Pushing the Line - A Mistake - Page 3

Originally posted by: RachP

For once, I don't want to dig too deep into this. Seeing Gopi pushing his buttons is far too entertaining. 😈 If this is the closest we can come to his repentance, then I have to say that this should go on for a while. Chaucer did say: "Forbid us something, and that thing we desire." And I just may get to see him fighting with a sword against the Lankani, on a bridge under which lava will flow. 😍

Originally posted by: Saathfan

I think gopi giving him the silent treatment is good. He might be irritated and wants to blow but he should realize that anger is what led to this. I know that it will not happen because cvs Have forgotten everything in the past but I wish he would have at least one flashback that will make him realize what his anger has done to gopi.

I hope he pacifies her in a sweet way rather than turn into a bully once again. Always Monday brings gohem together and by Friday it is back to heart break for gopi. So I am trying to keep my expectations low.

Ahem needs to change and stand up for his marriage too. He has been dumbstruck for almost two months now and it is getting tobe nerve wracking.

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

Harini... great post ...i loved your views...

but my views are different from what you think...

- Well ..you think Gopi and Rashi are pushing the line to the extreme..and they are not giving him time to explain or clarify things from his side...

- but for me ... it is a must...here ..just as we want gopi to be more assertive and confident in dealing with Anita and the rest of the things...we also need to see the assertiveness in Ahem.. can't he find gopi in the house.. can't he wake her up and talk to her... he is not assertive in the relation of being Gopi's husband...

- I know... i am walking on the road less taken... but how long will Gopi have to give him chance to explain his side... he needs to learn to take the lead in the relation...he should be able to wake her or take a little bit of effort to talk to gopi in a more assertive way...

- he could have well woken her up and talked to her... how much deep sleep would she have gone in five minutes ... i know u said to give time and space to her... i don't think that is the excuse... there relation is in a state where both have to execute their rights on each other for the relation of being husband and wife...and i really don't think confession is stopping them ..atleast stopping Ahem from being assertive...

-he is witnessing gopi a little bit of change in gopi...since anita came.. be it her being sad or her being assertive... he should also execute some of the rights and be assertive ...atleast on gopi in their room...

- Harini... i really don't know if the track will backfire...or not... but Ahem should also learn that he cannot take her for granted ...and the silent treatment will definitely erupt a volcano in him,,,

- in the long run for their relation... just as we expect the change in gopi towards their relation and towards her husband...Ahem also needs to be assertive in confronting gopi in the four walls of his room...

- this silent treatment is needed for him... how long will he be in the shell.. he needs to come out of it... for his emotions need to be brought out...not just in silence and anger and frustration but in a constructive decision making ...and taking steps to work on their relation in such situations...

- silence is fine ...only when there are no hindrances in their relation.. once a 3rd party is trying to cross the LoC ... then he better speak up ..the least he could do is talk to his wife

- we need these two people to put their efforts in their relation...and Ahem needs to take the step...he needs to confront her.. get hold of her... talk to her and apologize to her...

I know ...I am sorry ,,,I came across a bit sharp...people will dislike this view point...but again

as rupal says...size 7 chappals towards the North pole please 😃 so that i can save some time to shop for my chappal😛

p.s: and a clarification..don't get me wrong...i am not anti-Ahem.😆.. it is for his own good i want a change in him,...

Harini, first a HMT hug 🤗 for putting such a wonderful topic for discussion ...you have almost opened a pandora's box 😆 I agree that Rashi is taking it bit to far and rest I beg to disagree with you hun!! 😳 I think there is no line b/w them now so there is o question of pushing the line 😉😆. This indifference is important as it will bring out many conflictive issues in the open and will eventually pave the way for "efficient mating" after all the waiting 😆😳
Munni, HMT hug 🤗...I agree with you wholeheartedly. We married woman can only get it lol😉. Yes, Ahem ji has to come down on his knees and beg for her forgiveness, he has rebelled enuff in the past😛. He has to seek her forgiveness...Not only for comparing her with Anita and yelling at her but for sitting and comforting Anita in his room. Gopi not only needs an apology but a full blown explanation too. Gopi needs to be treated just like a princess ...nothing less😉. It is the right time where he can ask for her forgiveness and best time to form a relationship of equality. Ahem will not break or budge so he has to be pushed. Rashi is taking Gopi on the right track.

Gopi's love has been patient, kind and is not jealous. It is and is not arrogant as Ahem's love😛, does not act unbecomingly as his love. Gopi's love can never be provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered. Her love rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Now Ahem's love should also bear all things and endure atleast a few things😉. Today Gopi came to his aid just like a true saathiya and saved him from Anita. Ahem may be a mighty and strong business tycoon but he can never say no to chamelian Anita as she has cast a spell on him . But he was at a loss of words and Gopi not only helped him but she complemented him beautifully. So Now Ahem should understand her shortcomings and help her out and aid her the right way...confront her or comfort her but he has to act now!!

Ok As Munni & Rupal say... you can throw size 81/2 chappals towards the North pole please 😃 so that i can save some time to shop for my chappal😛