Racism and its Ugly Shade, Hidden vs. Apparent - Page 18

Originally posted by: mahakgoyal

very touche topic I myself was rejected couple of times by prospective grooms some 15 yeas back, as I am a darker shade of brown,I agree it never goes away and we can't do any thing about it,the more you fight more aggravated it
Is just like rakt-bheej.I have given up.

Originally posted by: suchitra_1

Rani mukharjee is sooooo good. I think she is VERY pretty and i love her voice. She is amazing as an actress specially in the movie mehendi i love that movie.

Also , Smitha Patil OMG what an actress, thank you bani for bringing her up.

I remember that movie Mirchi with her and nasarudeen shah,

what a movie it was awesome, it basically shows how men depicted women and how they developed the strength to face the enemy at the end. ITS a wonderful wonderful movie.

There are many of her movies which are really good. And she was Pretty!!! specially her eyes!

Another actress I like is shabana, VERY good actress and Tabu as well she is not what we say a glamor girl but does her roles real good. The movie chandini bar is a good movie of hers.

ok Not sure if you guyz watch tamil movies, if you watch , the old movies actresses like Savitri, KR vijaya, Saritha these women knew how to act.
Sridevi in hindi is just Glamour but in Tamil she knew acting. lol sorry I am an oldie fan.

I remember Hema malini once said that she got rejected in the Tamil industry cause she was "too Skinny" at that time the women who were of the figure of Vijayanthi mala , padmini got roles better.

Same with Rekha that is why she didn't do that well in the Tamil industry.

Beauty changed according to different era but still there was par that people used to judge beauty and that is what we need to cross.

We need to stop putting up pars, comparison models.

What ever Who ever , How ever are beautiful cause they are the Creation of God.

And I know once I was walking down my street ( I was like 14) and I saw couple of people, REALLLLLLY DARK in color and they were wearing a lime colored Sari and coming out of Church, they were speaking in Tamil.

And I went home and told my mum, that I saw some tamilians and they were coming out of a church. They were really really dark in color and I said it in a bad tone.

I remember my mom rebuking me and saying, you should not make fun of anyone due to their color.
Simple words : I started justifying myself in front of her , that i didn't mean in that way (which I probably did not but subconsciously I did think that why are they so dark and how come they are speaking Tamil? cause South indians are not "that" dark"

She said, your tone was enough to suggest that. They are God's Creations and if you rebuke them due to their color that means you are mocking God and making fun of HIM.

From then on I made it clear that i would never make fun of anyone for their color...

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What I understood from this whole episode is, it is the mother who shows the children the correct way.
How many of us would laugh at a child's word and think they are over smart? and not correct them saying, are ye tho abhi bacha hai?

like I said in the beginning of my post, Racism , Equality/in-Equality classes start at home... I was lucky enough to get good Tarbiyyah but we as mothers (future mothers many here in the forum) what are we doing to change ourselves so taht our children can take us as an example and not some cinema star?

Originally posted by: serialjunkie

Folks - got busy in the kitchen so a late reply....

The point I raised was not whether sexual orientation is right or wrong. What people do behind the closed doors of their bedroom is their business. The point I raised was that we cannot and should not use sexual orientation of a person as a reason to discriminate against them. They are after all human beings.

I have several gay friends at work and each one of them is as normal as any one of us, they get the flu, they sneeze, they are nice and occasionally get mad. In other words, there is nothing about them as human beings that can be used against them. Yet, time and again they've had to fight gossip, perception and alienation. Why? Have they gone out and hurt anyone? Have they murdered or stolen or hated anyone? NO! To me the straight wall-street banker who looted the regular joe of his daily livelihood and wiped his bank account is more hateful than a gay person.

The bottom line is this - there are many many gays in India. Yet we as a society do not like to admit it. I know of a family friend in India with a family. However, late in his life he admitted to being gay and lost his family, friends and all the near and dear ones. The fact is he was never happy in his relationship with his wife and his wife and children were never happy. To live a farce, they all suffered and in the end paid heavily with social ostracism.

Again, I am not justifying anyone's orientation - like I said before, what one does behind the closed doors of ones bedroom is ones own business.

Long time ago in US the decree was separate but equal. Now some 40 years we know there is no separate and equal. there is separate is unequal.

Re Kerry's loss in election - he lost because of a very poorly run Democratic election machinery. It had little to do with his Democratic agenda. See how Obama won? He ran on the same liberal platform. The funny thing is Obama won because of heavy voter support from folks in their 20s and 30s - a relatively young voting pool. This is another interesting thing I notice - youngsters today seem more tolerant of differences than previous generations.

Oh well. Time to get ready for the week. Mera Bhashan samapth hua!!!😆

Vish - Congratulations on having your son serve in the Navy - that is so awesome, I should tell my son too 👏