Pushing the Line - A Mistake - Page 2

Originally posted by: hanaGoHem

all what you are saying are right but i feel what ever gopi is doing is good why im saying that ahem know how to get angry o gopi say no to her why not with anita , why he cant refuse her why he will always wait for gopi come to save him . he did first mistake dopi has forgive him , the second time it was worst he compare her to anita , yes he know gopi will forgive him when he will ask to forgive him here i saw how he will get angry but not on gopi but on anita because of her all this is happening .in the prev did he ever give gopi a chance to explain no , did he ever listen to her no , did he ever forgive her no but punish her yes . today we are seeing him anger to accept his sorry . then he will realize how he did to her before .

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

@Munni..That was a good view and comments were fabulous👏

Don't worry. .those size 7 chappals may come my way and not yours for I think you are in the majority today..😛

Those points are are very valid and I accept them. I am not absolving Ahem at all and I do not think wanting him to realize the mistake and make a stand in his relationship is anti-Ahem.. Actually it is pro Ahem😆

The need for Ahem's assertiveness, his understanding, his stand in this relationship and his support for Gopi are all things I want him to do too.. As Shruthi pointed out, he did not come out with a NO to Anita today.. he needs to learn to do that, no doubt but he is still to understand relationships..

I honestly think that he will if Gopi makes it clear that she is uncomfortable with the time he talks about Anitha or spends with her. See I am not saying Gopi needs to say this. I know this is not that easy and I know that G will never make that statement.

I do not blame Gopi for being silent with him. But there is a limit is what I mean to say..

His assertiveness would have come in a totally different way if he was given a chance to explain. Now it may come out in anger and I hope that it is constructive and makes Gopi feel a part of Ahem than not..

Marriage is always two ways Munni and there is no two opinions about that. Yes.. Ahem has to work on his marriage the same way Gopi works. But my point is the man is clueless.. He thinks he is wrong in saying those words. He does not realize that he is wrong in not taking a stand against Anitha and her antics.

He needs to be told.. Hard and makes Ahem seem dumb, but that is how it is.. Men, Munni, cannot think like women do.. What is obvious to us is a mystery to Ahem.. This silent treatment may of course give the desired benefit.. I am all for that.. And I cheer for that..

My apprehension is that it may not but again as I mentioned, I cheer for that too.. There is never a right or a wrong in relationships.. What Rashi does is neither right nor wrong. The result will make the decision. But that is not the point.

After pushing Ahem for 2 days, my PoV is to strike and make him explain. Then when he is in that mood let him know how it feels to be ignored and along with that say how uncomfortable it is for a wife to be in the presence of a GF.. Gopi need not do it.. Rashi can in one of the conversations mention that in the passing. Ahem will be all ears..

Throw the man a rope.. If he then does not catch it and come back, it is his fault. I am sure he is just waiting for a thread. That is all😛

loved ur post Harini. .

i wish this cools of before its too late. . koki did warn Rashi if things dont work she will have to answer to Koki. . .and Rashi is too typical with her ways. . .

Gopi shud haev stuck to her gut instinct at that time wud have been a lot better. . .

but CVs want to complicate things a lot more further. . Ahem will be angry most likely on Gopi but he might be even more angry that GOpi was pretending to be angry on him just because Rashi said so. . .if taht ever comes to surface.. has GOpi no mind of her own. .well Rashi did gud by teaching her that she shud not forgive too easy but yes she is going high levels with it. . and might backfire big time. .

very scary situations. . . . . and situations that will updoubtedly be misconceived by the ostrich

Great post Harini.

Originally posted by: sbp1971

Great post Harini.

I agree today it Rashi was being too extreme, and there is a slight chance of Ahem being angry on Gopi, but right now he is more angry at himself for saying what he said in the first place and his frustration is because he is unable to get her alone and apologize and explain.

I believe this is also needed though, Ahem has come a long way from being angry to a loving husband. He has learned to be patient when Gopi needs to say something because he knows her fear makes her stammer and it takes her time to get her words out.

He has changed for better because of her and she in turn has learned to do things for him just the way he likes them.

In all this there is only one thing that Ahem has yet to conquer and that is his impulsive anger and jumping to conclusion based on seeing the surface of things and not analyzing why she did what she did. Had he thought about this the day of the party things would have ended differently, but his impulsive anger made him cross all limits and he did one thing that he should have never done to Gopi, most especially after telling her he wants Anita to get better and for them to go back to their lives the way it was.

So based on this I think this time he will think things through before reacting. He knows he has hurt her deeply not only with words but with his inability to deal with Anita and her situation.

I think he will plan things calmly and catcher her alone and voice his frustration to her in private, he will fumble and it will seem as though his angry but in the end he will get his point across.

He will make her realize that he is happy with her and their life together and he has moved on as far as his past is concerened.

Gopi will finally have what she needs to take her stand to fight for her right as his wife, because based on what he says to her this will erase the words spoken in anger and also what she heard later.

Originally posted by: ruchisahay

Agree with you on all your points except the one in bold. Does Ahem realize that Gopi has a problem is Anita? He showed her on many instances that he prefers her choise, her food over other's but I don't think he gets that Anita specifically is the problem.

Also I am not that optimistic about this silent treatment. I don't think the CV's will make Gopi supremely confident of Ahem's love or acceptance so soon - I think Anita and Gopi's realization would happen at the same time. In fact, Anita's realization that she has lost Ahem to Gopi might happen sooner if CV's are planning some big drama like Anita trying to harm Gopi...But yes Gopi would getting small hints that would help her continue fighting...

That's my take - I could be completely off and I sure hope for the same as you.

For once, I don't want to dig too deep into this. Seeing Gopi pushing his buttons is far too entertaining. 😈 If this is the closest we can come to his repentance, then I have to say that this should go on for a while. Chaucer did say: "Forbid us something, and that thing we desire." And I just may get to see him fighting with a sword against the Lankani, on a bridge under which lava will flow. 😍

I think gopi giving him the silent treatment is good. He might be irritated and wants to blow but he should realize that anger is what led to this. I know that it will not happen because cvs Have forgotten everything in the past but I wish he would have at least one flashback that will make him realize what his anger has done to gopi.

Originally posted by: Vinder90

loved ur post Harini. .

i wish this cools of before its too late. . koki did warn Rashi if things dont work she will have to answer to Koki. . .and Rashi is too typical with her ways. . .

Gopi shud haev stuck to her gut instinct at that time wud have been a lot better. . .

but CVs want to complicate things a lot more further. . Ahem will be angry most likely on Gopi but he might be even more angry that GOpi was pretending to be angry on him just because Rashi said so. . .if taht ever comes to surface.. has GOpi no mind of her own. .well Rashi did gud by teaching her that she shud not forgive too easy but yes she is going high levels with it. . and might backfire big time. .

very scary situations. . . . . and situations that will updoubtedly be misconceived by the ostrich

@Shilpa.. I am keeping my fingers crossed for what you have written to happen. 😛 Thank you..