Decoding Kusum - Page 2

Originally posted by: pasumarthisa

Agree on what u said on how to deal with these girls in the last paragraph .

But, she was not the carefree girl. Actually in the beginning she was more sensible than kumud. She judged saras correctly n asked kumud to view him without prejudices. She was always supportive n gentle as opposed to the sharp n gusse wali kumud. They changed her beyond recognition once kumud got married.

i said carefree coz she was always talking without thinking and often ended up speaking wrong words at crucial times.

Well yes Kusum did pull the rains of her didi when she rode her attitude horses highbut i disagree she was more sensible.Yes she did appear to be sensible at point when kumud decided to close her eyes for saras .Not that she did not understand him but coz she did not want herself to meddle in deep waters which she did finally.


why i say this later when kumud opened her eyes for saras , i fond kusum failing every now and then may be coz writer did not care much of her character at that time and now she has been turned into a stubborn little sister of kumud and spoilt child of house which she never was initially

Originally posted by: Ad_Mumbai_Girl

When I started reading the post, I confess, I had almost decided not to like it. But you have written it pretty logically.
It has come out as a Good post Shana.

Kusum character sketch could have been far more descent and believable if CVs would not have show cased her as Meera, If actor had shown some depth in acting, rather than limiting oneself to making cry faces (my personal opinion) and if her mom would have shown better sense in handling her and her situation.

but sadly it is all in IFs and BUTs. none of the above happened. so now we can not stop detesting her to the point of no return.

agree her character was killed from the day she proclaimed herself as meera for her infactuation which she considered love.She got blinded in her love and lost the sanity to diffrentiate the reality and dream.

Slowly her obsession took over her and she started thinking whatever she feels and things is real .This happens when u get too much into urself and start disconnecting with people around u.same has happened with kusum. She has always depended on others for support her elder sister was her support which she lost after her marraige and so she stated searching it in other forms like by being brave and grown up like her didi and trying to make things right for her didi like her didi did for others and in this process she subconscisly started liking saras who was so very much like her didi and yet so much in love with her elder sister.

Frankly speaking i still find kusum very much identifieable .i feel like she does not hate kumud .its just that she is blinded by her obsession and does not know what is right what is wrong.

OMG!!! i was so waiting for someone to post something like this and you did 🤗

Shana how can saras talk to him? The situation is too awkward. He looks up and she is gawping at him which makes his realise that she isn't over him at all.

This isn't a high school crush that she has on saras. She tried to kill herself bcos she felt she can't live without him n saras knows that. It's awkward and yet the last thing he would want to do is break her heart even more by saying I don't love you back...she knows it but by him saying it will be rubbing salt on her wounds.

N more than that it's sooo awkward. It's such a natural reaction. I have been in a situation where a friend has liked me n I haven't liked him back n I didn't talk to him for months n even now we are just civil cos it's too weird. Your whole equation changes n you can't act like nothing has happened.

It was a much needed post of course coz everyone started hating Kusum...

Originally posted by: indrani_chaudh

lovely post shana...but how will anybody explain a girl of sanskar jumpimg with joy wen her sister comes and tells her that she is breaking her and her beau's heart and forcing him to marry her instead? a girl with an iota of conscience, a girl who has grown up idolizing her sister may hav felt suffocated to say a "no" if offered with this proposition...but she couldnt have jumped with joy nor give that "ehsaan" wala dialogue during bidai!😕 even an utterly indecent person wud have felt a pang of sorrow to see such a relation as Samud's break...its ok if every1 cant be a duty doll...but jumping with joy wen u could literally hear the breaking of hearts...that too of your own sister and the person u claim to love...is inexplicable at the mildest and sick if admitted truthfully! the consistency in her character has gone shana...there is just no way to explain that😭

YES you are more than right to observe that if such a namooni gets born in some ill fated house...the best treatment for her is a stable minded advice and not a half-mad elder sister who thinks donating off everything that is hers can solve every problem under the sun. You are very very correct about that part. But watever mess of a character the CVs has created has no code...then how will u decode it hats off for the marvellous effort though👏

she is immature and obsessed and is not ready to come out of her fantacies or say deliberatly does not want to come out of it coz it feels her good to be in her own castle made in air...where she has her mindless logics and trying to find connections in nothing...thats how a desperate lover behaves ...coz obsession takes over mind

belive me it took me a lot of pain to write what i wrote coz i myself repel kusums illogical attemts to hold on to her infatuation and prove herself right and console herself with menail things like kangan of saras mom...coz it makes her feel that he does care...all kusum wants is attention from saras which he never gives her ...why coz he is not actually interested in her the way she wants him to be.

