Nandhini is not rape victim - Page 2

^^this internalizing or normalizing could have consequences,right?even leading to some kind of exploding or imploding or breakingdown?

Originally posted by: Saazhumsafars

^^this internalizing or normalizing could have consequences,right?even leading to some kind of exploding or imploding or breakingdown?

Yes. But, it need not always be a breakdown, it could be a gradual destruction of your sense of self. There could be behavioral changes that could manifest in many different ways, affecting every other aspect of your life. It could push you to depression, substance abuse, other psychological issues etc.

Not supporting rape of any type but I think the TM is referring to Indian law which does not recognize marital rape. Meaning no punishment for it. If I remember there was a recent judgment by court of law to this extent. As cringeworthy as it is.

Originally posted by: VARUNI2014

Stop saying nandhini us a rape victim .she is NOT there us a reason why marital rape is not considered rape in many countries ..it's a GREY Area

Trauma in marital rape us different and less compared to brutal gang rape like nirbhaya or child rapes

So don't consider nandhini as rape victim

@SummerRain7 oh.Thank you.Now I am thinking about a woman I know who goes through something like this and trying to compare her dynamics with her husband(whatever I know about or have been told about) to that of nandini with rajdeep.

Originally posted by: SummerRain7

Rape is rape, marital or otherwise. Even if the victim is not showing outward signs of trauma, it does not make the act consensual. A lot of abused people just internalize and normalize the abuse, with the result that they appear normal to everybody.

Also, TM , you are free to think and express your opinion here but please do NOT tell people what to think or do.

For your information, Any kind of Rape is Rape.

A rape is a rape, PERIOD. The difference between the two kinds is that a woman (or a man!) of a marital rape has an option to stand up for herself and fight back in a regularly abusive relationship and leave. However, the pain and agony are just as much for a married woman than a normal woman. Yes, one may say that the person gets 'used' to the torture and does not have trauma in comparison to a 'regular' rape victim - however, it is much different.

Marital rape may at times be more horrendous than let's say regular rape because the person who is raping is someone who you and your family have entrusted your life to and you believed in this person, loved this person and they cheated you (like in case of Nandini). While in a 'regular' rape (if only done once) you feel the same pain and torture, but you go through it once and you are not broken by someone you know and believe in. It's more physical while the other one is both physical and emotional.

And let's not bring Nirbhaya and Asifa to define 'rapes' - that are brutal murders and heinous crimes that are way worse than rape. They are done by inhumane people who have pathetic lives! Sexual satisfaction is one thing but what was done with these young girls was barbaric and the idea of a twisted sick mind.

Just because Indian law has taken a regressive stand doesnt mean that Marital Rape is not rape. Yes Marital rape is difficult to prove that is why it is a grey area !! But in this show where it is clearly shown with no doubt that Rajdeep was forcing himself on Bandini, I dont know how anyone can say she was not raped ... unless of course you puposely want that part gone so you can burn the witch'.

This is one of the most ignorant and silliest post I have come across- aren't you lucky that a social media platform allows your misguided thoughts to be opined?

Any kind of sexual relations where one party is not consenting is RAPE!!!!!! PERIOD!!!!!! Indian laws are archiac and regressive that's why they do not recognise martial rape as a criminal offence. The other countries you speak of will cut a person's hand for stealing so that's not much to hold in terms of examples.

Developed first world countries define this perfectly- even sex workers mid sex can say no and that's it. Anything beyond that is rape. Some people enjoy being dominated and role play, which is fine. Two consenting adults can do what they want but when stops that consent then it's rape.

Rape can take away a person's confidence, being raped by s stranger is horrifying but imagine your own husband raping you? You have to live with your rapist - that's worse than anything.