Understanding Paro's Frame of Mind - Not at all a Despo - Page 2

Originally posted by: lylow

Beautifully written...

I actually am surprised with all the hate Paro seems to be getting after yesterdays epi...All these talk about "desperate" reminds me of how Rudra was forcing Paro to marriage just episodes before to get her sign the papers AND "desperate" reminds me of how Paro burned her hand in order to avoid applying mehendi...I could say Paro is desperate to earn Rudra's forgiveness because she believes she wronged and hurt him for not trusting her.

And saying Paro is equivalent to laila🤢 I mean how? They both love, view love in total different ways. laila's love is selfish, and according to Laila, if Rudra doesn't love her, he can't love anyone else either. The way i see it Paro now is just trying to prove her innocence and that whatever feelings she has for him are real.

See the feminist in me wished paro would have slapped him a couple of times and yelled back at Rudra yesterday for his distasteful comments. But what would that accomplish? Rudra would just have gotten madder and MADDER. We have seen Laila arguing with him trying to assert her points but Rudra does not exactly think rationally when he is angry. Rudra is very much driven by his emotions. Paro is standing up to him in her own way. I believe she will stand up to herself by proving her innocence and through her actions.

Come to think of it why exactly is there so much negativity in forum after yesterdays epi?

All that being said even I agree CV could concentrate a bit more on Paro's characterization. Paro seems to be a complex character and bit more insight to her thought process could help viewersconnect with her more

Originally posted by: Oyster

"No man's vision lends its wings to another man" - Khalil Gibran

Seriously tired of reading posts on bashing Paro's desperation without discussing the reason behind it.

First thing first, Paro is NOT Sanaya Irani. Since we all live in urban cities and lead a modern life, we judge Paro's behavior accordingly. That's wrong. Paro's a village girl whose life revolves around her dreams and the biggest dream she has woven wholeheartedly is finding her love in life. While we have no time to dream, Paro's a girl who spent her days dreaming about that prince who shall one day come and claim her. Imagine wen u have no school, no technology, no glitter in life but just that preoccupation with nurturing one hope, dream, and desire.

And recently that dream of Paro manifested itself in the form of Rudra. How can she let him go without betting her life on him?! We have difficulty understanding because our vision is limited to the phenomenal world. We did not see Rudra making any promises or expressing love towards Paro so we think Paro's going overboard for no reason. But Paro has surrendered herself to Rudra after all that she experienced in the nonphenomenal realm. She believes in divine signs more than the ongoings of the physical world. And so she has every reason to believe that Rudra and Paro are meant for eachother. They are destined to be together. Imagine when the realization dawned upon her that Rudra is the person she had always dreamed about much before meeting him in the physical world. When she learned that Rudra stands as her shield in his presence and in his absence. When she finds out that they shared a moment when they were most vulnerable early in their childhood. Finding the doll just when she pleads for divine intervention to clarify her intrinsic confusions. All of these sign are as important to Paro as finding guns with the baraati was to Rudra. I find it simply beautiful as piece of fiction.

On the other hand, Rudra's vision is limited to the physical world like ours so he sees no significance in Paro's firmly held beliefs because they are nothing but mere coincidence. Btw didn't Rudra impose himself on Paro when he believed that she was putting her life in danger?! The difference is that he had physical signs n Paro has spiritual signs to substantiate their respective claims.

This dichotomy reminds me of an analogy. we have the spiritual believers called Sufis and the traditional orthodox scholars. These two groups have unresolved debates for centuries. After studying their arguments I realized that the primary problem is the fact that the Sufis believe in spiritual signs that the orthodox scholars have always rejected because they mainly go for textbook knowledge. So it's like you don't see what I see and hence we disagree.

In reading literature, we were taught to understand a character's mindset before judging the character else everything would seem so out of place. It's even worse when u use your own mindset to judge a character's behavior that comes from a totally different background. And so I think Paro's "desperation" is in sync with her character.

One last word. How on earth can we compare Laila to Paro?! Laila has shared physical intimacy with Rudra while Paro invokes a spiritual bond. Paro was never physically attracted to Rudra. To her they were made a pair sitaaron ki jahan mein. Laila has not experienced anything of what Paro cites as evidence. We have seen Laila getting frustrated when Rudra doesn't respond to her physical advances but we will never see Paro make any such attempt to prove her love. I don't intend to demean Laila but I m just showing the contrast in Paro's and Laila's understanding of love and the reason behind imposing themselves on Rudra.

In short, drop Rudra's binoculars and try to understand Paro using her own frame of mind.

Originally posted by: pakpearl

Ur post has helped me to calm down,Soniya...😃

I was not liking the way Rudra behaved with Paro...

And all this criticism

Thanx a lot for this very much needed post !!!