Originally posted by: rucha123

OMG!!! i was so waiting for someone to post something like this and you did 🤗

i love love love you for that

i so agree with every word

this was needed, so much hate is going on for kusum

i just want it to stop i just hope this post of urs

gives everyone a brain of why kusum is like that

she dont deserve da hate :(

Well her character has been mutilated for sure to apeace trp aunty but then its still identifiable.

she is a case of a psycoligically disbalanced girl at this point who does not know what she is doing coz she is blinded by her obsession for saras.

i dont say that hatred towards her is wrong.well in normal case anybody would hate her for her strange actions and estranged behaviour , specially when we allknow her fantacies and obsession has no base at all.She is making her own castles and pining on things and actions which were either out of sheer brotherly help or mistake .

Thats why i said in my last paragraph she needs a break rather then be forced .she needs to be talked specially by saras coz its only he who can make her understand the real truth.

What a great analysis from you Shana. you have actually managed to dive into what the cvs intended

A very good post Shana- trying to understand what Kusum is all about.

The question remains though- who is Kusum? What motivates her? what are her needs and aspirations? What gives her a sense of worth and self esteem?

We now see her as selfish, delusional, irrational, unreasonable , annoying etc.,

But what was he like before this Sara fiasco?

Kusum did not have her own clearly defined identity- or at least it was not well delineated in the show till Sarasgate.

Sounds like till then she followed her sister and tried to clone her- out of respect, affection, perhaps because she was awe struck, also perhaps because she did not matter in the larger scheme of events in the family- which seemed to centre largely around Kumud. These make for the mess that we have been witnessing at present.

I agree with the solutions you have suggested- Kusum needs to step back from the present mess- take some time out physically; perhaps go away for a while on her own( if this is possible and acceptable within the family's norm), take time to reflect on the events of the recent past and hopefully be able to see her role and contribution to the present mess. Yes, Counselling will give her the much needed spaceto reflect.

Most imortantkly though what Kusum needs is to find herself. She has lost herself or perhaps does not know who she is, what she really wants,( It is not Saras that she wants but what Saras represents for her in her mind- the gentleness, the strength of character, the ability to love and give unconditionally etc,.) . Any good counsellor/ therapist should be able to help Kusum explore and understand this. She needs to get a sense of what truly motivates and inspires her and what worth and value she brings to others' lives. In short, Kusum needs help in finding her identity and her self worth back. This would be the longer term goal of any rehab programme for Kusum. I am sure Danny's love and support will go a long way in achieving his.

Originally posted by: KK84

Shana how can saras talk to him? The situation is too awkward. He looks up and she is gawping at him which makes his realise that she isn't over him at all.

This isn't a high school crush that she has on saras. She tried to kill herself bcos she felt she can't live without him n saras knows that. It's awkward and yet the last thing he would want to do is break her heart even more by saying I don't love you back...she knows it but by him saying it will be rubbing salt on her wounds.

N more than that it's sooo awkward. It's such a natural reaction. I have been in a situation where a friend has liked me n I haven't liked him back n I didn't talk to him for months n even now we are just civil cos it's too weird. Your whole equation changes n you can't act like nothing has happened.

Saras should have had talked to her asap when he was to put danny at his place.or at least when she tried to commit suicide .

now things r becoming difficult for him coz he does feel her gayky eyes ,its more awkward coz she never came complaining to him , she never said why u did this to me.well she has no rights to say so for sure but for saras its making things difficult coz he now feels guilty which he should not.

if he really wants his brother merital life to be happy he should get the girl straight and tell her that he did for her good ...infact kusum would be treat at instant coz all that girl wants his attention and explanation from him...

...for her he is like some role model...like some professor in collage and she a student who just started admiring him and wants his attention.

in such cases it does not mean the professor will marry that girl infact such cases can be easily solved by talking and getting the girl know that she can always get help but nothing else ...we have several kusum like cases in our collage ...and i tell these girls can easily be treated with counselling .