Ahem and his point.

Greg I decided to put this in a separate thread because I deem that your comments are worthy of starting a discussion. I hope you don't mind.

Okay, no problem! Please tell me what are your views in this regard?

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Ahem told Gopi that he lived without her for 8 years. It is not her fault. Although, Kokila did not push Gopi out of the house or directly tell her to go, her life had become a hell after Meera was missing after her drowning incident.

The couple lived happily only after Gopi had educated herself till Radha attacked Meera. If at all he stood by her with respect to Paridhi's kidnapping, it was only out of his reluctance.

When he could wait for 8 years to spend time with Gopi, then what is the big deal for him to wait now? It is all his fault. When she was with him, he never had any regard for it. It was more terrible when the couple was newly married. He was indifferent no matter what it is. Imagine that when a girl is married & is in in-laws place only to find that her husband is accusing her for stealing, marrying him for money etc. sister-in-law creating problems in her married life & taunting her, her own cousin sister creating more problems instead of standing by her, Mother-in-law taking time to know the truth!😡 In these circumstances, the girl who is innocent, uneducated & don't have any knowledge about the outside world or anyone to depend on would commit suicide.

Gopi had undergone these things & it really made me cry. The sister-in-law is none other than Kinjal. Cousin sister is none other than Rashi. Mother-in-law is none other than Kokila & the so called loving & caring husband is none other than Ahem(I am being sarcastic).

Even when Gopi wanted to show the true colors of Paridhi to Kokila, where was Ahem at that time? When Kokila had broken all the ties with Gopi, where was he at that time? He has consistently supported his mother. If at all he agreed to save Paridhi, he was reluctant to do that. And now he wants her!😡

Ahem is right from his viewpoint now but he only thinks from his perspect. He is selfish just like his mother.😡

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Originally posted by: krkavita

Ahem he told Gopi that he lived without her for 8 years, it is not her fault. Although, Kokila did not push Gopi out of the house or directly tell her to go, her life had become a hell after Meera was missing after her drowning incident.

The couple lived happily only after Gopi had educated herself till Radha attacked Meera. If at all he stood by her with respect to Paridhi's kidnapping, it was only out of his reluctance.

When he could wait for 8 years to spend time with Gopi, then what is the big deal for him to wait now? It is all his fault. When she was with him, he never had any regard for it. It was more terrible when the couple was newly married. He was indifferent no matter what it is. Imagine that when a girl is married & is in in-laws place only to find that her husband is accusing her for stealing, marrying him for money etc. sister-in-law creating problems in her married life & taunting her, her own cousin sister creating more problems instead of standing by her, Mother-in-law taking time to know the truth!😡 In these circumstances, the girl who is innocent, uneducated & don't have any knowledge about the outside world would commit suicide.

Gopi had undergone these things & it really made me cry. The sister-in-law is none other than Kinjal. Cousin sister is none other than Rashi. Mother-in-law is none other than Kokila & the so called loving & caring husband is none other than Ahem(I am being sarcastic).

Even when Gopi wanted to show the true colors of Paridhi to Kokila, where was Ahem at that time? When Kokila had broken all the ties with Gopi, where was he at that time? He has consistently supported his mother. If at all he agreed to save Paridhi, he was reluctant to do that. And now he wants her!😡

Ahem is right from his viewpoint now but he only thinks from his perspect. He is selfish just like his mother.😡

agree with u competely...
even now ahem accepted gopi back wen he got meera back.. & gopi highlighted to police that meera had drowned in lake 200km away from d temple.. so sum1 purposely left meera there.. then he went to reconcile with gopi & if u remember he was not going to say her directly he wanted gopi to understand that with out him telling her... wen he has guts to shout & insult gopi infront of whole family then y cant he apologize to her.. not even wen they r alone ... infront of family is out of question...
he apologized to her that time only after listening that now gopi doesnt want to return back to him... such a selfish man ...😡😡

Originally posted by: krkavita

Ahem he told Gopi that he lived without her for 8 years, it is not her fault. Although, Kokila did not push Gopi out of the house or directly tell her to go, her life had become a hell after Meera was missing after her drowning incident.

The couple lived happily only after Gopi had educated herself till Radha attacked Meera. If at all he stood by her with respect to Paridhi's kidnapping, it was only out of his reluctance.

When he could wait for 8 years to spend time with Gopi, then what is the big deal for him to wait now? It is all his fault. When she was with him, he never had any regard for it. It was more terrible when the couple was newly married. He was indifferent no matter what it is. Imagine that when a girl is married & is in in-laws place only to find that her husband is accusing her for stealing, marrying him for money etc. sister-in-law creating problems in her married life & taunting her, her own cousin sister creating more problems instead of standing by her, Mother-in-law taking time to know the truth!😡 In these circumstances, the girl who is innocent, uneducated & don't have any knowledge about the outside world would commit suicide.

