Gopi- my view

Page

Next Last

Simi0808

@Simi0808

Explorer

Posted: 11 years ago

In today's episode, Gopi asked Radha, "You were marrying my Ahem ji?" in an accusatory tone. But she never confronted Ahem as to how he could think of marrying someone else. Infact she's seen folding her hands at him. When Kokila was screaming at her she stood silent, when Kokila ordered her to leave she left without offering any resistance because she has to obey her Maaji's orders, no matter how cruel they are. Koki puts a mask on her mouth, instead of reacting angrily to such bullying, she roams around in public places wearing the humiliation on her face. Urshi treated her no better than garbage and yet she continued to pander to them even when she saw them doing serious kks (Creating MIs between Heki, Stealing Vansh, sending Koki to jail). Yet when she sees Rashi making Radha sit with other maids, addressing her as her servant, she brushes it under the carpet. She bullies Radha when she tries to inform her about Swayam KK and exposes her without hesitation.

Looking at all this, I have a feeling Gopi has certain biases- bias towards the elders, bias towards the husband (that he can get away even after abusing and humiliating her in the initial years and now kicking her out in her most painful time). She gives way too much leeway to certain classes of people- Ahem, Koki, Rashi- and drops her "gaay" avatar in front of Radha.
Because Radha is negative, all of it seems justified. But the truth is that Gopi doesn't respect people for their nature or qualities, she respects them on the basis of in what capacity they are related to her.

Quote

Frequent Posters

KALG_Bizarre

@KALG_Bizarre

Navigator

Posted: 11 years ago

partly agree with what you have said. Every human being has flaw and so does Gopi, a heroine of the show. Though Gopi has flaw and has certain biases toward her husband's family but everything she did was justified and not selfish. I knew she used to slap Radha once out of anger and misunderstanding but all she did was due to her limit understanding of the problem Radha's caused, not selfish.

Urmi and Rashi are very real characters. I swear i have encountered some in my life at such young age. 😆 They are cunning, but not plain evil. Radha's character was spoil by CV, but from the start we could tell she was introduced to be the one who can confront Rashi. And we were right; she is similar to a person who has behavioral disorder.

Koki is too stubborn, ordering, selfish, and a jealous mother in law. Look like her detective brain was given to Vidya already.😡

Ahem's love for Gopi is not strong enough. Because his mother is the one who always take the lead. And his opinion was shown one in a blue moon.🤢

Koki is the reason Gohem's marriage life become like this. Gopi hesitate to share her problem with Ahem due to Koki...same as Ahem fears that his mother will not be happy if he didn't follow her advice.🥱

Quote

Looks like you are new here. Register for free, learn and contribute.

koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

Stunner

+ 3

Posted: 11 years ago

This is what i wrote in another thread

even i don't like what Kokila did by throwing Gopi out , i have said it in all my posts .

But

she had a point . Its sad but true . The family should have known of their child . If Gopi was hurt that Ahem blamed her for the first child's mishap she should have refused to come back and stayed with her mother who would never leave her . But the family needed to be told .

Look at it this way . The child is not only a Modi but an heiress to a large fortune . Why should it live a mediocre life when father is a wealthy businessman . He can even afford to send her abroad for education later . The best interests of the child and its healthy growth on all levels has nothing to do with father mother spousal conflict . Ahem and Kokila may not be popular in the way they behaved but they would have seen only best interest of Vidya .

What they would have done is tell Gopi to give the child to them and move out of the picture . This could be contested by Madhuben and Gopi in court as no court rules out a mother from a child's life . Also court would have seen on what basis the Modis wanted the mother out and declared Meera's death as an accident . The Modis had no leg to stand on as otherwise Gopi was a fine wife and fine bahu , neither did she want the divorce herself .

But keeping such a big thing from the family and even the child is wrong .

However , her character is a timid rabbit one . I can understand her fears , she had been thrown out and was afraid that even this hope would be taken from her .

However speaking of the other parent Ahem , even he lost a child . He may never have remarried and lived life thinking his only child was dead .

Their ire has a point and her fear is understandable . But today if the matter goes in a court , the hiding will go against Gopi just as Ahem's marraige without a proper divorce will go against him .

She did not even tell her own mother . Had she kicked her out of her life too ?

This cannot be an excuse , the fact as i see it is that her silence was deliberate . She could have screamed out fact when she was being thrown out and there r hundreds of ways to tell .

There r a number of things that she too did wrong .

Unecessarily getting too involved in Radha's marraige to Umang and neglecting her own grihasthi

Taking blame of Kinjal on her head and opting to go to jail for life by leaving own child Meera motherless

not uttering anything about Vidya's existence even to her own family .

Gopi too is wrong at times .

it is true however that holding her responsible for Meera's accident is unfair on Kokila and Ahem's part . So is their bid to remarry without a proper divorce .

Quote

ashfaqmiyaann

@Anees.

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
This is what i wrote in another thread

even i don't like what Kokila did by throwing Gopi out , i have said it in all my posts .

