Understanding Nandini - Page 4

Originally posted by: rhondasa

I haven't watched all the beginning episodes, but i thought the CVs wanted to portray Nandini as a loving, innocent and sweet girl. Someone easily manipulated and very naive.

If Nandini was never married to Rajdeep and never suffered any abuse, and Kunal her best friends husband who has helped her out on many occasions,who she greatly admires professes his undying love to her would she have ever accepted. I dont think so. I think CVs are trying to justify her compliance to this affair by showing her as a victim of abuse. I could be wrong too the CVs might be using the whole abuse angle as a plot point, to somehow get Nandini into Maulis house or to up the drama quotient whenever it suits them.

Now coming to Nandini,I think she is not okay or atleast should not be okay, she seems to have locked up all the memories of her abuse and trauma somewhere deep inside her. To others as well as herself she seems to be coping well but i think its a facade.I have read that dissociation is one of the aftermath of abuse. Sometime i feel she is almost hysterical and her emotions are all over the place. She has no sense of self and is thanking god for giving her a married mans affection. Its like she thinks thats all she deserves and will get. Maybe she is finding both an escape and purpose in kunal. She knows she is doing wrong, but now she is beyond caring. Actually i find Kunal quite despicable. Your wife's best friend just came out of an abusive marriage and all you are concerned is about unburdening your attraction onto her. What she needs right now is not your ''self claimed pure love'' but therapy and healing.

And last but not the least, Mauli does not deserve to be cheated by both of them. But maybe this will open her eyes to what a detestable person Kunal is,and get rid of both of them forever.She will come out much stronger and a lot wiser.

Originally posted by: anmirza

As one the other person mentioned I also agree with this!

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I think deep down she is not a very nice & loving person. She may not be doing it intentionally. For eg she might not ve entered Mauli's house with the intention of grabbing her hubby. But once she liked him she dint think twice before taking him. Caring is not all about just cooking or maintaining a beautiful house. For eg if Kunal is facing a financial or professional crises, I doubt if Nandini will be able to give him the moral & physical support. She is by nature a taker not a giver. She takes help, she takes support, she takes sympathy. But I ve not seen her give help or support or sympathy to any1. Even in the park if she really understood Kunal's conflict she could ve just talked for a few seconds & left giving an excuse. Instead she manipulated him.

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There are certain things that I don't agree with though. I don't think her not letting Rajdeep rape her was because of her desire for Kunal but it's because she hates him and technically isn't his wife anymore so she isn't obligated to do anything for him! People might allow marital rape but why would anyone allow rape otherwise?
Secondly I don't think she's childlike, she's one of those demented selfish people who choose to act however they please in any given situation because they're manipulative!

Lastly whether I agree with the whole thought process or not 😆 I honestly feel that you and a lot of other people who are far more intelligent than the cvs give cvs too much undue credit because I am sure after wasting my time on a lot of soaps 😆 CVs don't even put in half as much effort as people believe they do! A few days into the show it usually seems like the character wasn't even properly sketched and Nandani is no different!!!! Honestly any sane person who's had the support of a selfless friend who's gone above n beyond would never dare hurt them even unconsciously and here she's suddenly become immune to any sense of good and bad like wow!!! I see people trying to read through the characters and supposed symbolism that's nonexistent all the time because general viewers are far more intelligent than the the actual creatives because if they had put in any thought into character development, soaps would really be different and intelligent in their approach! They did take a risk here and it would've been worth it had they not glorified the cheating characters, shown extramarital affairs as some divine intervention and weren't just about to project them as a meant to be couple disregarding every wrong that they've done!

Originally posted by: A4Anjie

may be...cvs didnt show all shades of her character...

probably she turned into a psycho...who do NOT want any couple around her happy... so taking away mauli's life...with smile on face...

that may be the reason for all of those cry baby acts...to get sympathy ...and kun with it

Originally posted by: ..silverlotus..

Good analysis. But I can't agree with the point that she is childlike. She is more like selfish and immune to what happened/happens. Like you said she is a survivor and stopped caring when she was abused and started to live like a zombie. And when she got out of that hell life she started to taste life as it comes. Now she is comfortable and happy and she found a new admirer whom she accepted. Like someone pointed out she protested when her husband was doing the same so she knows it is wrong unlike a child who doesn't know they are wrong but she still does it.

And regarding Kunal I feel the same he fell for her outer beauty I think he will be tired of her after sometime.

Originally posted by: Angels11

Exactly. Don't you feel something unreal about her, like it's all a facade. And no I am not saying this because she is betraying mauli. Even before that where 1 moment Raj is raping her and another moment she wants to please him by cooking his favorite dishes. In real life an abuse victim will not say Chalo I ruined his party so let me manaofy my abuser hubby. In real life they will be scared and terrified of the possible beatings and will do anything to avoid it. They don't want to please. .They want to survive.

Nandini is seriously messed up and needs therapy and psychiatric help. I am surprised being doctors Kunal and mauli have not suggested therapy

Originally posted by: pamk06

Sorry but I disagree with this statement. In real life too, victims live to please. I have seen victims who are beaten black and blue the day before, and the next day they put three layers of makeup and go about their life as if nothing is happened. Their only aim is to please their abuser, doing everything that he wants and hoping that one day he will change. That becomes their aim in life. Infact they think it's their fault hence they are beaten. Thus, it very difficult for an person who is abused to break free from their abuser. One sign from him that he will change, and they will go running back. Only those who have faced a very traumatic experience and a strong will power can break free from their abuser and have the guts to face him in future.

Originally posted by: Angels11

Children r extremely selfish & manipulative. Only diff is at tat age they dont realize it & dont think its wrong 😆 You s'd c the way my daughter manipulates my hubby. As a mother I see thru it, so she doesn't it try it with me esp coz she knows I am a non nonsense person 😆 Its the responsibility of the parents as part of their upbringing to keep inculcating values, morals & ethics. For eg my kid initially used 2 like only fair, good looking, well dressed people. To her immature mind Beauty = Good, Ugly = Bad. Now she knows better & gets on well with every1.

Yeah sometimes v imagine things too much. I remember wen i was in IPK1 forum there used 2 b posts aft posts bt symbolism, imagery etc. And we used 2 laugh at ourselves saying v overthink these stuff & the CVs must b having a good laugh reading all this stuff 😃

Originally posted by: anmirza

Yes children are selfish and manipulative but they are innocent and Nandini is anything and everything but innocent! I can't really list all the adjectives that deem fit for her because they don't follow the code of conduct of the forum so I'd refrain from it!
Honestly I don't think I've ever harbored as much disliking for any other fictional female character as I have for her! She's beyond redemption for me and not just her but Kunal as well!