Gopi had undergone these things & it really made me cry. The sister-in-law is none other than Kinjal. Cousin sister is none other than Rashi. Mother-in-law is none other than Kokila & the so called loving & caring husband is none other than Ahem(I am being sarcastic).

Even when Gopi wanted to show the true colors of Paridhi to Kokila, where was Ahem at that time? When Kokila had broken all the ties with Gopi, where was he at that time? He has consistently supported his mother. If at all he agreed to save Paridhi, he was reluctant to do that. And now he wants her!😡

Ahem is right from his viewpoint now but he only thinks from his perspect. He is selfish just like his mother.😡

It is sad that while India has progressed in many areas, there is still discrimination against women in many families. And we see that perfectly well in the way Gopi was treated by her cousin sister, Rashi, her sister-in-law, Kinjal, her spineless coward husband, Ahem and her self-righteous mother-in-law, Kokila. I still get angry remembering how Rashi used to conspire against Gopi and think that her death was punishment for the way she treated Gopi. 😡 I wish that Jigar had come to know what Rashi was doing with Gopi. Maybe he would have given Rashi the boot! 😆

As for your questions where Ahem was all this time that Gopi needed him, he was too busy being a mommas boy and listening to Kokila. He never wanted anything to do with Gopi in all that time and suddenly, he wants her? Yeah, Ahem wants Gopi now, but, when his desire for Gopi will be fully satiated, Ahem will just kick her to the curb again, not caring at all in the least that Gopi is someone's daughter. From his point of view, Ahem is right and thinks from his own perspective and acts like it will kill him if he tries to see things from other people's perspective. Not only is Ahem swaarthi (selfish), but also he is ahankaari (egotistic) and ghamandi (self-righteous) and many other things which I will not repeat here. 😡

I wish that something would happen that would give Ahem a jolt and he would start taking his wife seriously and accept her as she is and not treat her like crap and only respect her when it is most convenient for him. He is so rude and insensitive. I honestly wish Gopi would tell her fair weather husband Ahem to go play in traffic! 😡

Originally posted by: coolhi1988

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agree with u competely...
even now ahem accepted gopi back wen he got meera back.. & gopi highlighted to police that meera had drowned in lake 200km away from d temple.. so sum1 purposely left meera there.. then he went to reconcile with gopi & if u remember he was not going to say her directly he wanted gopi to understand that with out him telling her... wen he has guts to shout & insult gopi infront of whole family then y cant he apologize to her.. not even wen they r alone ... infront of family is out of question...
he apologized to her that time only after listening that now gopi doesnt want to return back to him... such a selfish man ...😡😡

Seriously, if it was real & if I was in Gopi's place, I would have slippered Ahem for accusing me for stealing. I would have told him that who wants your money. Keep it in your arse. I also would have taken Kokila to task & told Rashi that Ahem has not only told me a thief but he has insulted our family. (Yes, when Ahem told Gopi a thief, he insulted her family as well. ) If Rashi knew this she would have told her mother & both of them would have stood by her & taken Ahem & Kokila to task. (after all it is their prestige.)

After Ahem got Meera back, he hugged Gopi & took her along to Meera's ward where she was injured. Yes, when Ahem wants to profess his love to Gopi, he thinks how to present it before her so as to impress her & make her happy but when it comes to yelling at her, it is spontaneous.😡

He only thinks about his convenience. He also dumped Anita for his convenience & comforts.😡 He is not only selfish but also a coward.😡

As for Gopi, I would say that she has allowed Ahem to treat her as a doormat. I understand that she was uneducated at that time but if Radha was in that place, she too wouldn't have taken all this crap.

And if I was in Jigars place, I would have slapped Ahem and told Kokila Auntie for insulting Gopi and her family and again slapped Ahem and told him off for not being happy for me that I found happiness in my life again after Rashi's death. Those two have know respect or sensitivity what so ever for others. When Paridhi has proven herself worthy of being a Modi bahu, and has gained acceptance in the Modi family, why is Ahem so concerned? Jigar is the one who married Paridhi and is happy to be with her. Can't Ahem at least be happy for his cousin brother? What a selfish twat! 😡

If Ahem cannot be happy for Jigar, then he should just mind his own 🤬 business! 😡

I wasn't going to mention Paridi again as this is about Ahem but in the beginning when both Gopi and Jigar were against Paridi it was Ahem who gave him the brotherly chat and advised him to let Paridi be his life partner.