I cant understand y they are making mala this much good ?

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Dipali

@dipali13

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Posted: 11 years ago

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wowooo what u said...man have all right to put his frustration on woman but woman have to accept it like a destiny? and don't forget rudra never hit paro so don't compare her with mala😡 mala try her level best but she is human too how long she can suffer? and why? she is right to leave hubby but she should take legal step and ask custody of rudra but then also after one month mala runaway delu left his village with rudy so can't blame her for that matter too😕

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vann

@vann

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Posted: 11 years ago

#12

I don't know but my first reaction to Dilsher was what a violent poisonous man. No wonder his wife left him. The way he was shown in the beginning it was clear that he was abusive and full of poison.

In fact his reappearance with grown Rudra and their new relationship was a surprise to me.

But I think even Rudra was able to see the poison his father carried though he cares for Dilsher. Remember he used to call him by name.

So this revelation of dilsher's past hasn't come as a surprise.

What is really surprising here and now is that though the story absolves her we are still looking for reasons to blame the woman who decided to take charge of her life

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Erika

@Erika1

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Posted: 11 years ago

#13

OK so let me put forward a scenario,

Supposed the new villain that comes in is as we know male, but supposed even though he is evil, he falls in love/lust or whatever with the heroine, and let us say that he had come into the screenplay before the hero had given the heroine the wedding chain and declared his love for her.

And supposed that the heroine had fall in love with the new (hot sexy hopefully) villain, because her husband aka the hero, forcefully married her, yells at her all the time, shows her attitude and throw away the plate, tea cups and what have you not, remember this is a hypothetical situation so don't raise your blood pressure,

My question then is this, would the heroine at that time, prior to knowing that the hero loves her be in the right to run away with the new villain?

There are two sides to a coin is what I am saying.

I therefore conclude that if I was the hero I would neither forgive my mother nor my father fully. Ever. They hadn't my best interest at heart at any time after their separation. One of them poison my mind against women, beautiful women in particular, and the other was in her cocoon with her new villain without a seemingly care in the world. 😆

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Sona

@mistyrains

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Posted: 11 years ago

#14

My mother's former colleague, former classmate and otherwise a family friend has now been subject to domestic abuse for a period of nearly, lets say 25-26 years. She's a mother to a girl and boy and been married to the man who is not essentially an alcoholic - but, comes home drunk every other night. He's a respectable, business man to the society, but once he comes home to his wife and children, sees food adverse to that of his choice, the house a little bit in a mess - he looses his temper and doesn't hesitate to strike his wife repeatedly. So this woman, when asked by friends & family, asked by my mother as to why she didn't leave this excuse of a man and walk away, she said - since I'm unemployed, I won't be able to support by children. Hence I can't leave. And so till this day, she tolerates it all, with three other women in the house ( namely, her sister-in-laws or mother-in-law), but none have done an ounce of work in putting an end to any of this.

^This is probably the reason that I have chosen to comment on this deeply disturbing post of yours. Mala in this fictitious story is neither being portrayed as good or bad. I believe, its a notion entirely of your own making. Are you saying that Mala should have stayed put and tolerated everything Dilsher was handing out to her with a pinch of sugar and lived on for her son and tried to adjust herself according to Dilsher's whims and fancies. Mould herself into someone else, a more meeker, more submissive version of the woman she is. Lose her identity, lose herself in the process - for the sole reason that she is a female and , well women should always adjust in the institution of a marriage, right? So let me ask you this, if Mala would have left, not fallen in love with Tejawat or any other man and lived her life, would you have hated her as much? Or is that what is pinching you, that like every man, a woman too has every right to live, breath, walk, talk as she wants.

The show is not showing Mala in a good or a bad light. But simply as a woman, who had the guts to think of a life that was better, fairer and happier. But she just lacked the physical strength as that of her husband to fight and take her son away. It is showing that she never stopped loving him, even if she wasn't physically present to show that. So, if she did leave her home and left behind her husband for a semblance of safety, its highly disturbing to see that you being a woman will think against it.

What is even more disturbing is the fact that you think a woman in Mala's position should've begged to take her back after the abuse she's been through. Its saddening that a woman had made this post and even more so, that a few or more of the same are going to be 'liking' it.

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vann

@vann

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: Erika1
OK so let me put forward a scenario,

Supposed the new villain that comes in is as we know male, but supposed even though he is evil, he falls in love/lust or whatever with the heroine, and let us say that he had come into the screenplay before the hero had given the heroine the wedding chain and declared his love for her.

And supposed that the heroine had fall in love with the new (hot sexy hopefully) villain, because her husband aka the hero, forcefully married her, yells at her all the time, shows her attitude and throw away the plate, tea cups and what have you not, remember this is a hypothetical situation so don't raise your blood pressure,

My question then is this, would the heroine at that time, prior to knowing that the hero loves her be in the right to run away with the new villain?

There are two sides to a coin is what I am saying.

I therefore conclude that if I was the hero I would neither forgive my mother nor my father fully. Ever. They hadn't my best interest at heart at any time after their separation.

Yes she would be right in choosing which man she wants to be with. Just because someone is in love with her doesn't mean she has to put up with his anger and abuse. If Paro had not been in love with Rudra and Rudra had gone on being insensitive brute, she would have been right In Going with whosoever she wants.

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incandescent

@incandescent

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Posted: 11 years ago

#16

I don't know what to say. I am also disappointed with this plot twist actually. I wanted Mala to be grey and I never really imagined Dilsher as an abusive husband, specially with all those speeches about beautiful women. I thought his character would be similar to SRK's in KANK. Bitter and frustrated.

