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Originally posted by: Catmittens
I do agree that Kokila has largely controlled the decision making process. But it was explained in episodes years ago that it was Hetal and Baa's choice to grant Kokila that right because of her shrewdness. I think this was mentioned again after the first leap when Gopi returned to Modi bhavan with little Vidya... Hetal and Baa reiterated that Kokila had always been the most neutral, i.e. saw good from bad, hence them placing her in the most important position, but they said her decision to marry Ahem to Radha was the first time they had ever disagreed with her views.I don't agree Kokila is the root cause as most of the turmoils have been through evil people deceiving everyone, not just her. Even Hetal, Baa, Ahem, Gopi etc are guilty of placing trust in bad people. When Madhu returned, Kokila was the only one who cottoned onto her deception - but still the others were blinded by Madhu's sob story and pleaded to let her stay in the house.Modis didn't get Tolu married in a hurry - remember Tolu and Sona both fell in love with each other and then got married behind the backs of all the family members. So Paridhi was not alone in her stance, but the problem was that by the time she returned home, all the others had grown to accept Tolu's choice. I can understand Paridhi's hurt feelings completely. But her anger was completely misplaced. She should have understood her own stepson's feelings instead of being upset that she didn't get to choose her ideal bahu.My point was that if it wasn't for the saas-bahu duo, Paridhi would not have the privileged existence that she enjoys. I wonder who's looking after her ill father! 🤔
Kokila has always been dominating in the show. Baa and Hetal had given Kokila the responsibilities to take family decisions and thats what they told her when Kokila was bent on getting Ahem married to Radha. I agree with you on Kokila's assessment about Madhu is correct but what about her giving entry to Paridhi when she was creating a nuisance in the family. She had approved Paridhi to become Jigar's wife when his biological parents are there to decide for him. Before that she had accommodated Umang and Tripti after Radha had eloped away with Umang.
As for Kokila's forcing Ahem to marry Gopi, I would not blame Kokila fully as Ahem is also responsible for it. When Kokila had asked Ahem about his marriage, Ahem had blindly agreed to her choice instead of putting a word about Anita. He had told absolutely nothing about her to Kokila or anyone else in the family. So I don't and will never agree that he has ever loved Anita. Whatever moments he had with Anita was only for time pass or flirtation. He told about Anita only when she insisted otherwise, he wouldn't have even done that. Or I will rather say that he did not love Anita to the extent of marrying her against Kokila's wishes. If a person has got guts to love, they should also have guts to stand for it. If they don't stand for it, that is not love. It is as simple as that. You guys can also take it as my definition.
As for Tolu's marriage with Sona, it is a forced one but it was a mutual consent. Tolu and Sona were in love. Tolu agreed to marry her because the family would not accept her after she had kidnapped Samar by mistake.
Paridhi should be interested in Tolu's happiness rather than her requirements of her DIL. But she expects her badi bahu to be smart, well-educated and worldly wise which is absolutely wrong. She just sees one side of the coin but does not think if Tolu is not happy with her ideal bahu, it won't be helpful to her too.
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