Article-Mummy never outgrows baby:D-Proof for Koki

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Where Mummy never outgrows her Baby!!!

No one loves a child like a mother does! This is a fact that is known and accepted all over the world. A mother is the giver at most times. She teaches, she guides and she watches her child grow and learn! But what happens when that very mother is told to share her love with another equally important person in her child's life? Is it easy for the mother? How does a mother then deal with it?

Going by the latest set of shows that are airing on TV currently, the hot favorite seems to be the age old Saas vs Bahu drama presented with a rose tinted glass! Gone are the days when mothers are shown out right evil. Today, the lead protagonist in a show is most often the mother who has a unbreakable grip over a child, so much so that she doesn't appear wrong, but is not totally right either! Lets take a look at some over powering Mothers on TV.

Kokila ( Saath Nibhaana Saathiya): when she was first introduced on the show, her very appearance scared the wits out of the audience. Many quickly even stereotyped her as the mean Saas who would leave no stone unturned to torture her daughter-in-law! Time however proved this belief wrong, and people loved the fact that Koki Maaji, was the Gopi's strong support in the Modi household. That never ceased to exist. All of this, only because she knew how important she was in her son Ahem's life! Things today however are changing, what with Kokila slowly realizing how Ahem is slowly but steadily tilting towards Gopi, showing signs of independence and wanting to take his relationship with his wife forward. Ideally, the mother should be happy, since she has always sided her virtuous daughter-in-law! This however is not the case. Kokila slowly feels the pinch of losing her hold over her son, and over a period of time, one will have to wait and watch how this saas handles the husband in him! Tough road ahead!


Dont know how CVs would turn it in future but right now she seems to be hurt!😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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So Shruti all our discussions that Kokilla is going thru pangs of jealousy over losing Ahem to Gopi is right !!!!
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Originally posted by: navyab

So Shruti all our discussions that Kokilla is going thru pangs of jealousy over losing Ahem to Gopi is right !!!!


Yeah Navya I have never ever come out discussing Koki's insecurity so strongly as I did yester!
I could not judge her wrongly, her reactions on seeing Ahem praising Gopi for neatly stacked files and everything well arranged! I was so sure of seeing the insecurity in her!
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Originally posted by: shruts18


Yeah Navya I have never ever come out discussing Koki's insecurity so strongly as I did yester!
I could not judge her wrongly, her reactions on seeing Ahem praising Gopi for neatly stacked files and everything well arranged! I was so sure of seeing the insecurity in her!


I have always maintained that Koki is a very complex character period. Initially, she was busy bringing Gohem closer, as her son had completely shut himself up and rejected her choice. I blame Koki only for that...Hetal had told her tell him abt her illiteracy, but she being stubborn had said... I'll take care of my kids. Being forced into a marriage or relationship is never a desirable thing. Anyway, that is a different topic altogether.
Now cut to present. ...
I understand her insecurity very well... Koki was the center of Ahem's world & hence got his undivided attention and affection. In fact, she was the catalyst in GOHEM relationship but seeing her affectionate son love & admire somebody as her is making her bit jealous...but I think it is only on a subconscious level!!

Denial is a weird thing - it baffles me😉😆...
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I have always maintained that Koki is a very complex character period. Initially, she was busy bringing Gohem closer, as her son had completely shut himself up and rejected her choice. I blame Koki only for that...Hetal had told her tell him abt her illiteracy, but she being stubborn had said... I'll take care of my kids. Being forced into a marriage or relationship is never a desirable thing. Anyway, that is a different topic altogether.
Now cut to present. ...
I understand her insecurity very well... Koki was the center of Ahem's world & hence got his undivided attention and affection. In fact, she was the catalyst in GOHEM relationship but seeing her affectionate son love & admire somebody as her is making her bit jealous...but I think it is only on a subconscious level!!

Denial is a weird thing - it baffles me😉😆...

Agree Tina...When Ahem rejected Gopi, it was a challenge to Koki to prove that Gopi was the correct choice she made...& with Gopi losing out the sandyuk...Koki took up the challenge to prove Ahem she always makes the right choices...
Ahem started liking Gopi only at a latter point in time during the educational track when he saw her dedication in things which she was doing...it had nothing to do with Koki pushing Gopi onto Ahem...Now that the challenge is proven & done, she is facing her insecurities of losing her son to his wife...
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Like a said in my post yesterday that it will take Koki time to adjust to this new Ahems behaviour😆 it's not that she hates gopi for talking her place😆 she just has to get used to it 😒Iam sure every mother will go through this once in there life when the wife is here in there sons life😭 specialy a mum who's son like ahem has relied on his mum for everything😆 and now is realing on his wife😆
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Originally posted by: 5cents


