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Note: I changed the title of the post as the usage of the word 'perfect' was subjective on my part but was objectively interpreted by many members. I have now used a more fitting title.
Before Mauli supporters bash me for criticizing her, I'd like to clarify a few things. I agree that Kunal isn't being a good husband at the moment, and definitely a worse spouse than Mauli. Also, I'm not trying to justify KuNan. I am trying to analyze Mauli and Kunal's marriage as a standalone thing, without the involvement of a third person. I am trying to understand their original equation before Nandini entered their lives. Specifically, I am trying to understand Mauli's perception of her role as a wife.
If you cannot understand this perspective, kindly refrain from reading the rest of this post or replying to it by highlighting that Kunal is cheating on Mauli, so nothing she is doing is wrong.
Firstly, about setting up Kunal's clinic. A person's ambition is a very personal thing. It is something that they want to achieve for themselves as an individual. It is a dream they've been seeing since forever and they want to work hard towards achieving it. Let us take the case of a husband's dream. If the wife wants to, she can do whatever is in her capacity to help her husband fulfil his dream and even at times make sacrifices. There might come a time when his dream becomes their dream. In that case, they can work like a team to achieve it. But gift-wrapping the dream with her own ideas or with what she thinks he'll like, without giving him a whiff, forget about taking his inputs, is like snatching away a huge chunk of the dream from him. Mauli is depriving Kunal of his right to walk on the path that will lead him to achieve his dream. She's paving a road with materials that she thinks he will like, but who knows if he will? And even if he does, will he like the fact that he didn't get to toil for or play a part in his dream? Will it not hurt his ego and self-respect, and make him think that his wife doesn't believe in him? I do not think Mauli should have gone as far as setting up the clinic for him. Maybe buying the land was enough. Whatever she's doing is with good intentions, but she's taking it a bit too far; she is taking control of her husband's biggest dream, when she should instead stand by his side as his strength and support, and let him pave the path towards his dream on his own. A husband and a wife are both individuals with their own personal space, which neither one should invade.
Secondly, about stopping birth-control. I don't think I should even elaborate on this. Having children is a couple's joint decision; Mauli cannot take that decision for both of them in the name of giving Kunal a surprise. Just because he always wanted to be a dad in the past doesn't mean that he is ready in the present as well. People have a change of heart (again I'm not talking about Nandini), and having a child is a huge decision. This is another example of Mauli taking control of the next phase in her and Kunal's marriage without his knowledge.
Mauli is a very caring and nice person, but it seems like she considers herself the more mature one in the marriage and Kunal the more childlike one, probably because he's impulsive. I am not saying that this is wrong, because it seems to have worked out for them so far. But is this something that can work out in the long run? In addition to being childlike, Kunal is also very sensitive. While Mauli is the perfect caregiver, there is a very thin line between too much care and taking control. And to me, in the recent past, she has already crossed the line twice. Kunal is bound to be affected by it eventually. For all you know, similar things have hurt him and put cracks in their relationship in the past too.
We've obviously seen the flaws in Rajdeep, Kunal, and Nandini. Now, I'm starting to see flaws in Mauli too. I used to think - She can't be that good a wife. And now I know she isn't. Her best characteristic itself is her flaw - caring too much for her husband and not knowing where to draw the line, taking control of his dreams and their marriage in the process. I'm really impressed with how subtly the makers are bringing this across. I'm sure it'll become more prominent in the future, but seriously, kudos!
Once again, please comment on this post only if you can view things from Mauli's perspective and her marriage with Kunal as a standalone thing, without Nandini in the picture. Kindly abstain from posting comments surrounding the topic that Kunal is cheating on Mauli. We have more than enough posts on that topic.
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