Is Mauli right in making decisions for Kunal? - Page 10

Originally posted by: sarah-99

There are two things I really want to indicate. Firstly who says that Mauliis a perfect wife and can anyone tell me what is the requirement of the perfect wife.

A perfect wife is a woman who cares for a husband by cooking for him, caring for him, respect him and making decisions with him and fulfils his physical desire and gives him emotional support than lastly gives him financial support.😛

Mauli is blessed to have in-laws like Kunal's family and we all know not all in-laws are lovey-dovey. She hardly cooks and does housework because she is a doctor and never discuss her issue with Kunal and she does not like to show her weakness.

Kunal is not a childish or immature, Mauli does not understand her own husband. It was foreseeable that Kunal will fall out of love due to her negligence. His friend foresees it before Nandini appears in his life👏

Some of Mauli's support will say that she strong lady and it is ok to not show weakness but weakness and struggles are the things which help you to bond with your loved ones.😡

There is no justification for cheating your spouse but as marriage is created by two people, cheating as well has to do with two people who are equally in fault.

some might challenge me by saying what was Nandini's fault for Rajdeep to cheat on her, Nandini did not respect herself and if you don't respect yourself no one will respect you. So, after all, it is her fault to not put Rajdeep in his place.😛

The last thing I want to discuss Kunal falls in love with Nandini because of her rain dance oh seriously.😉

Nandini was in Kunal's mind and thought before he even met her because of Mauli. She talked about her day and night and she showered her with a compliment. Kunal become Nandini's supporter and saviour, he saw Nandini's weakness and her struggles, he had to become her pillar and the shoulder which she cries on. Kunal did not fall in love out of blue and he spends quality time with her and became her friend. Nandini fulfilled the gaps in Kunal's empty relationship. The rainy dance was a trigger to his unconscious mind to give him a signal to wake up his conscious mind that his attracted to Nandini. it was a turning point for him to realise that he has developed feelings for Nandini thanks to Mauli contributions.👏

Who says that Mauli and Kunal's relationship was perfect before Nandini. In that case, I am not watching the same drama as you. There were unspoken and underline issue that would threaten any marriage. Due to Mauli's long schedule and overload works, Kunal was longing for physical connection even his grandmother knew that hardly had any physical connection. She pushed Kunal away and she always gets Kunal and Nandini together. As a woman, you don't talk about a friend to your husband day and night and talk about her beauty. Sweety also criticised Mauli's action by making her husband spend time with Nandini. I am not justifying Kunal's action at all but there is always two side of the story😃

Who says Mauli is perfect
Perfect wife is a joke
Kunal must tell the truth to Mauli that his fantacies about Nandini
Nandini must tell her tears & heart ache for Kunal
Get divorce and move on with thier life .

See intially Mauli will be heart broken late she should be fine
It is better not to have a husband like Kunal

The problem starts when people want to

Justify ... Why
What and who is wrong
... Who is not perfect kind of thing


Other wiman is other woman but people choose that
But when some one stabs you from behind it is even more painful
So tell Mauli , move on !!!
It is kind of "funny"
The justification

Originally posted by: Rosh4rose

They are married couple , Kunal wanted children
It was Mauli who wanted to wait because of professional ambitions
It is not like she is cheating Kunal!!!!
Little do she know that Kunal's love for her is changed or he is lost in her best buddy

Mauli shouldn't have taken other lady home
Shouldn't have asked hubby to help her !
One must give total dedication to marriage, if so no beauty , dance or cooking will infactuate that person

I am not talking about Indian case
See Princess Diana still rules people's heart because she was a victim of her husband & soul mate
Have to face it ,
It is what they get ...
Other woman always get that title
Want to justfy is another reason

When we point one finger at Mauli other four fingers turn opposite

Originally posted by: sarah-99

There are two things I really want to indicate. Firstly who says that Mauli

Who says that Mauli and Kunal's relationship was perfect before Nandini. In that case, I am not watching the same drama as you. There were unspoken and underline issue that would threaten any marriage. Due to Mauli's long schedule and overload works, Kunal was longing for physical connection even his grandmother knew that hardly had any physical connection. She pushed Kunal away and she always gets Kunal and Nandini together. As a woman, you don't talk about a friend to your husband day and night and talk about her beauty. Sweety also criticised Mauli's action by making her husband spend time with Nandini. I am not justifying Kunal's action at all but there is always two side of the story😃

