat on her in such pathetic way?

And if targetting tabla naari is mentality of regressive society, then acting as advocate of a mistress and putting more blame on man and finding faults in victim is feminazi mentality of so called progressive society. Kunal didn't ask her to accept his proposal on gun point.

Originally posted by: ButterflyChaser

EDIT : Here in below post.. I am not saying that we forum people do not find Kunal and Nandini both at equal fault... I just want Radhika to say same things to Kunal too. I feel the reel people of the show doesn't blame Kunal enough. I want him to suffer too.

I know everyone is loving Radhika's dialogue and appreciating her it. But I guess I am the only one who doesn't agree with her. Why is everyone finding only Nandini at fault.. No, m not saying Nandini is not wrong but she is as much wrong as Kunal is. Why is only she being held as responsible one for breaking a house?

Nandini isn't a home breaker. Kunal is. Nandini is at fault for betraying her friend. She is responsible for breaking their friendship and hurting Mauli but it was Kunal who chose extramarital affair over his marriage. It was he, who forgot his seven vows and broke wife's trust. Why is only Nandini being called names?

Why is it that Radhika feels it's Nandini's magic that Kunal doesn't care abt his wife, family or unborn child? Why can't the dialogue be like Kunal has lost his mind and not caring about them? Why doesn't she confront Kunal? Why did she curse Nandin but ready to accept Kunal back in Mauli's life? Why dint she curse Kunal to never get happiness or love or child in his life?

My question is simply to the society that when two persons are committing a crime then why is female considered as wrong and being punished while a man goes scot free.

Originally posted by: ButterflyChaser

Yep, it was Nandini's responsibility to inform Mauli about that. But won't that break Mauli's home? I mean after knowing that ur husband is lusting after ur best friend, You would have left him. So, by that rule.. Nandini would have been a home breaker again.

Nandini is the worst friend anyone could have. But Kunal is the worst husband and all I am saying is it's a couple's responsibility to make their relationship work and not someone else's is. If Mauli had an affair with someone than would we have call that guy a home breaker? No.. Becoz for society, only a woman is a homewrecker.

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

@bold -- the reason is men don't blame the other man but blame their wife instead for the most part. also, there's a sense of shame and rejection and so the wife is more likely to be the focus of their anger and anguish. thats probably why we never hear of guys being called a "home breaker"...

but just to add to my previous post (I have family who work as mental health professionals), from a counseling perspective, the 3rd party is never called in. only the husband and wife. it does not matter if it is the husband or the wife who cheated but both need counseling alone as well as together in order to mend the relationship and go forward. sometimes, it works and sometimes it doesn't. so from that perspective as well, it is ridiculous that nandini alone gets the blame and mauli alone gets the responsibility of fixing this problem. thats not how it actually works when it comes to mending a broken relationship.

Originally posted by: looseseal

But in this the 3rd party was a practically family member. If a man cheated on his wife with her sister, wouldnt the sisters also need to talk and express anger and guilt respectively? Wouldnt other family members call out the sister who cheated on her own sister? Or do families just pretend that sister had no.part to play because ultimately she was the one married?

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

from a counseling perspective in a clinical setting, thats not at all how it works. only the couple would be called because thats the two people in the marriage. it wouldn't technically matter who the 3rd party was because the way counselors approach the matter is very different. also, from what my cousin sister told me, the onus of responsibility to make amends lie with the spouse who cheated. so kunal is the one who should be apologizing. also, most people go in for marriage counseling pretty much too late in India according to counselors and so the process can be a real uphill battle.

from a family perspective, radhika can give all the lectures to nandini that she wants but at the end of the day, it is her son who stepped out of the house and she doesn't have the guts to call him out or lecture him. instead they celebrate festivals and pretend all is well in front of other people when it is not. highly dysfunctional to say the least. showcases super bad parenting that she is happy to blame others but will not blame her own son.

Originally posted by: White..Magic

Because Nandini was not any X, Y, Z woman or any random chic walking on street who started an affair with a married man. She was bestie of wife who was cheated.

Logically there was no issue in Mauli-Kunal marriage, even if we put logic aside and assume that there must be some issue, still one sided love exist, but there is no 'One sided friendship' concept. Somewhere 'love' and 'lust' are dependent on physical requirements, but frienship is all about trust and mutual understanding. Here target is not Nandini- the woman, but Nandini- kala dhabba on friendship.

There are many post on 'There must be something lacking in Mauli-kunal marriage' but no one has idea about what was that 'somethin'? Lets put logic aside for a moment and assume there was indeed something missing in that marriage which forced kunal to start bang leela... but what was lacking in Mauli's friendship which made Nandini cheat on her in such pathetic way?

And if targetting tabla naari is mentality of regressive society, then acting as advocate of a mistress and putting more blame on man and finding faults in victim is feminazi mentality of so called progressive society. Kunal didn't ask her to accept his proposal on gun point.

Originally posted by: looseseal

But she did blame him. She has never once said Nandini stole him from Mouli (if she has please refer me to the episode). If you are saying she cannot say anything to Nandini at all then its other thing. But to insist that somehow Nandini has absolutely no role in this and this is all Kunals doing is very biased. You are sayinfg radhika, dida, mouli, kunal are dysfunctional for not talking but what about nandini? Wasnt she part of family, wasnt she the bff, so why are you again turning around and saying radhika is being dysfunctional for demanding answers? y