I have always maintained that Koki is a very complex character period. Initially, she was busy bringing Gohem closer, as her son had completely shut himself up and rejected her choice. I blame Koki only for that...Hetal had told her tell him abt her illiteracy, but she being stubborn had said... I'll take care of my kids. Being forced into a marriage or relationship is never a desirable thing. Anyway, that is a different topic altogether.
Now cut to present. ...
I understand her insecurity very well... Koki was the center of Ahem's world & hence got his undivided attention and affection. In fact, she was the catalyst in GOHEM relationship but seeing her affectionate son love & admire somebody as her is making her bit jealous...but I think it is only on a subconscious level!!

Denial is a weird thing - it baffles me😉😆...


You made everything so sparkling clear, always the way i had thought about Koki, we indeed are FT Tina😆

But then subconscious level is also her own right. She surely did some mistakes in the past as you said and those were conscious decisions which I have never appreciated but it had to be like that only and no use in discussing it again! She is not denying anything, she hasn't yet absorbed it 1% that her son is drifting apart. The day when she'll realize that her son and vau have to have a private life, she'll move back. And I am hoping, rather want CVs to bring Parag into play now. Enough of ignoring him all this while. He's absolutely loving person when it comes to showing his emotions for his family and maybe he helps Koki in adapting to the changing conditions with ease and then it would be real pleasing to see. For isn't in real life, Mil and Fil do come close when their kids get married. They start supporting each other as never before!

And after having said all this, I am sure of this thing also that no matter how much Koki is insecure right now, her pure, sincere and truthful heart and her love for her son and Dil will make her adjust to the changing circumstances soon enough for she has started recognizing the changing relation of her son and vau. And she would sure take a backseat shifting to the front only when required by her son and vau.


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Honestly, they are showing the abnormality in Koki. We know she is not bad as a person but this degree of obsession over her married son and insisting she do everything for her son and not his wife is simply abnormal. What's more difficult to understand is that she chose Gopi herself for Ahem because she wanted a good wife for her baby. Mother's insecurity when the son is married is understandable but Koki is taking it to extremes. Please CVs, stop this abnormality before it' s too late
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Posted: 13 years ago
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NO!!!!! You guys have it all wrong.

Watch Koki's expressions again. Everyone keeps saying she is jealous. But she isn't. However she is in thinking mode when certain things happen.

Aham praises Gopi's work performance. The role that Koki was filling prior to marriage. However, he should be praising his wife's other skills too. And Koki wants him to realise that Gopi is his wife. Not just someone who does his chores.

She left them alone when Gopi entered the room. But she deliberately ensured that Gopi was not around the following morning. Why was Aham so desperate for her to be around? There was no chore that needed doing. Did he even realise that he wanted her there. And even more so why did he want her there?

Koki wants Aham to start questioning himself and coming up with the right answers. That he is in love with Gopi. No-one knows her son's mind better then Koki herself. She realises he is in love with his wife. But he needs to admit this to himself and move on in his relationship. So Koki will facilitate this process and gradually make her son see the light.


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Originally posted by: ShaunSA

NO!!!!! You guys have it all wrong.


Watch Koki's expressions again. Everyone keeps saying she is jealous. But she isn't. However she is in thinking mode when certain things happen.

Aham praises Gopi's work performance. The role that Koki was filling prior to marriage. However, he should be praising his wife's other skills too. And Koki wants him to realise that Gopi is his wife. Not just someone who does his chores.

She left them alone when Gopi entered the room. But she deliberately ensured that Gopi was not around the following morning. Why was Aham so desperate for her to be around? There was no chore that needed doing. Did he even realise that he wanted her there. And even more so why did he want her there?

Koki wants Aham to start questioning himself and coming up with the right answers. That he is in love with Gopi. No-one knows her son's mind better then Koki herself. She realises he is in love with his wife. But he needs to admit this to himself and move on in his relationship. So Koki will facilitate this process and gradually make her son see the light.




@bold...rightly said Shaun...koki has noticed Ahem more from the day gopi has gone to her peehar that Ahem is just appreciating her for his work she is doing...nothing else...v r seeing that her presence not around him is letting Ahem to go in flashback...n even yesterday everyone went to mandir but not gopi...koki would have call also her as she is badi vau of modi..but she didnt do that just to make Ahem realise..! so now it would be much awaiting how she will help Ahem to make him realise that there is something that he need to express his true feelings of love towards her

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