So many questions?????? - Page 3

Originally posted by: jekenm

Very sensible questions.

Thanks!

Q.1.

I find Kumud is in no mood to forgive Saras. He was the prince of her dreams. He promised to dab rainbow colours in her life but gave her the white blank cloth, which turned out to be bad omen. Now she is living for her family's honour. She is obliged to her in-laws who saved them from disgrace. How can she forgive Saras who deprived her of all zip and zing in her life? Moreover, he being there in her hubby's house she is reminded 24 X 7 of her barren life.

Well! If she doesn't want to forgive Saras, then she shouldn't! But isn't she too at fault for marrying a total stranger in less than a day? If seeing Saras reminds her of the past always, and if she cannot move forward, then its 🤬. One can't expect to live the life without meeting the people who had been in their lives once.

Q. 2.

Today's episode indicates that Kumud may take to teaching again and give up the full-time housewife job. She is shown as a strong but conventional woman. She does not hesitate to dictate to the maid. She is determined not to be hapless battered wife. Slowly she will resist / reform Prammad.

Her reforming Pramad is ok, but my question is does she need to tolerate the abuses? Can't she stand up for herself and then reform Pramad😕

Q. 3.

The traditional ideal Indian woman bears the torch of culture. So every daughter-in-law is expected to put the family first, and self the last. These so-called values/ideals are insidiously drilled into the mind of every man and woman through all possible means - serials, cinema, literature, etc. Genderism can be perceived everywhere. SC also conveys this.

We can hope that SC will eventually depict Kumud silently and patiently fighting against some of the social evils, or at least reform Pramad.

Yes, not only in India there are some other places where such cultures are there. Let's hope for the best!

Originally posted by: nabiii

Azu..hugz dear..i m not so intelligent who can get what is gonna in our intellectual mrs. Kumu pramad sundori's mind at present..i can only say kumu is the another name of "without common sense".
Slb is another name of dumb..wanted to establish 19th century's history in this 21th century but made it as a hodge-podge.

Originally posted by: Adiani

Hunnybunch, valid questions. Thanks!

What makes you think story is endorsing putting up with abuse? Isn't she assessing her stand and circumstances? They are yet to unfold how Kumud fights her battles. This is how I perceive at this stage.@Bold means it hasn't happen in the show YET. What had happened so far, has made me think like that, I know this is just a soap and we may or may see solutions to all the issues!

Alak, BD, Mrs. BD we find them in society around us.

Can we assess what her options are:

1. Option 1: educated 21st century women of this forum would do: annulment of the marriage( marriage is null and void if there is no consummation, acc to Indian legal system, no need to fight a divorce, my understanding.). I admire them as well, for being what they are.

Divorce is not the solution! And yes! Kumud is also shown as the only girl in the whole village who has her degrees, but is there a difference between her and an uneducated in dealing with such an abusive marriage?😕

2. Option 2. put up with torment: for lack of social support, for children or shame in the society. I'm ashamed as a society we let it happen.

Saying its just a social issue isn't a solution, my friend!😊

3. Rise above all these: if one spouse leaves,, there is always another one they find. Never stops, contrary to cinematic description abusive husbands are grown up in abusive families. They donot know the life otherwise.

Yes, life doesn't stop with one spouse gone😆

Fight the battle if one has the innate ability to do so:

I see that ability in Kumud, that's all. She is standing up for her decision to marry him. I would equally appreciate if she decides otherwise and lives life for herself and Saras. Her life..

She is living life for what she believes in, on her own terms. She is not compromising her values. I salute her for that.

Compromising her values😕, wasn't she the Kumud who stood for truth? Isn't she hiding the mere truth about herself now?😕😕😕

Something is psychologically wrong with the Abusive person. Human growth is a continuous process, if not reach the pinnacle, he can turn to be a better human being than what he is. Give him a chance.Simply give him a chance means giving him another opportunity to repeat it with another woman. But if he is guided somehow would make a change!

Treat it as a mental illness. , it is uphill battle. Why should I discourage/obstruct Kumud from doing that? She will set her tolerance limits.

Having said that, it is upto the individual to decide how they want to mend or break their personal relationships. Why enforce our views on how to live life .. on somebody who is less fortunate to be entangled with abusive partner.

Yes, why should we care, its there life! This belief needs to be changed. And sad to see that more people are like that, they ignore violence right in front of their eyes and say why bother, its upto them?

Let her fight her life's battles, We can be there to support.

Originally posted by: hunnybunch

My bits in black😊

My bits in black ( normal font)

Originally posted by: hunnybunch

My bits in purple, I know this is a daily soap, but these questions that crossed out in my mind, so raised!

Originally posted by: Adiani

Hunnybunch,

My opinions are not out of don't care attitude.

I am a professional working with women, a few years of experience in India was scarring

As an young student my innocence was gone forever.

Now working abroad in UK,I really appreciate, how professionally domestic violence issues are dealt. Exit plans are made in case of emergency, but nevertheless it is building confidence in victim. If she is trying to minimise damage by dealing it in her own way, so be it.

Some are violent, irreparable. We have to be supportive with victim all the way, until they realise that. Sooner or later, there will be tipping point.

Originally posted by: Adiani

Hunnybunch,

My opinions are not out of don't care attitude.

I am a professional working with women, a few years of experience in India was scarring

As an young student my innocence was gone forever.

Now working abroad in UK,I really appreciate, how professionally domestic violence issues are dealt. Exit plans are made in case of emergency, but nevertheless it is building confidence in victim. If she is trying to minimise damage by dealing it in her own way, so be it.

Some are violent, irreparable. We have to be supportive with victim all the way, until they realise that. Sooner or later, there will be tipping point.