GoHem: Moving too quickly?

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Traxy101

@Traxy101

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Posted: 13 years ago

I'm not too happy about the fact that Ahem and Gopi are getting closer together, I mean think about it their relationship hasn't been the best, there's been too many problems that are literally being buried.

Can you build a house that will last when the foundation is weak?

Ahem understands her now, that's good but he is yet to really repent for his past mistakes, I mean sure he's taking care of her and everything but not once has he full on admitted he was wrong to her and apologised for it. Denying everything he did ever happened isn't healthy for a relationship and if he can simply move past it easily then it just goes to show that he has no conscience and in the future who knows what he could do to her.

Right now what I'd like to see is any marriage between GoHem put aside and for Gopi to move out of his room, he needs to apologise to her, get closure from his relationship with Anita and begin to work towards being a better husband by first becoming her friend, I mean in all the best relationships you aren't just husband and wife, you are best friends, soul mates, lovers. The connection runs so much deeper than simply walking around a fire seven times and declaring yourself married. It's a sacred bond and you need to work at it.

I want to see him fight for their relationship because at the moment, it's just come to him so easily, Gopi was always there just waiting for him in the wings and whenever he needs her she's there for him only to be tossed aside like a toy until he needs her again.

He needs to know that Gopi is human too and that she deserves to be treated like a princess, he needs to beg for forgiveness and he needs to earn it.

After all in life anything worth having is worth fighting for.

She's his wife, what better reason is there to fight?

Edited by Traxy101 - 13 years ago

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Justlikethat1

@Justlikethat1

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Posted: 13 years ago

Traxy. You are right in the fact that their relationship needs to start when Ahem realizes his mistakes. But I think this closeness of theirs is nothing like that of a husband and wife. It is just the closeness of two people who have known each other for a year now. Ahem has just started being civil and maybe has taken to making sure Gopi is comfortable. They do not even share their feelings with each other and are shy still.

I think this is just the building block to the next stage of their relationship which will start with Ahem's realization that he cares for Gopi. He is noteven at this stage yet. If and when he does that then Ahem will have to work on this relationship. Fight for it. Gopi has done it till now for both of them. He will have to fight sooner or later. I think we are already in the initial stages of his fight. He is fighting himself now from acknowledging his feelings.

I understand were you come from with regards to a clean start. Yes.. Ahem's behavior until recently was obnoxious to say the least. But I think in the family setup they are in now, breaking the marriage for a clean start is impossible.

But he definitely needs to apologize for the way he treated her. The only problem is that although Ahem is getting to know Gopi now, he still has not 'realized' the fact that he had a totally wrong impression about her..

The minute he realizes that he was completely wrong about her before, he will start to appreciate her patience. He will also start the process of realizing that he had been close to a monster before. But he is still not at that stage yet.

I think when he does reach that stage, he is definitely going to find it difficult. One, he still has to cross the bridge of making Gopi understand his emotions. Our Gopi has burned her fingers too many times to even go near him with any expectations. He will first have to work at that..

Then there is his guilt that I am pretty sure will make his life a hell. Ahem basically is a good person. Circumstances made him do his worst. But he still has his values intact. When he does realize his mistake, he is going to have to face the fact that he was one of the worst of Gopi's offenders. I am pretty sure that unlike Gopi who would forgive him, he will find it difficult to forgive himself. He is going to suffer, suffer for the way he treated her and more.. Because Gopi's forgiveness would just be an added blow to a person like him.

The mighty Mr. Modi who considers himself perfect will see that his 'unworthy' wife actually is more worthier than him.

The pace at which the story is progressing is nice as now the cvs have kept us guessing as to why Ahem is doing what he is doing. If it is out of 'duty' and not love, then I am glad that at least now he considers Gopi's welfare as his duty. That is a first step to his acceptance that he considers her his wife. Love and the penance for forgiveness will come later.

I am pretty sure that the CVs will not let their relationship move to the next step without Ahem's realization of atleast the cruelest of his mistakes.. (The slap, his verbal abuse etc.,)

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Scarlet28

@Scarlet28

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Posted: 13 years ago

I agree with all of you. I believe Ahem is already starting to understand Gopi. Perhaps he has also realised that he was wrong about her. However, for him to really appreciate and treasure Gopi he needs to find out about the abuse she has copped from Mami and Rashi. Kokila should also highlight some truth to Ahem about Gopi's character (she can bring this up in relation to past misunderstandings). Meanwhile, the slap issue over her illiteracy and the jewellery needs to be resolved. Kokila should also tell Ahem it is Kinjal who stole the raksha bandhan jewellery and tried to blame it on Gopi.

