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Originally posted by: flipfl0p
(I had drafted this to post separately. But when I read your post, I attached it as a reply. So few things are repetitive).
Thank you Mahi, enjoyed reading your very unique POV, made me think a bit more on this (as if I hadn't thought enough already ;))I did say earlier, "I believe Kabir was in love with Shreya. I consider, he is not virgin. I think, there must be some contribution from Kabir's side too for the marriage failure. All this will not stop me from loving KaYa. I accept Kabir with his faults". Areh why did I act like Ananya, without even knowing what he did? 😆Does that mean you don't love KaYa or accept Kabir anymore 😕
Episode on Friday ended with a cliff hanger, leaving audience to ponder again. "What was that big deal?". But to me, their narration with regards to their love before marriage had nailed it. To me, that was the deal. Shreya was in love with Kabir, ready for the commitment. Kabir was not. Given time, would he have proposed himself? We don't know.There is always this problem between boys and girls. Priorities for boys in a relation is companionship. But they prefer understanding the girl before committing. Till then, they are commitment phobic. Girls seek security in a relation. Unless they know their boy is committed, they can't be good companions.Perfectly said. 👏There was a smile in my face at the end of Friday episode from Ananya's point of view. Shreya might have stayed with him for long, might know Kabir's taste. But at the end of the day it was Ananya, for whom Kabir left his conference to stop her from leaving to confess his love. It was for her, Kabir was ready to let go everything of his, including his ego. Shreya can never say that, despite being with him for years.I agree, and it is because Kabir never experienced the kind of feelings for Shreya he feels for Ananya. His love for Shreya was an convenience.So what was Shreya's fault? Do I buy her drunken friend's statement, she married Kabir for a bet? Reading Shreya, she is not that impulsive person to pledge her life and make a decision to stay with a person for a simple bet. She married him for rather simpler reason. She loved him.Did Kabir love her? May be. May be not. A girl who can be ticked from all standards confessed her love. He could not refuse. He dated her. But a commitment needed love, which had not developed yet. Have heard in several movies. If your love wants to leave you, let it go. If it is true love, it will come back. It was the time when Ananya was about to leave, Kabir confessed. If Shreya had left Kabir during dating for Kabir's commitment issue, would he have realised Shreya's place in his life and gone back to Shreya?I do believe Shreya started the dating for a bet. But I don't believe she married him for the bet, she isn't that insane or stupid. But it is possible that when Kabir confronted her about the bet, she was left speechless because of the partial truth in the accusation and that made Kabir suspect her intentions? Probably, Shreya turned worse because of the same reason, the guilt of starting the relationship on a false note?I think Kabir did love her, or atleast he thinks he loved her, but it wasn't a mature love, it needed time and proximity to mature and lead to next phase, which Shreya didn't give him. And marriage changed all the equations and expectations.To me, this was the big deal. Shreya did not do that. Why? She was insecure. She was not sure, whether he will come back to her. She had gone beyond love. Kabir had become her obsession. She was not ready to take a "No" after her emotional investment. She forced him to marry her. The main deal in their relationship is this marriage, where one was half hearted.Remaining, I don't buy either of their argument. I can't believe Shreya tried everything including quitting her job for Kabir. After all, she was a woman living in a loveless marriage. She must have taken her frustrations out, with or without her knowledge. Nor I believe Kabir when he says, she kept hurting him intentionally. He was dragged into a relation with half will. The emotions he had during marriage was half love, other half being his insecurity. After marriage, instead of finding opportunities to make his love grow, he found opportunities to make his insecurities grow. He blamed Shreya for everything, including addiction to alcohol. Which addict blames himself for his addiction, that I should buy Kabir's story? After she left him, he wanted to get money, fame and power. So man, you wanted to do it in the memory of the woman who left you? If you had really loved her, you would have done it when she was with you, to please her (like how you accepted the company share, just to see the smile in Ananya).Ok, I can't say whether Kabir really was finding reasons to make insecurities grow he did say, he thought it was coping up time for Shreya, I am sure his middle class mindset would have triggered to make the marriage work. But his ego and feeling of let down came in the middle after he came to know of the bet. And Shreya for whatever reason couldn't convince him that the bet wasn't true.I don't think Kabir chased after power because thats what Shreya wanted from him. I think it was because he assumed he and Tarini became victim of the media trial because there were powerless. He wanted to conquer what he considered as his weakness in protecting Tarini.Lastly, it is not the incident. It is the happenings after the incidence which disturbs me. Tarini and Kabir remained close friends without any awkwardness. There are two possibilities regarding that incidence. One, Tarini gave in unwillingly. If so, it was "rape". You can't forgive your friend so easily, even if he was drunk. Other, she gave in willingly in a slip of moment. I don't accuse her, by becoming moral guardian. To me, it is not the fact that Kabir and Shreya were married. I would have said the same, even if they were in a living relationship. Every relationship demands certain commitment. If you can't promise it, get out of that relationship. Whatever explanation you give will not take away the fact that, you cheated your partner while in a relationship. Lastly Tarini's reaction towards Kabir's revelation. A mom asking a child, "Did you show your homework to the teacher? Was she impressed?". 😲 👏I agree, :). Tarini always acts like a mother and mentor to Kabir :)Kabir should have realised what emotional damage he has caused towards Shreya. He felt guilty towards his friend who was with him when he crossed his limit. But not a word of remorse for the woman, who was staying with him. Instead, hatred. Is a confession enough to forget what he did? Yes, she tried to spoil his reputation. Any other woman in her place would have done that. But despite this fact, she did not try to badmouth him in his working environment. Did not see that courteous behaviour from Kabir. Second, feeling guilty towards Tarini did not put him off from flirting with other women. He was carefree. Lastly, when Ananya said she did not want to know his past he just let it go. If he could pressurise Ananya to listen now, he could have made her listen to him before too. He did not have to wait till Shreya tell that to him.Sorry, I beg to differ here. I think Kabir did feel guilty initially towards Shreya, but not probably as much he should have, that is because the love aspect of thier marriage doesn't exist anymore, he assumed Shreya doesn't love him, so the guilt is only towards not respecting the position of his wife, it wasn't about hurting Shreya's sentimentsI think he flirting with other women, was nothing to do with his desires, but everything to do with his power hungry ways, flirting was another of his tools. I don't also agree that Shreya was courteous to Kabir, in my opinion it was she who brought up their past too many times in the presence of others, whereas Kabir only talked about her to Ananya.I am not bothering to mention about the bloopers in the story so far. Ananya who followed Kabir for these many years did not know the scandal. Tarini is supposed to be working for Kabir. But Kabir does not know, when she is leaving for assignment.Coming to Kabir's photograph with Shreya at the end. As I said, Kabir has been her obsession for which she payed (and paying) a heavy price. If she had left his thought out of her brain during her dating period itself, it would have been good for her. But she has not able to do it, despite being divorced. A rich pampered girl, who probably never heard the word "No" or received a rejection earlier, has to accept this bitter truth. How much ever she wishes, she was not and cannot be Kabir's love. That does not mean, she cannot be anybody's love. Right now, she is too bitter about the word "love". I feel, she badly needs a psychiatrist to get over her Kabir's obsession.