She was forced into an arranged marriage and never really loved him...he was insecure at first and then had an accident and turned bitter, maybe suffered financially...she felt suffocated and left him for the richer and better looking man. Both grey characters basically. Don't know why cvs have to make everything black and white. 😕

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LadyLucifer

@JoonSMoonchild

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: BharaniK265
Whatever it may be Dilsher is wrong/malechauvanist everything . But , Reason for his anger is due to his frustrations in work .. other than her to whom he can show that . It is mala's responbility of making him understand , how paro is tried alot to change rudra. she didnt do it instead she started friendship with tejawat . Whatever the situation she has to be with dilsher for the sake of rudra. but she decided to take him away with her but what about dilsher the man who failed in all the facts business, life etc ...
I know no body can tolerate to an extent .. so she left dilsher finally agree but why to marry tejawat again . is this a real love for rudra ... if she is really love rudra dilsher or whatever comes she will not do all these ... she might have begged dilsher to accept her instead of going behind tejawat as paro stood in rain for rudra .
really i am totally disappointed with this twist that dilsher is wrong .. dilsher is not wrong but a frustrated man dont how to show his feelings .. Mala also poor in this situation but going with tejawat is not acceptable ... they should have shown some other reason ...

Am not against mala but reason could have been better ... dont scold me guys .. its just a pov ..

Hi,

No one is scolding or bashing you here. 😊

I dont understand..are you saying she should have stayed with the man who abused her?? Is that your definition of a good wife?? Accept passively what ever 'pati dev' does?? Die happily at his hand?? Put up with his abuse?? So a man is allowed to show his frustration by hitting and abusing his wife and she should accept it??? Work tension justifies abuse??? See, this is my understanding of your post. Correct me if im wrong.

I dont get mala. But i don't blame her for having the courage to leave her abusive husband. I can never forgive her for leaving her son.why leave him with an abusive drunkard??? What made you think he'd be safe with the guy???

And please don't compare paro with Mala. 😊

--kate--

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Erika

@Erika1

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Posted: 11 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: incandescent
I don't know what to say. I am also disappointed with this plot twist actually. I wanted Mala to be grey and I never really imagined Dilsher as an abusive husband, specially with all those speeches about beautiful women. I thought his character would be similar to SRK's in KANK. Bitter and frustrated.

She was forced into an arranged marriage and never really loved him...he was insecure at first and then had an accident and turned bitter, maybe suffered financially...she felt suffocated and left him for the richer and better looking man. Both grey characters basically. Don't know why cvs have to make everything black and white. 😕

This is what I thought too honestly, that she would be gray that would have been digested better, not the hosh posh they are portraying.

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BharaniK265

@BharaniK265

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Posted: 11 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: AngelTeen

Errr...what?

She should have begged Dilsher to take her back for what? To be killed off by his hands? That would have solved all problems, no? Thats what abused women should do! Either take whatever is being served to them or beg their 'praan naths' to understand and take them back after they committed the HUGE folly of thinking about their well being.

Brilliant. With people like you, we will show all women their place in the society - become nannies for your husbands and take every shit they throw your way because they are stressed and frustrated and its your job to be with them no matter if you die in the attempt. Lovely.

Excuse me friend ... its just pov of mala ok .. i think u didnt understand what am trying to say ... she should have begged her accept back for what for the sake of rudra . and i mentioned tht poor mala i know she suffering a alot with him but all abused women will leave the kid my point is when she left rudra was around 15 yrs so definitely she would made him understand or she should left dilsher and lived alone . y she went with tejawat then where the love for rudra went . but she left with tejawat ... and pls dont use these type of words okay am not against womaen and moreover am talking about relationship ... if every one will start saying that he stressed and frustrated then also he have to keep quiet has am his wife ... are you really thinking about relationship maintainig for the sake of kid ... and moreover the person who you love most to them only u will all your anger ... mala has tried to make the marriage work ... but she also mentioned about tejawat that he gave love/friendship whatever ... this that and all . so she want her life to cherish again but wat about rudra . if that is the case most of marriages are failure only . even then also most of woman trying to hold for the sake of kids remember that . those were really called woman . most of the parents especially ladies thy are trying sacrificing there life for their kids ... not like going with someone . and she can live alone know y she left with tejawat ... if she is not having kid .. i would really appreciate that she left with tejawat because she cant tolerate to a extent but she having kid y she didnt take back rudra .. more over i am thinking about rudra , because he is victim .. am not supporting dilsher and moreover dilsher is not married to anyone . whatever he has done is absoultely wrong but this is not right reason thats wat am trying to say ... pls try to understand that am not saying that dilsher is mahan and to tolerate all the things . where the motherhoood feelings went for last 15 years ... simply by calling danveer and asking ... no body is thinking in rudra's view how much he suffered these many days . what the hell.. will it be back ? mala should stand by herself not going with some one and saying am not that much bad . she enjoyed 15years life with tejawat pls remember that .

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Zeeliciousxo

@Zeeliciousxo

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Posted: 11 years ago

#20

I applaud Mala for leaving her abusive husband, that takes a lot of courage and strength, but I don't know why she didn't show the same courage and strength when fighting for her son. How could she leave Rudra with the man she knew was abusive? If Tejawat's truth hadn't been revealed to Mala she may never have come back to the Ranawat haveli again. So how could she go her whole life thinking Rudra will be ok, with such a terrible father? How did she even think that if she met Rudra he would welcome her with open arms? If she left him with an abusive man did she not think Rudra would also be abused? Where was her concern for his well-being?

Also, I don't understand why the CVs had to make Dilsher so black in order to justify Mala running away. So a husband has to be abusive and downright cruel in order for a woman to be able to run away? Why can't a woman just run away because her marriage is loveless and she found love elsewhere? This is what is really demeaning women in my opinion, showing that women cannot do what their heart desires (find love elsewhere) unless they have a damn good reason for it (an abusive, cruel husband).

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