Nature Vs. Nurture

Good post Rupal. And a very good question.

In my opinion and from what I studied, we are combination of both nature and nurture.

Rashi is perfect example of this. 90% of her DNA is all Urmila, she only got 10% from her Dad. Her upbringing is 100% Urmila. Now the 10% she got from her Dad is influenced by the 90% Urmila and add the 100% of nurture and we got a product called Rashi. This will always be her personality, trait, character.

We don't know much about Gopi's parents, but I truly believe they must have been just like Gopi. She is biologically her parents child, and they must have been of pure heart to give birth a child like Gopi, with the same heart.

Yes she could have gone the other way after being brought up in the type of environment that she did, but in Gopi's case the pure heart she inherited from her parents did not allow her to be a kalkari queen like Rashi, and the part of it is also the emotional abuse.

Gopi learned what not to do, and all Rashi learned was do whatever you can to win.

What a thought provoking post Rupal.. and wonderfully questioned👏 Nature or Nurture

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

What a thought provoking post Rupal.. and wonderfully questioned👏 Nature or Nurture

It is Gopi's nature to be kind and considerate. We can teach children not to throw a stone at the dog but to empathize with the dog's plight and realize that it is a life like ours and will face the same kind of pain that we feel if hit should come from within. Not all have have the nature to be sympathetic or considerate to fellow human beings.

But even if you cannot empathize, there is something called as education, and principles taught by our elders to us. We may not understand why it is wrong to tease a person with a stutter when we are very young, but we do not do it because we are taught it is wrong.

Rashi has a disadvantage in both. She has got her genes from her mother mostly that makes her neither naturally sympathetic or considerate and due to her mother's teachings she does not have a conscience because her mother taught her she does not need to have one as long as she gets what she wants..

a combination of these two along with being selfish and callous makes her the person she is today.

As for Gopi, it is her nature to be the person she is. You cannot teach someone to always look for the good in others. It comes from within. But you can teach them to be confident. Gopi being naturally calm, lost her confidence and self respect in her upbringing. But the inner core of hers remains true and she is sloly blooming under her husband's care.

Originally posted by: Dhabu89

Not to change the subject or anything...but I would like to see something bloom under them😳

😆 Rupal you are not alone, we all do. Hope we get our wish soon. He obviously cant's go few minutes without getting a glimpse of her.

Originally posted by: sbp1971

😆 Rupal you are not alone, we all do. Hope we get our wish soon. He obviously cant's go few minutes without getting a glimpse of her.

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

😆😉 That is exactly what we need..

But I think if someone.. just someone made Gopi realize that she really is loved unconditionally then she will look at things differently. Her need to keep everyone happy will at least take a new course where she thinks as to whether the person really does deserve such happiness.

I blame Jithu the most. He is not blind and he chose to ignore what was happening. I am all for a good person but turning your face another way to avoid facing the reality that your niece is getting tortured is too much

In doing what he did, Jithu made sure that Gopi felt guitly everytime something good happens to her. I guess she was made to feel that way by her maami. But Gopi is still human with desires and wishes and I want those to come to the fore in Aham's nurturing😛

Originally posted by: Dhabu89

I agree. Jeetu bhai should have had enough 🤬 to speak up for a child who has lost both her parents and is living under the scrutiny of your useless wife. I am a Mami myself and I am very strict like Koki, I believe in respect, if the kids don't show it they get lectured. But later they get hugged and kissed by me till they end up giggling like crazy. Kids should never feel as they are a burden on anyone. What happens to them is out of their hands and in the hands of the adults that take care of them. I am called Hitler Mami...but then she also hugs me the most and says I love you to me the most😊

rashie has been brainwashed by urmil and so has gopi..

Originally posted by: ANJ4

rashie has been brainwashed by urmil and so has gopi..

Rashie to where everything is mine mine mine and I want that tooo.

gopi to where she has nothing and if she does rashie takes it away.

and gopi give it to rashie with a smile.. What if rashie really wanted ahem , I have a feeling that gopi would also give him to rashie, but rashie did not want koki ... she wanted hetal coz rashie knew she coulde do a snowjob to hetal.