Originally posted by: HearMeRoar
I generally don't respond to Arjuna-Panchali comments because while I like them separately, I don't like them together. As a couple, she gets cuts down to prop him up.
1. As @KP said, polyandry was preplanned. All Pandavas knew it because Vyasa told them to do it. Drama was played for Panchali's benefit.
2. Arjuna's weapon in the chamber where Yudhishtira was lying with Panchali can only be taken to mean Arjuna approached her for intimacy out of turn. Because Gandeev was not yet in the picture, and there wouldn't be merely one set of bow and arrows in the palace. Arjuna could've borrowed from any guard. Also, armory would have guards who would've told him the king and queen were inside😆. So yeah, a logical interpretation would be Arjuna went to Panchali with expectations which were not exactly proper.
3. The scene after Subhadra's return: the sequence of Arjuna's visits was something like this - Yudhishtira, Panchali, THEN Kunti. Imagine that... he took Subhadra to meet Panchali before the mother. Not only that, why in the world did he apologize unless he did something before which needed Panchali's forgiveness? Another marriage in those days was nothing to apologize for, and even if that were the case, wouldn't his 2nd visit have been to his mother? Plus, Panchali's reaction has been mistranslated by almost everyone. The Sanskrit version says Panchali said things "pranayat." That is, out of love. Not jealousy.
I think he was apologizing for the misbehavior which got him exiled. She refused to relent, so he sent Subhadra.
4. Arjuna-Panchali-Krishna dynamic is very interesting. Arjuna tried to cajole Krishna into doing things Panchali didn't approve of. She succeeded in making Krishna see things her way. She then threw a speaking glance at Arjuna who once admitted defeat and the second time, tried again, but Krishna said he'd do what needed to be done, anyway.
5. Panchali missing Arjuna. Janmejaya actually orders the narrator to describe how Pandavas and Panchali were missing Arjuna. Since Vaishampayana's dakshina came from the king, he obliged. The wording is subtle mockery from Vaishampayana. He actually says Panchali preferred being sexually assaulted in the dice hall than have Arjuna off on the trip! Also, she starts by saying she misses Arjuna and ends by saying she misses Pundarikaksha 😆 - Krishna, not Arjuna.
Centuries of fan fiction and more recently, TV shows have made Panchali into a lovesick puppy which she never was. In fact, most of the romantic idiocy comes from Arjuna's side in the actual text. Unfortunately, audiences then and now prefer the man to have the upper hand.
I don't think any of them needs to be cut down. Especially Panchali who is certainly a more compelling character than every man in the epic. In fact, to me Arjuna-Panchali seems to be a relationship of equals in which Panchali has equal authority. As you pointed out, he goes to apologise to her, when he doesn't have to. He goes to her before his mother. Later, she along with Subhadra is involved in Khandava dahana, which I think has a lot more to it than the supernatural stuff given in the text. In Virata, when Kauravas strike it is Panchali who decides Arjuna will be Uttar's charioteer. Arjuna isn't even present there and Uttar orders his sister to bring him there. This speaks of authority as well as trust to me. As for the inappropriateness, it's literally mentioned that Yudhishtira was lying with Panchali where all the Pandavas kept their weapons, not just Arjuna. If anything's inappropriate, it's that. Arjuna barging him of course has a lot of connotations but I don't think that the later apology was for this. Draupadi is angry about the marraige, which she specifically states. As for that later declaration about preferring being sexually assaulted, BORI thankfully, removes that nonsense. And Pundarikaksha also means Arjuna, not Krishna alone.