A Tale of Two Mommies

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Many people have already discussed the issue regarding Aarti's decision to give Aayu to Pari so what I say will probably sound the same as those others. However Wednesday's episode has left me so restless that it's consumed me at work and all I could think about is what repercussions will occur in the future for all parties involved. Yes, I know the show is ending and there's hardly any point in me stressing myself over this event, but I wanted to give it a stab and see if I could put my jumled thoughts into a coherent piece of writing.

I have serious issues with this baby giving angle the CVs brought in. When Aarti gave Aayu to Paridhi, all I could think about was "There will be some major problems between these two women in the coming future." I don't think both women had assessed what this decision of each (of Aarti deciding to give Aayu to Paridhi, and of Paridhi deciding to accept Aayu as her baby from Aarti) would mean for not just them, but their husbands, their entire family, especially for Aayu in the future.

When Paridhi ran upstairs at the thought that she basically give up the child she considered her own, I don't think she was wrong in being selfish. Paridhi is childish and selfish but she's not a bad person. She wanted to become a mother so badly she went ahead to adopt a child without talking it over with Prateik. She couldn't take care of the child and so she asked Aarti for help. Being a new mom this is natural. Eventually Paridhi will learn and grow as a mother.

Aarti saw Paridhi's pain in her eyes and she realized what Aayu means to Paridhi. It's Aarti's nature to think of others before thinking of herself and while that is a admirable trait in her. Which is why I wasn't surprised when she told Paridhi to take Aayu but I just wished things had gone differently. I had hoped that Paridhi would be kind enough to reject Aarti's offer, but she didn't. Understandable for her as well. We've seen how Paridhi is concerned first for herself more than others but at the same time her attachment to Aayu, in the short amount of time she spent with him, made her see herself as his mother and she wasn't willing to part with him. This is what I had wished Aarti would do, but I have come to terms with that so I'll just leave it at that. Even though Paridhi reluctantly agreed to Prateik's suggestion, she wasn't keen on giving up her baby.

The reason why I was so against Aarti's decision was because of what Aayu means to both her and Yash. Aayu's birth was truly a miracle and to be born, the poor baby had to go through so much. He was a fighter and why wouldn't he be with parents like Aarti and Yash?

The future I was seeing, of power battles between Aarti and Paridhi over Aayu, was in part shaped by what I have seen of other serials that have done the baby giving scenario and in part by the basic characterizations of Aarti and Paridhi. I envisioned Aarti and Paridhi arguing over almost everything regarding Aayu and in turn these arguments would create bigger problems between them and their husbands, between both Yash and Prateik, and eventually between Aayu and both sets of his parents. He would feel upset, unwanted, confused, and perhaps rebellious.

Aarti and Yash will be a big part of Aayu's life. No matter what, they have a relationship of the heart that will keep them connected. But at the same time, I think Aarti and Yash will step aside and let Prateik and Paridhi take "center stage" so to say, regarding Aayu. Aarti and Yash will help Prateik and Paradhi whenever they need them. What I basically mean is that Aarti won't drive Paridhi mad by exerting her influence and her status as biological mother as I have seen in happen in other serials. In those, the biological mother always gets the sympathy because she gave up her child and usually ends up making the adoptive mother the baddie. But Aarti isn't one of those characters. Aarti and Yash are both individuals who always put their family first. They are both mature enough to know that if they have given Aayu to Paridhi and Prateik to raise, then they cannot make them feel less or inferior by "strong-arming" themselves in matters regarding Aayu. I also think that Paridhi will become more confident as a mother because of Aarti and Yash's help along with help from Prateik and of course from little Aayu himself. She and Prateik will allow Aarti and Yash to be a huge part of Aayu's life. They may argue over some things, but I don't think there will ever be anything major that would tear the family apart. Aayu will help both sets of parents to come together to provide him a good future and good upbringing. And that's what I'm going to go with and take away from this show.

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Feel free to like, comment, agree, or disagree. I have rushed through this trying to make my thoughts a concrete coherent post. I don't how well I did that but I hope you guys understand what I am trying to say.

I'm sure I have some typos and mistakes here and there. Please forgive that 😳.



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Posted: 12 years ago
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Nina, I wish you had done this more often. I mean post more often. I think the way you have come to terms with it is how most of us have come to terms with it.


Aarti 'giving up' Aayu- Ya totally in Aarti's character. I wouldn't have done it but I can totally see why Aarti would do it. I can totally see scenarios where power struggles can happen between Aarti and Pari. And had the CVs continued with this track I think it would have given all of us fodder to analyze. But since our show is ending tomorrow I am going to think, like you mentioned, that Aarti will learn to step back and Pari will learn to step up and both parents will always put Aayu first and Aayu will grow up showered with love.


