The Widow Etiquette - Page 9

Originally posted by: Naach_Basanti

even in south India where women are discouraged from wearing any jewellery, even a bangle, from wearing a bindi or from taking active part in festivals and happy occasions.

Tat way i am proud of my family. My mom's eldest sis was widowed just a few mths aft her marriage 😭 But my granddad fought against all odds, educated her & she retired as headmistress in a govt school. Also though she doesnt wear bindhi she wears subdued colors & she participates in all festivals & family functions including my wedding & baby shower 😊

She didn't even know him well enough to feel pain..When one loses their spouse, the grief and mourning is natural-it's about losing someone you love, losing your companion etc..If Paro had gone back to her village, she'd have observed all those rituals coz the society would have made her

Bravo!

Originally posted by: Bagwati.

She didn't even know him well enough to feel pain..When one loses a spouse, the grief and mourning is natural-it's about losing someone you love, losing your companion etc..If Paro had gone back to her village, she'd have observed all those rituals coz the society would have made her

In her current situation she neither feels the sting of having lost someone she loved or the pressure of the society to act in a certain manner-thus her behaviour is justified

👏 for bringing up this topic.

Originally posted by: Newbiesoapfan

Agree completely...she was not emotionally invested enough in the marriage and the partner to mourn too much...

Someone said she should have looked at her shadi ka joda peeping out and felt bad... but she is past that... she is a widow now and that has registered ( it registered sometime when she was in jail )... so she has realised that she cannot cry over what has been ... she is making the best of a bad situation ... you may say created by her... but then any other way would mean even worse consequences for her only relative mani sa and the village.!!

Rudra killed the old Paro once ... but the crying mourning Paro died a few days back... she realised that mourning or crying would get her nowhere... and that I think is the best part of Paro...

Does she wish Varun sa was not dead - of course.

Does she wish that she had a married life with him - of course

But she is past that ... she has accepted her fate... and with that acceptance I sense a resignation to the fate ... that is fuelling a quiet courage that allows her to face Rudra ( if anyone thinks she is comfortable ... she isn't ... it is false bravado... but she is getting better and better at it)

'Rang'rasiya lead wearing berang kapde wouldn't do good for the show. So instead of berang widow-attire, Paro is made to wear the male lead's rangeen kapde...

Perfectly raised! Character of Paro is so natural. She was distressed for long with all the happenings in her recent past. After realising that she is used for trapping Thakursa and Birpurvasi she takes a complete 'U' turn. We see a drastic change in her behaviour. Its as if she has promised herself that she wont cry anymore and face the situation with determination. Being a widow is not forgotten as she calmly asks for change of clothes indirectly conveying her present state without crying. She is trying to find solace in her decision and stay with it. Infact I am happy to find such a character devlopment of Paro who is portraying a strong women without being violent or just defensive. Thnx to writers.

Good post Swati 👏

Great post NB. Paro did not even get a chance to live as a wife, so why is it necessarily to weep and mourn life long for him? I have aunts who are widows and they still wear colored clothes. No one goes by the old belief.