I do not think Anita needs to come back to put a closure to their matter. This can happen by Ahem himself realising that it is Gopi he truly loves and Anita was just an infatuation. Ahem is a sensitive and wise man so this should be reflected in his thoughts as a realisation on his part. He should make this confession to Gopi that it is her that rules his heart and Anita does not exist for him anymore.

And If Anita does come back, it should only be as a confirmation to him that he does not feel love for her anymore. It should be kept short and not dragged on...

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Justlikethat1

@Justlikethat1

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: Scarlet28
I agree with all of you. I believe Ahem is already starting to understand Gopi. Perhaps he has also realised that he was wrong about her. However, for him to really appreciate and treasure Gopi he needs to find out about the abuse she has copped from Mami and Rashi. Kokila should also highlight some truth to Ahem about Gopi's character (she can bring this up in relation to past misunderstandings). Meanwhile, the slap issue over her illiteracy and the jewellery needs to be resolved. Kokila should also tell Ahem it is Kinjal who stole the raksha bandhan jewellery and tried to blame it on Gopi.

I do not think Anita needs to come back to put a closure to their matter. This can happen by Ahem himself realising that it is Gopi he truly loves and Anita was just an infatuation. Ahem is a sensitive and wise man so this should be reflected in his thoughts as a realisation on his part. He should make this confession to Gopi that it is her that rules his heart and Anita does not exist for him anymore.

My thoughts exactly. I think Ahem is mature enough to come to his own realization. He does not need to compare Gopi and Anitha and choose the better out of the two.. They are not dolls in a shop.

And If Anita does come back, it should only be as a confirmation to him that he does not feel love for her anymore. It should be kept short and not dragged on...

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-JollyJabeen-

@-JollyJabeen-

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+ 7

Posted: 13 years ago

Excellent,you are all absolutely correct!👏

Gopi is one in a million,and Ahem has treated her worse than a servant (he even treated Mani better!🥱)..Ahem seriously needs to repent,he can't have our gem so easily!😳

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ANJ4

@ANJ4

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+ 2

Posted: 13 years ago

i also agree with you , but I think CVs has forgot a lot of things and I have a feeling that they may not go and explore all the things that has happened in gopi and ahems first year of marriage.

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Justlikethat1

@Justlikethat1

Sparkler

+ 2

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: ANJ4
i also agree with you , but I think CVs has forgot a lot of things and I have a feeling that they may not go and explore all the things that has happened in gopi and ahems first year of marriage.

Not all the things.. Now that cannot be done.. But they will surely take up a few that they consider most important.. For example - Ahem has shouted at Gopi like numerous times, they may show just one of those sequences. It would still be fine as long as Ahem changes

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Munni

@munnihyderabad

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+ 6

Posted: 13 years ago

Res

loved the post

will be back after later

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-Nafisa-

@-Nafisa-

Stunner

+ 5

Posted: 13 years ago

Totally agree with you all, in all our fan fics we have Aham working really hard to meet the standard that we feel Gopi deserves and he always, in most cases, apologises to Gopi, and in a recent episode, last week Friday 30th December 2011 episode he recognised what he had done by allowing Gopi to fall down, she had developed a believe that she was incapable of walking, and he said to Gopi I'm sorry, I'm very very sorry, and he couldn't stand to hear her take the blame this time and he went off into the bathroom (possibly to let out some tears), he was so consumed with guilt the next day, the flashbacks he was having, of the fall, Doctor Joshi's words and Rashi's words, all playing on his mind...so our man has changed.

Most definitely he also needs to have flashbacks of the whole year of ill-treating his wife and make amends, if it means Gopi leaves him for a short while, then let it happen.

But also in the fan fics that I like, Aham doesn't loose his macho demeanour, because us girls don't want an absolute wimp as a husband, for a man to be successful in business, respected he must have just a little bit of arrogance, not too much, just enough and I want the CV's to get that balance with Aham, yes his pining for his wife, yes they are showing us lots of scenes where he cares for her but I want him to retain that essence of Aham Modi.

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--HANISA--

@--HANISA--

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+ 4

Posted: 13 years ago

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i agree with all of u he must get fb wat he did in the past but i think they are not going to show us how he realize his mistake or it may be if anita come then he can get the fb it she tell her about umang and kinjal tract

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