As for Pari refusing Aarti's offer- Ya that is something that I though of too. And the way I think is that Aarti was able to give up Aayu because she has been a mother and has experienced the good and bad that comes with parent hood. Pari on the other hand is yet to experience parenthood to that depth. Aarti can understand the pain of losing a child. For Pari it is still an unknown quantity, honestly. It was reenforced when Pari flippantly tells Pratik that Aarti lost Aayu and she found Aayu so she Aarti shouldn't get to keep Aayu instead it should be her privilege to keep Aayu. How in the world does it work that way? An unfortunate incident happened and Aarti doesn't deserve to keep Aayu? And look how destiny smiles on Aarti, in today's episode, Pari ends up being in exactly the same situation Aarti found herself in a month and a half ago. Will she now understand Aarti's pain? Will she appreciate the cost it took for Aarti to once again give her child up for Pari's happiness? I think today losing Aayu will make Pari realize that Aayu is and will and should always be with Yash and Aarti.


I am sorry! I think went off tangent a little bit. 😆

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Arti give up lots for pari without yash concern and pari just app for little n next min she forgetting
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Kirthi loved your post!

I haven't watched today's episode but I'm really looking forward to it.

Paridhi's childishness shows in such statements she makes like "Aarti lost Aayu and now I found him so he's mine." It's Finder's Keepers for her. And I totally agree with you about Aarti. She knows what it's like to lose a child so she gave Aayu to Paridhi. Paridhi still has a long path ahead of her to make herself the kind of mother that Aayu needs, the mother who will do the best she can for her child, and hopefully raise him to be a swell young man. And I think if she sees that Aarti is letting her take the reigns as his mother and supporting and helping her along the way, then she will be grateful to and for Aarti for allowing her to keep Aayu and for being there for her instead of resenting Aarti for being Aayu's biological mother and thinking Aarti wants to force her maternal rights on Aayu.

Thanks for your response. And I just posted this because it was plaguing me inside to get this out. I don't know if I'll post more often like this but I will give it a try 😳.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Nina, this is a wonderful post! 😃
I am glad that you decided to write up your thoughts on the matter, because every post that I read that tries to grapple with coming to terms with the Aarti-Aayu-Paridhi situation helps me think through it a little bit more.

I liked reading the discussion you and Kirthi were having earlier...Paridhi's "finder's keepers" attitude did not go down well with me at all...If she ends up keeping Aayu as her child for good at the "end" of this story, then I sincerely hope that she matures as she learns to care for him. I don't think Aarti will be one to engage in power struggles regarding authoritarian decision-making on Aayu's behalf. She doesn't seem like the type of person who would do that.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Thanks for your response Borna.

I agree Aarti is not the kind of person to engage in such power struggles. That was the initial scenario that played out in my head but when I thought more about the person Aarti is, I thought, that the power struggles and dominance of the child may be something seen in other shows, but Aarti isn't like that at all. She would do what she thinks is in the best interests of Paridhi-Prateik and Aayu.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: salvatore-nina

Thanks for your response Borna.


I agree Aarti is not the kind of person to engage in such power struggles. That was the initial scenario that played out in my head but when I thought more about the person Aarti is, I thought, that the power struggles and dominance of the child may be something seen in other shows, but Aarti isn't like that at all. She would do what she thinks is in the best interests of Paridhi-Prateik and Aayu.


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The initial scenario that you thought up. I can understand why that might have come to mind...Indian TV shows in general have a rather notorious history of over-dramatizing disagreements, don't they? Exaggerated characteristics, exaggerated sacrifices, etc. And hence all the flippant comments about characters being "mahaan" and whatnot...perhaps...? That is one of the things that I was thinking of while watching that episode, actually - the way that the creatives presented this particular scenario as one that could potentially lead to disagreements between Paridhi and Aarti (which family doesn't have differences in opinion among family members, though, right?) but the thing is, there's a strong chance that Yash-Aarti's experiences and their personalities won't lead to major blow-ups happening with regard to Aayu's parenting. Aarti understanding Paridhi's pain and her gesture of reaching out to Paridhi by giving her Aayu "to raise with love" already implies that Aarti is ready to give Paridhi the chance to raise Aayu and hopefully that will be an important experience in helping Paridhi grow as a person, too. That is how I am seeing it as of now...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Wow, Nina! 😲 That was an awesome post! 👏
Is it the first time you actually posted on MF?
Oh dear, you should have done this long time. Why now, when PV just ended. Well, better now than never..

Nwei, loved reading your thoughts about the two mom. I so agree, Pari and Aarti have good reasons why they do and accept such things.
Aarti was very generous, isn't she?
Although, it was not kinda realistic for a mother to give away her son that easily. But for Aarti, it's exceptional. She just gave up Aayu to help Pari to overcome her frustration of not conceiving. Maybe this is just the only way she can help her with it, to let her adopt Aayu.
And besides Pari and Pateek is a family to them, so she may think Aayu will be on good hand. They can still guide them in raising Aayu if they want.
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