But

she had a point . Its sad but true . The family should have known of their child . If Gopi was hurt that Ahem blamed her for the first child's mishap she should have refused to come back and stayed with her mother who would never leave her . But the family needed to be told .

Look at it this way . The child is not only a Modi but an heiress to a large fortune . Why should it live a mediocre life when father is a wealthy businessman . He can even afford to send her abroad for education later . The best interests of the child and its healthy growth on all levels has nothing to do with father mother spousal conflict . Ahem and Kokila may not be popular in the way they behaved but they would have seen only best interest of Vidya .

What they would have done is tell Gopi to give the child to them and move out of the picture . This could be contested by Madhuben and Gopi in court as no court rules out a mother from a child's life . Also court would have seen on what basis the Modis wanted the mother out and declared Meera's death as an accident . The Modis had no leg to stand on as otherwise Gopi was a fine wife and fine bahu , neither did she want the divorce herself .

But keeping such a big thing from the family and even the child is wrong .

However , her character is a timid rabbit one . I can understand her fears , she had been thrown out and was afraid that even this hope would be taken from her .

However speaking of the other parent Ahem , even he lost a child . He may never have remarried and lived life thinking his only child was dead .

Their ire has a point and her fear is understandable . But today if the matter goes in a court , the hiding will go against Gopi just as Ahem's marraige without a proper divorce will go against him .

She did not even tell her own mother . Had she kicked her out of her life too ?

This cannot be an excuse , the fact as i see it is that her silence was deliberate . She could have screamed out fact when she was being thrown out and there r hundreds of ways to tell .

There r a number of things that she too did wrong .

Unecessarily getting too involved in Radha's marraige to Umang and neglecting her own grihasthi

Taking blame of Kinjal on her head and opting to go to jail for life by leaving own child Meera motherless

not uttering anything about Vidya's existence even to her own family .

Gopi too is wrong at times .

it is true however that holding her responsible for Meera's accident is unfair on Kokila and Ahem's part . So is their bid to remarry without a proper divorce .

Hatts Off 2 u for writing thiiiss much !! Lol srry didnt read bt really 👏

Quote

Chetna21

@Chetna21

Explorer

Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
This is what i wrote in another thread

even i don't like what Kokila did by throwing Gopi out , i have said it in all my posts .

But

she had a point . Its sad but true . The family should have known of their child . If Gopi was hurt that Ahem blamed her for the first child's mishap she should have refused to come back and stayed with her mother who would never leave her . But the family needed to be told .

Look at it this way . The child is not only a Modi but an heiress to a large fortune . Why should it live a mediocre life when father is a wealthy businessman . He can even afford to send her abroad for education later . The best interests of the child and its healthy growth on all levels has nothing to do with father mother spousal conflict . Ahem and Kokila may not be popular in the way they behaved but they would have seen only best interest of Vidya .

What they would have done is tell Gopi to give the child to them and move out of the picture . This could be contested by Madhuben and Gopi in court as no court rules out a mother from a child's life . Also court would have seen on what basis the Modis wanted the mother out and declared Meera's death as an accident . The Modis had no leg to stand on as otherwise Gopi was a fine wife and fine bahu , neither did she want the divorce herself .

But keeping such a big thing from the family and even the child is wrong .

However , her character is a timid rabbit one . I can understand her fears , she had been thrown out and was afraid that even this hope would be taken from her .

However speaking of the other parent Ahem , even he lost a child . He may never have remarried and lived life thinking his only child was dead .

Their ire has a point and her fear is understandable . But today if the matter goes in a court , the hiding will go against Gopi just as Ahem's marraige without a proper divorce will go against him .

She did not even tell her own mother . Had she kicked her out of her life too ?

This cannot be an excuse , the fact as i see it is that her silence was deliberate . She could have screamed out fact when she was being thrown out and there r hundreds of ways to tell .

There r a number of things that she too did wrong .

Unecessarily getting too involved in Radha's marraige to Umang and neglecting her own grihasthi

Taking blame of Kinjal on her head and opting to go to jail for life by leaving own child Meera motherless

not uttering anything about Vidya's existence even to her own family .

Gopi too is wrong at times .

it is true however that holding her responsible for Meera's accident is unfair on Kokila and Ahem's part . So is their bid to remarry without a proper divorce .

One word fantastic hatts off to u...👏😃Thankyou for explaining Ahem side too other's r always blaming Ahem for other's gopi always mahan never lie native person... 🥱

Quote

Not Avaliable

@lovely_lady

Rocker

Posted: 11 years ago

I can understand why Ahem would be angry at Gopi in the Vidya situation. And with that, I agree with you. I'm just so disappointed that he blames Gopi for the Meera accident.

And while Gopi has been wrong as well, I'm still more angry at Koki. She always has to put her foot where it doesn't belong. If only she didn't meddle, I don't think things would've come this far.

