If Asad was wrong...why not Razia Note PG 2

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Waqt Zaya

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Posted: 12 years ago

#11

I justified Asad's Slap and i will do, i dont care if anyone goes against me or seconds me or whatever

Cause If i was in Asad's place that time, i would have killed the other person forget it being a woman or man. Soo hence yeaa!

Edited by MisHumptyDumpty - 12 years ago

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HC_Meena

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Posted: 12 years ago

#12

I am new here but one thing is for sure... Whether it is a girl or a boy, it doesnot matter. Violence in any form, in any situation is never justified... Period.

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Waqt Zaya

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Posted: 12 years ago

#13

Asad has been always a family person, to him his mother is everything. To me my father is everything. And on a personal front, if anyone dares to say a word to him,they know the consequences.

Asad just slapped. JUSTIFIED well enough.

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Waqt Zaya

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Posted: 12 years ago

#14

I dont know why it is termed as Violence? Shouldnt you guys then term what Haseena Bii does or Razia does to Baddii Bii as Violence too?That is indeed SERIOUS VIOLENCE. You guys should be against that too.

Edited by MisHumptyDumpty - 12 years ago

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-Shormi-

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Posted: 12 years ago

#15

arre yar ye slap issue firse mat start karo..accha khasa toh forum chal raha hai y bring dis thing again?👎🏼...given da circumstances asad ws in koi bhi insan aisa kar sakta hai not dat i'm defending him saying he's ryt bt cum on his mother ws shot & we all know how much he luvs his mother plus zo's tyming ws also wrong...i'm not evn goin in2 razia's violencegiri harkats around badi-bi😆..peace out guys:)))

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Laila Banu

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Posted: 12 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: Katy_AZ

I have always been a fan of ur writing...I personally want to mention this..ur presence worths on QH forum...
But then I have to disagree with u over this particular thing... cz it'sss sooo preettyyy hard to be in the situation n then SPEAK the same
He was on the verge of loosing his voice <his mom> the man who finds it sooo hard to communicate with his own inner voice all he has got is his own mom...
when u see ur fears coming true... its sooo hard to be stiiff over ur fingers

Appreciate the note that you have enjoyed my writing. And you are entitled to disagree with me because in your OPINION no one can control themselves in this situation and the consensus is that EVERYONE will behave in this way. WRONG. No, not every man or woman would hit or slap someone if placed in a situation where they would lash out at someone without hearing what they had to say first. Not everyone has poor anger management. Do not use the situation as an excuse to justify Asad or anyone else's behavior. If you want to defend what he did and OK it, that is your prerogative and if you were on the receiving end - as Zoya - and do not have an issue with it, that fine, but I beg to differ.

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Laila Banu

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Posted: 12 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: MisHumptyDumpty
I justified Asad's Slap and i will do, i dont care if anyone goes against me or seconds me or whatever
Cause If i was in Asad's place that time, i would have killed the other person forget it being a woman or man. Soo hence yeaa!

Well I do hope you like jail food because that is exactly where you'd end up thanks to your inability to manage your anger. And what would you do when find out the truth when the person didn't do what you thought? Wouldn't that be sad. Wouldn't you regret your actions? And how would you plan on resolving that situation? In this case Zoya was perfectly innocent. How do you rectify the situation then? It's every easy to go ballistic, but it takes a life time to repair the damage once it happens.

I also know that you posted on this forum that you thought Zoya was turned on by it and that you saw it in her eyes, so what else can I say?

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Laila Banu

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Posted: 12 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: Katy_AZ
Why do we view everything with a perspective of a woman... y not as ZOYA...
be zoya n then say... was it so wrong... kya koi haq nai hota kisi insaan ka dusre insaan pe when that person loves u... inspite of broadening the meaning of slap why are we not trying to broaden the meaning of LOVE... Do u also open the same sort of anger if ur dad slaps u... if our parents have ri8 over us because they love us... can't the slap us... n if they can... every person who love us HAVE THE RI8... cz LOVE is same only the form of LOVE changes... shayad usse pehle kabhi zoya ko kisine thappad mara bhi hoga ya nai... he showed his RI8 over her... If Asad was wrong THEN then zoya is wrong today by interfering in ASAD's personal matter...his family problem... If zoya would have revolted then...she wud have been wrong today by revolting against Asad's pains...
We women are not soo low nd weak that we can not tolerate...
the ZERO TOLERANCE level only leads to ruining of relationships...sometimes...we need to live it with a bit of tolerance..that's the beauty of relations...It's not women voilence... it's the situation of Man's Life wrenching circumstance😭
zindagi me...har baar... sahee sahee nahee hota... situation ke hisab se sahee galat decide krna chaiye... ye WOMAN VOILENCE nai tha.. ye reflex nd Instant reaction tha...jo gussa Zoya pe utar gaya...
Wen we cant stand with a person's worst how an we ever expect him to hold us in our worsts?😳

And why not? In your world and mindset it appears justifiable and acceptable for a man to slap a woman, and for you it is not violence. It is disappointing that while other countries and worlds are moving forward to educate themselves that this is not acceptable, you are choosing to remain in a mindset that is very ancient and harmful. That is fine; and that is your right to hold these viewpoints, but if you're going to want to persuade others to join your platform, you need to present a stronger argument to justify and support that slapping is a sign of loving someone.

And no, it is not right or OK for parents to slap their children. Plenty of parents raise their children without slapping them. The world is actually changing. And also Asad is not Zoya's parent, they are supposed to have relationship as equals.

If you want to sympathize with men who slap women, that is your choice. If Asad was the victim and not Zoya; that she put her cheek in the way of hand, that is OK. This is not about women being weak and not being able to endure a slap, this is about treating people with respect and dignity and in my view slapping definitely does not fit that definition.

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Rockerchic

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Posted: 12 years ago

#19

It's sad that after pages and pages of discussion, you never got the point.

I'm not going to waste my breathe.

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Yasmin

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Posted: 12 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: Laila2009

And why not? In your world and mindset it appears justifiable and acceptable for a man to slap a woman, and for you it is not violence. It is disappointing that while other countries and worlds are moving forward to educate themselves that this is not acceptable, you are choosing to remain in a mindset that is very ancient and harmful. That is fine; and that is your right to hold these viewpoints, but if you're going to want to persuade others to join your platform, you need to present a stronger argument to justify and support that slapping is a sign of loving someone.

And no, it is not right or OK for parents to slap their children. Plenty of parents raise their children without slapping them. The world is actually changing. And also Asad is not Zoya's parent, they are supposed to have relationship as equals.

If you want to sympathize with men who slap women, that is your choice. If Asad was the victim and not Zoya; that she put her cheek in the way of hand, that is OK. This is not about women being weak and not being able to endure a slap, this is about treating people with respect and dignity and in my view slapping definitely does not fit that definition.

WORD!!

And for the words in black and bold - I and my siblings for one have never been slapped by our parents, yeah my parents raised their voices at us but they have never physically hurt us. And I think one of the reasons is because they had been slapped around as children so they know violence isn't a way to set children straight, it isn't a way at all - violence in any kind ruins things more than set's something right. If we put this matter realistically does anyone honestly think Zoya would have easily forgiven Asad, I for one think any self respecting person would have moved out of his life then and there and what would have then happened to Asad when he found out that Zoya was actually innocent, he would have no way of repenting and he would have had to live with the guilt that he physically hurt an innocent.

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Also I love how I said I'm not going to waste my breath and here I am - This forums going to be the death of me 😆

Edited by iqbal-pallavi - 12 years ago