Originally posted by: _charu_

Mauli and kunals relationship was perfect because there was an unsaid understanding between them . If mauli ignored her household.duties for her career, she was supported by kunal and her in laws . And only in this scenario can the woman try to balance between these two roles. Her mother also pointed out that she will lose out on a lot of things due to this ..So what ? Nobody's life is perfect and it's easier said than done to balance (working women will understand my point). However that doesn't mean that kunal got a free pass to have ema. Kunal loved mauli for what she is and vice versa. If the CVS also show that due to maulis nature / not taking interest in the chores kunal fell for nandini then it's regressive and abs untrue . It happened because kunal is an ***h****.

Originally posted by: Pari117

I think the things are exaggerated too much here. I agree on this that Mauli has some imperfections which can't be the reason which makes her husband cheat on her etc. But my point is, is Kunal blaming Mauli anywhere? He is just fighting over his feelings and realizes that what he is doing is wrong. He might win over his feeling or might break down. EMA means knowing that it is wrong yet getting too far with it. You cant tag it EMA because both realizes their fault and want to get over it.

I am just wondering if Kunan do get together eventually and if once again Kunal falls for another innocent beauty, how will it be justified.

I would have prefer mauli would have discuss about surgery to Kunal because family planning decision cannot taken by one person
because in family planning mother and father both r involved so Kunal need to know about surgery

Originally posted by: sarah-99

There are two things I really want to indicate. Firstly who says that Mauli is a perfect wife and can anyone tell me what is the requirement of the perfect wife.

A perfect wife is a woman who cares for a husband by cooking for him, caring for him, respect him and making decisions with him and fulfils his physical desire and gives him emotional support than lastly gives him financial support. 😛

Mauli is blessed to have in-laws like Kunal's family and we all know not all in-laws are lovey-dovey. She hardly cooks and does housework because she is a doctor and never discuss her issue with Kunal and she does not like to show her weakness.

Kunal is not a childish or immature, Mauli does not understand her own husband. It was foreseeable that Kunal will fall out of love due to her negligence. His friend foresees it before Nandini appears in his life👏

Some of Mauli's support will say that she strong lady and it is ok to not show weakness but weakness and struggles are the things which help you to bond with your loved ones. 😡

There is no justification for cheating your spouse but as marriage is created by two people, cheating as well has to do with two people who are equally in fault.

some might challenge me by saying what was Nandini's fault for Rajdeep to cheat on her, Nandini did not respect herself and if you don't respect yourself no one will respect you. So, after all, it is her fault to not put Rajdeep in his place.😛

The last thing I want to discuss Kunal falls in love with Nandini because of her rain dance oh seriously.😉

Nandini was in Kunal's mind and thought before he even met her because of Mauli. She talked about her day and night and she showered her with a compliment. Kunal become Nandini's supporter and saviour, he saw Nandini's weakness and her struggles, he had to become her pillar and the shoulder which she cries on. Kunal did not fall in love out of blue and he spends quality time with her and became her friend. Nandini fulfilled the gaps in Kunal's empty relationship. The rainy dance was a trigger to his unconscious mind to give him a signal to wake up his conscious mind that his attracted to Nandini. it was a turning point for him to realise that he has developed feelings for Nandini thanks to Mauli contributions. 👏

Who says that Mauli and Kunal's relationship was perfect before Nandini. In that case, I am not watching the same drama as you. There were unspoken and underline issue that would threaten any marriage. Due to Mauli's long schedule and overload works, Kunal was longing for physical connection even his grandmother knew that hardly had any physical connection. She pushed Kunal away and she always gets Kunal and Nandini together. As a woman, you don't talk about a friend to your husband day and night and talk about her beauty. Sweety also criticised Mauli's action by making her husband spend time with Nandini. I am not justifying Kunal's action at all but there is always two side of the story😃

The intent of this thread was to discuss the dynamics of Kunal-Mauli's relationship as a stand alone, and not to rake up any issues they may have and use them to justify Kunal's straying. So a word to the TM - please excuse me for responding to this post.