Quote

Xarina

@Xarina

Sparkler

+ 7

Posted: 11 years ago

Gopi is and always will be one of life's doormats. She has always supported and covered up for her tormentors because she does not have the guts to fight back. Misplaced respect for her elders, the need to please all of the people all of the time and a coward mentality all wrapped up in a little package that does not want to rock the boat. That is our Gopi vahu. She should change now and fight back. She does not owe the world any gratitude for her existence.

Quote

Not Avaliable

@Arnisha

Stunner

+ 4

Posted: 11 years ago

Koki is getting out of hand seriously why is she trying to prove Shea actin like she's da only one who has l
Meera W*F cos Koki is the head gopi alwayz hesitates to say whts in her mind uff n ahem wht was he doin instead of trusting gopi he's separating vidya from pura ka pura pagal ho Gaye hai
From the start gopi is unable to do wht she wants cos of tht mental Koki. I'm disgusted wid ahem n koki's behaviour n there more humiliation to cum for gopi she has to spk up the sooner the better.

Quote

Justlikethat1

@Justlikethat1

Sparkler

+ 2

Posted: 11 years ago

Gopi is a character that is accordance with the 'guidelines of an adarsh Bahu' from the saas-bahu serial book..

So Gopi's hypocrisy and her unwanted doormat tendencies is what the serial world calls as the needed sacrificing behavior of any person who wants to be the main female character.. And yes.. Gopi will remain like this forever.. She will not raise her voice to even the most atrocious crimes by anyone who is elder to her or to any relationship she considers sacred, like one of her husband or anyone from her in-laws family.

@Kools - I agree. Gopi was completely wrong in not informing her in-laws about her impending pregnancy and birth of Vidya. I cannot overlook that even though I also feel that she may have frightened to death by Ahem and Kokila's accusations. We are talking about a powerful family, a rich one contesting for Vidya and sending Gopi out of their lives by saying that she was a careless mother. One has seen that Meera has been a child prone to accidents right from the time of her birth.

Gopi not just had that accident at the cliff against her but also many incidents after Meera's birth that could go against her if concocted properly..

1. She careless went in search of her husband, without backup, without proper food and water and roamed in bhuj for whatever number of days

2. She had to give birth to Meera in a desert without even a midwife in sight.

3. She (Ahem did but she may have been blamed), lost meera in a hospital when they were giving her shots for the first time
4. She did not attend her first child's ear piercing ceremony (Rashi's KK but who can prove it)
5. Meera went missing for whatever number of hours before Koki found her in a chest, having fallen down
6. She gave Meera to her mad mother in order to make her right..

The Modis' have the means to make all this into a story of continued carelessness to make sure that Gopi would be removed from the scene completely.

While I agree that Gopi should have tried, I think she was scared out of wits with the closest people she believed in accusing her for Meera's disappearance.. They were not just angry.. We have seen in this short while that Koki and Ahem when angry are abusive to the greatest degree too..🥱 Oral abuse and probably torture creates an atmosphere of worry and paranoia. Not an excuse for hiding 8 years but I tend to see Gopi as a victim with severe mental stress here..

Now we also know that Ahem and Koki have the right to be angry for hiding Vidya . I would have respected their anger more if they had not kept blaming Gopi even after 8 years for Meera's disappearance.. Blame is a natural reaction when one suffers a loss but to continue blaming the person who would have been most affected without giving them a chance and then cruelly accusing her of something that they themselves are guilty of.. (Koki had Ahem almost marry Radha) That is hypocrisy.. I think Gopi has a lot more ground to stand on than either Kokila or her Chamcha Ahem😊

Quote

koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

Stunner

+ 3

Posted: 11 years ago

#10

Oral abuse and probably torture creates an atmosphere of worry and paranoia. Not an excuse for hiding 8 years but I tend to see Gopi as a victim with severe mental stress here..

Now we also know that Ahem and Koki have the right to be angry for hiding Vidya . I would have respected their anger more if they had not kept blaming Gopi even after 8 years for Meera's disappearance..

She has lived with Urmila and encountered oral abuse even before she met Kokila and Ahem .Oral abuse , as i see it , cannot be the excuse for hiding such a serious fact . Forget the unfairness to Ahem , see how unfair it is on the child ...for her to grow up without a father and to ask questions all her life .

I feel it is simply a case of being thoughtless in fright and guilt . She never gave it deep thought . She is not a bad person , not in her wildest dreams did she want to be unfair to Ahem or Vidya . She just did not give it much thought .

I agree totally with u about respecting the Modi anger more if they had not blamed her unfairly all the time for Meera's mishap . That clouds the seriousness of Gopi's deeds . Still don't know why she did not take even her mother in confidence .

She blames Radha for trying to take away Ahemji . Not once will she blame Ahem for actually conceding to give her place to her sister .As i see it , she has a simple one track mind where everything is prioritised by relations . Pati and sasural come first . One track minds r dangerous though cute briefly . Radha has one too . Pati Umang rules , though he is criminal . He is pati . And like some pativrata nagin she is still trying to avenge him as no common sense makes way into that one track brain .

Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 11 years ago

Quote

1 2 3

Gopi- my view

Related Topics

Explore Topics