Decoding Kusum

I know many of u may not like what i am going to write about this lady But I promise i did my best to be sane and critical while writing it.

Kusum as character has always been shown as shadow to Kumud .It started as a bubbly carefree girl who was friend to her seem to be perfect elder sister .The elder sister who is pride of Desai family due to her intelligence, education and work holism. She found no problem in epitomizing her didi who gave her everything she wanted and who saved her from every scolding coz of her carelessness and stood for her whatsovever childish acts she did .In return Kusum reciprocated her elder sister in form of endless respect and blind belief and considering her as ultimate savior for everything.

A man came in her elder sister life and slowly made his way in Desai family too. He appalled Desais by his never ending sacrifices for the desai family and endless love for Kumud Sundari her elder sister. He seemed to her so perfect , so another form of her own didi. He was savior for Desai family just the way her didi has been .He took care of her didi at cost of his own self respect . His persona sweeped her off feet.And slowly she fell for him.

It started like loving her didi and him together. But slowly her heart seprated him from her didi and yearned to have him for herself.She had learned not be selfish as it was so natural to her coz she always wanted to be like her didi unselfish and giving for the family. But when she tried to walk the path of her didi she found it was not her path. She dressed like her, walked like her , behaved like her and tried her best to work for family as well. But it was impossible to let her heart cry and walk straight for people arond.And the girl broke.She broke coz now it was impossible to imporsonate Kumud Sundari whom she idealised. Why coz its really hard to sacrifce ur heart and be a duty doll .Its impossible to be Kumud Sundari !

She felt ashamed of her self tried to kill herself as well .Decided to get married to some x y z as her mother felt it the only way to treat her illogical infatuation.It was at this point everything went wrong and a broken girl was forced to retaliate.She was cornered to extrem.Yes I found her retailation quit logical .Marriage is a big thing for any girl with sane heart and mind and when u realise it is being forced on u , it does become a suffocating experience.

Kusum has never been a strong duty doll like her elder sister.Infact she has been pampered and given all she wanted by her sister.And when same sister said she cant get a man she loved coz that man did not love her was something Kusum never expected from her elder sister. How come her always giving sister take side of some other man.It was she the younger sister who was always important and today she was being sidelined for some other man.The little stubborn sister inside kusum broke loose and lashed at her didi with mindless logics proving how destiny wanted her to be with him and how she deserved him more then her elder sister. The conversation between the sisters was not of some grown up girls it was a conversation between two little sisters one older and another younger and younger one wanted the toy at any cost .

As usual her mindless logics did effect her elder sister , who has always been pron to smart emotional blackmails and decided her younger sister was right and does deserve what she is asking for .(Here i skip to discuss Kumud Sundari , the eldest sister dumbness as she is not my topic right now )

Alas ! things never happened according to plan.The situations backfired and Kusum fate took her to man she was actually made for ,Danny!.

But at this point the girl who got everything she wanted from her didi.The girl who blindly believed in her didi felt cheated and tricked into an unwanted marriage. She is not being able to break those marriage shanckles as all r forcing her into it .She again is using all mindless logics to get away with it .She has lost it, all r forcing her and the stubborn child in her is not ready to accept the defeat . Now more u force her more defiant she will be . It is so suffocating that the man she loves will never love her and above it she has to live with his brother and die everyday seeing the man she loves yet never be able to reach him.

Its hard to live under same roof as wife of brother to man u yearned for.Specially then when u know that man u loved actually tricked u .Then when u see all forcing u to accept the marriage wrongly done. If she were married to Mohan ji she would have accepted it as faith coz she herself agreed to it though under family pressure.But accepting a marriage u know was falsely done and that u dreamed to have ur love and ended up with his brother is hard to accept.

All Kusum needs right now is a break which she did try to have.She needs time to get over the shock .She needs to be counseled and talked by Saras rather then be ignored by him.She needs to breath fresh air and have long walks by the fields and see the birds flying and then may be one fine day she would accept the fact that how irrational she has been and how much Saras and Kumud mean to each other and how much Danny loves her.

Solution of Kusum like cases is talking and counselling and letting them free and have their own space for a while rather then forcing and cornering them to extent that they end up in nervous breakdown or turn into ultimate cynical, melancholy, notorious or gray.

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Originally posted by: KusumSingh04

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thanx for writing this post...it was badly required as everyone was pissed with kusum this post will help to over come the hatred slightly, may be 😆 and may give strength to watch her on screen 🤣

i have no intention to decrease members hatred towards her as her present actions do make her repulsive .All i want us to understand is that if we have such crazy girls around us never do what desais r doing to her and instead deal with her intelligently

Shana

Its a very sweet and humane post. An attempt to get under the skin of the character.

But how will it be resolved?

Originally posted by: -sudha-

Shana

Its a very sweet and humane post. An attempt to get under the skin of the character.

But how will it be resolved?

i did give the solution sudha

alas ! cvs will never follow it coz they dont want a solution but a problem .

my intentios through this post is just to tell how we should deal with such people in real life coz what desais r doing is the blunder done normally when we have such cases and what we get out of it is the person turning cynical and house breaker and very few turn into duty doll like kumud

Agree on what u said on how to deal with these girls in the last paragraph .

When I started reading the post, I confess, I had almost decided not to like it. But you have written it pretty logically.
It has come out as a Good post Shana.

Kusum character sketch could have been far more descent and believable if CVs would not have show cased her as Meera, If actor had shown some depth in acting, rather than limiting oneself to making cry faces (my personal opinion) and if her mom would have shown better sense in handling her and her situation.

but sadly it is all in IFs and BUTs. none of the above happened. so now we can not stop detesting her to the point of no return.

Amazing post. Great analysis! I think you are spot on. I really hope that Kusum soon understands that she is being stubborn and obsessive! She cannot have Saras coz he is not a "thing" like Dugba said. For Kumud to ask Saras to marry Kusum is just plain vile!! He can't just chose another women to please Kumud?? Is HE not a person? Does he not have feelings? How can she be so selfish and dumb??

Great post Shana. U love Kumud Sundari that's why you decoded her sister in a beautiful way.

lovely post shana...but how will anybody explain a girl of sanskar jumpimg with joy wen her sister comes and tells her that she is breaking her and her beau's heart and forcing him to marry her instead? a girl with an iota of conscience, a girl who has grown up idolizing her sister may hav felt suffocated to say a "no" if offered with this proposition...but she couldnt have jumped with joy nor give that "ehsaan" wala dialogue during bidai!😕 even an utterly indecent person wud have felt a pang of sorrow to see such a relation as Samud's break...its ok if every1 cant be a duty doll...but jumping with joy wen u could literally hear the breaking of hearts...that too of your own sister and the person u claim to love...is inexplicable at the mildest and sick if admitted truthfully! the consistency in her character has gone shana...there is just no way to explain that😭