The Widow Etiquette

Sultan_Of_Swing

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Over the last few days I have seen a few complaining that Paro isn't crying like a widow, smiling unlike a widow and now wearing colourful clothes unlike a widow.

Is there a code of etiquette as to how a widow should conduct herself? Isn't grief subjective, relative and very personal?
Is Paro's only identity associated with her husband who is now dead, a husband she knew for 2 days?

Would we expect the same of a widower too?

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would like to keep it personal.. :P ;)

@CandYlicious_S

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Posted: 11 years ago

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And then people say we live in 21st century..!! *sigh*

A very thought provoking post NB.. 😊

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litty thomas

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Posted: 11 years ago

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well said...👏

Paro has evry ri8 to be herself to smile and to do watevr she likes...

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KrishnaSourav

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Posted: 11 years ago

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sigh this is time pass new century came but ppl still think ...

woman has to grief has to left her food has to left wearing color full dress n mourn day night 24*7 as her life stop there only

I still wonder y a woman has to maintain all this...woman's life n identity has only revolving around her husband as if

such sad affair for women

nice post Naach_Basanti

indeed good one...

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710617

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Paro barely knew the guy she got married she's crying at her hard luck but too many things have happened to think that she's a widow all these issues will be touched upon when those suhagan festivals like teej will come...

But I feel this not a Balika vadhu kind of female right story..I seriously hope so😕. The makers have put forward a bold guns and roses love story...

Actually kind of western novels where a girl has been taken captive by a powerful man... He has his reasons...

Now can u fall in love with your captor ... Somebody who has killed ur husband ...there are enough novels I have read where girls falls for Viking, pirate Scottish highlanders now how will they justify it in an indian Rajasthani scenario I am waiting and watching...

Edited by msin - 11 years ago

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Guinea

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Posted: 11 years ago

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I am SO GLAD you made this post. I am so disgusted with this nonsense abt widow clothes , whatever that is supposed to mean 😕

Yesterday ppl jumped in " on a huge blooper " in the show by watching a SBS segment where we were informed that " rudra is taking paro to the bdf camp where she will stay put" without even seeing it in an actual episode.

Today , we know that she is back in the ranawat haveli ...wearing gorgeous clothes as rudra's finance so the probelm is

A/ why is she not in widow clothes

B/ sanaya is not comfortable in the clothes she is wearing as she made a vague comment .

If sanaya is not comfortable in what she is wearing than she being a grown up women and a professional actress will have a chat with the PH , nobody is forcing her OR can force her to wear something she doesn't like ...we as fans need to stay out of this and also don't need to be her internet mommies.

OR is the real probelm that she is wearing this in RR😉

For what its worth ..sanaya was looking absolutely gorgeous in the black/ white and gold lehanga , showing her beauty and figure to perfection 😊 I hope sanaya continues to wear these gorgeous lehanga cholis in the show and doesn't resort to wearing "widow clothes / cover herself up" to please a few ...

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-WalkThatWay-

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Its funny how always some members constantly complain about paros dressing but weird how the same people are never seen in being a part of daily episodes and other discussions

What a pathetic...regressive and narrow minded thinking they have

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Rockerchic

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Okay I m not sure if this is controversial or not since so much of it is associated with "culture" In any case I have VERY strong views against widow "etiquette" or lack there of. (Read Patriarchal chauvinism)

That aside I still think Paro' s reaction isn't too absurd. She knew him for few days, they were married only on paper... She's reacting not as a widower because she isn't one in any practical way. She's only reacting to the loss of her friends and family and the life she can't have which in a broad sense includes her "husband".

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Aruni.

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Posted: 11 years ago

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I don't know what is it with this widow business in India. She's been associated with that husband of hers for only 2 days, so if she is not missing him, that makes sense. For the record, now she's not thinking of all the trauma happened in the last few days either. She's trying to find a way forward among people she does not know - Some of them are nice, some are terrifying, some are disgusting (she is yet to meet Masala mami and Sumer i mean). She has been an orphan - so she knows how to live among strangers. And I am enjoying this phase of the story.

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damn

@Deus_Vult

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Posted: 11 years ago

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agree with you, people will say that they are living in 21st century but their thoughts are more of 15th centuries!😆

i am glad, there is not anything like "sati" and all these days , otherwise paro would be dead by now for her husbands with whom she spend only 2 days

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