@sarah-99 The definition of a perfect wife/husband is very subjective in nature and will differ from person to person. So I don't see any point in debating over that.

But we can certainly talk about compatibility. And from what the makers have shown us so far, I don't think Kunal-Mauli are incompatible. They issues they were shown to have are regular issues that are faced by most working couples in this day age. If Mauli had not been able to give sufficient time to Kunal, then Kunal was also show as an understanding and supportive husband keeping aside the temporary disappointment that he may have had. As individuals and as couples they have professional and personal aspirations, so it's only natural that they make adjustments and sacrifices as required. And makers have shown Kunal and Mauli as couples who understand this and who does whatever is needed to get themselves through this phase. In fact, they have shown Kunal as this really loving and progressive man who happily and whole-heartedly celebrates his wife's achievements. They even made him a mouth piece of feminism. So I am not sure when and where the things that you have listed in your post appeared from and when did those problems become so complex and unsolvable that they are now threatening to break their marriage? I'd have agreed with you, had the makers actually shown Kunal being unhappy in the marriage. But sorry to say, the makers have only shown us a happy picture of their marriage till now.

The way I see it, Kunal is attracted to certain aspects of Nandini's personality, apart from her physical beauty. Some aspects that are polar opposite to his wife's. So it could be the novelty of it all that he finds fascinating and also the possibility that Nandini also has similar feelings towards him. In the real world too it does happen. People with loving and loyal partners do get gravitated towards other people for certain qualities, but I don't see why their current partners have to take a share of the blame for that.

However, one thing that I do agree with you is about Mauli's constant Nandini jaap and her pushing Kunal to get involved in every aspect of Nandini's life. Keeping aside the fact that Kunal can always say NO, it is an annoying behaviour and one that most likely will not happen in the real world. I call it extremely weak and lame writing, because from the beginning the makers are trying hard to sell Kunal and Nandini as a couple to the audience. They are failing to give us a convincing, relatable story. Instead, they are giving us mandir-baba-destiny gimmicks to convince us that Kunal-Nandini are meant to be. And Mauli pushing Nandini towards Kunal is part of the same effort to somehow absolve KuNan of any blame, if they are to get seriously involved in the future. My question to the makers would be why pick a controversial topic, when you can't show it as it is? Why this constant effort to sugar-coat it ?

Can't believe what I am reading. Blaming EMA on Mouli and finding all kinds of faults in her which don't even make sense and just grasping at straws to victim blaming to justify two disgusting characters having EMA 👎🏼

Kunal is a douchebag who treats his marriage as a burden, a mere responsibility and likes to pretend in front of his wife that he's irrevocably in love with her. He never tried to make his marriage better but rather chose to give in to all his wife's whims and fancies while giving her fake love assurances & the false idea that everything is going great. And the moment he found someone who is everything that he wanted in Mauli, he's like Ohh f**k my wife, I want this new chick.

Couldn't he open up his mouth for once and tell Mauli that her over enthusiastic nature of trying to fulfill everyone's dreams is not going down well with him? Couldn't he tell Mauli that he's feeling disconnected with her coz she's always working? Couldn't he make it clear to Mauli that he's feeling like the marriage is turning into a farz for him & they need to work on it?

Communication has been a big issue with this couple right from the start. Especially from Kunal's side. According to Mauli, everything is perfect because her husband gives her this idea. She is not a romantic person and so far has been ignorant of the fact that her husband is slowly drifting away from her. She is busy in her own world to notice. Kunal is the emotional one. He was the one who could see the cracks developing in their marriage and yet did nothing. Mauli makes mistakes, hides things from him, and he still has this facade going on that everything is fantastic from his side apart from some minor inconveniences. This encourages Mauli to make more mistakes since her husband says nothing! Couldn't he for once be a man and tell his woman that she needs to calm down and put the brakes on being Miss I'll do it all?

If he would have just told Mauli about his feelings, his unhappiness, the times she disappointed him, the times he felt left out, she surely would have paid attention. She is not the kind that would have disregarded her husband's concerns about their 'failing' marriage. They could have had sought a marriage counsellor or worked out on the issues. Rather Kunal chose not to communicate with his wife. Even now he can tell Mauli that he's getting attracted to her friend and together they can figure out a way to deal with this situation.