I see we have a lot of feminist here...VB 6 - Page 2

why can sarita be independent? there are lot of options to go out and work. she is choosing to stay dependent on her husband and that is different than being stuck wid a husband under circumstances. so you are saying that divya can just walk off and not face anything. you answered your own question when you said that this is a strong patriarchal society where male dominates. divya will face shame just like sarita. so far raj's character is concerned, i would say he has been harsh wid sarita and even disrespectful (which is not right) but expecting love from him just coz sarita loves him makes no sense. he loves divya truly and madly and till he willingly falls in love wid sarita, i dont think i can blame raj for current situation of sarita. sarita has a lot of valid reasons to leave him. she is beautiful, has brains and is strong minded. so giving reasons like dependency on husband and that too for a strong woman like sarita doesnt make sense. why shouldnt raj and divya not be together in future? they love each other immensely. meanwhile if raj falls in love wid sarita and if she is willing, then why should raj and sarita not be together?

Nice post! I tend not to comment on this forum much because most of my arguments are twisted to satisfy silly arguments based on favoritism, and especially since I am relying mostly on written updates than the actual episodes themselves to base my comment.

I find that there is only one person to blame and that is Raj! His lack of a backbone has created this situation! He fails to understand the consequences of his actions and yet we are blaming the women, (who I guess deserve some sort of blame to be pinning for such an idiotic man) He had no right to in a way imprison Sarita for 10 years, forcing her to sleep on the floor and taking all the abuses that were hurled at her by his mother, and sisters! And yet still believes he hold he right to ill-treat her whenever he feels like it! But then again why did Sarita give him that right? Surely she is not stupid! And the answer is simple, she had a ray of hope within her, which made her think she could save her marriage, but clearly the man she married is not worth being called a man.

Now moving on to DIvya, her coming into the house, believing she was the cause of Sarita's situation (which in a way she was), still holding on to the hope of gaining Raj back (this is my perspective on the matter upon the way the characterisation of the characters have been depicted)! And she also ended up giving Raj the hope he had been suppressing in his sorrow! He felt now maybe I can get her back, and he acted upon that disregarding Sarita's feelings!

Marriage is not a game, and that's why Sarita wanted to safe hers at all cost! She is not stupid in wanting to do that at all! And well Divya felt a huge burden when she realised what her departure had done, hence her wanting to help, I guess! But in the process she was unleashing rays of hope! But in a way it was good, because now Sarita has realised she has to move on! ( But I hope Raj is made to suffer in the same manner he made Sarita suffer, whether intentionally or un-intentionally for 10 years- he sure as hell do not deserve any happiness)

Members of this forum, will even defend adultery if it glorifies their favorites in the same frame! And will go to any extent of making the other characters look low! I saw a post where although it was made for fun, Sarita was being paired with a servant, people claiming she ought to look at that direction, as if it was her fault! If truly one was at fault then I guess it will be Raj for lacking a backbone, and perhaps DIvya for leaving without giving an explanation! This place would be much healthier if we placed ourselves in the shoes of the characters instead of jumping on each others' throats!

I seriously want Sarita to find the happiness that was snatched away from her by Raj! I want Divya to understand that feeding onto Raj's desperation is not healthy and that she has found a perfect companion in Gaurav!

Nice post once again!

Yes i always said that its raj who is actually responsible for this disaster...

Originally posted by: _innocent_

Nice post! I tend not to comment on this forum much because most of my arguments are twisted to satisfy silly arguments based on favoritism, and especially since I am relying mostly on written updates than the actual episodes themselves to base my comment.

I find that there is only one person to blame and that is Raj! His lack of a backbone has created this situation! He fails to understand the consequences of his actions and yet we are blaming the women, (who I guess deserve some sort of blame to be pinning for such an idiotic man) He had no right to in a way imprison Sarita for 10 years, forcing her to sleep on the floor and taking all the abuses that were hurled at her by his mother, and sisters! And yet still believes he hold he right to ill-treat her whenever he feels like it! But then again why did Sarita give him that right? Surely she is not stupid! And the answer is simple, she had a ray of hope within her, which made her think she could save her marriage, but clearly the man she married is not worth being called a man.

Now moving on to DIvya, her coming into the house, believing she was the cause of Sarita's situation (which in a way she was), still holding on to the hope of gaining Raj back (this is my perspective on the matter upon the way the characterisation of the characters have been depicted)! And she also ended up giving Raj the hope he had been suppressing in his sorrow! He felt now maybe I can get her back, and he acted upon that disregarding Sarita's feelings!

Marriage is not a game, and that's why Sarita wanted to safe hers at all cost! She is not stupid in wanting to do that at all! And well Divya felt a huge burden when she realised what her departure had done, hence her wanting to help, I guess! But in the process she was unleashing rays of hope! But in a way it was good, because now Sarita has realised she has to move on! ( But I hope Raj is made to suffer in the same manner he made Sarita suffer, whether intentionally or un-intentionally for 10 years- he sure as hell do not deserve any happiness)

Members of this forum, will even defend adultery if it glorifies their favorites in the same frame! And will go to any extent of making the other characters look low! I saw a post where although it was made for fun, Sarita was being paired with a servant, people claiming she ought to look at that direction, as if it was her fault! If truly one was at fault then I guess it will be Raj for lacking a backbone, and perhaps DIvya for leaving without giving an explanation! This place would be much healthier if we placed ourselves in the shoes of the characters instead of jumping on each others' throats!

I seriously want Sarita to find the happiness that was snatched away from her by Raj! I want Divya to understand that feeding onto Raj's desperation is not healthy and that she has found a perfect companion in Gaurav!

Nice post once again!

Originally posted by: john909

why can sarita be independent? there are lot of options to go out and work. she is choosing to stay dependent on her husband and that is different than being stuck wid a husband under circumstances. so you are saying that divya can just walk off and not face anything. you answered your own question when you said that this is a strong patriarchal society where male dominates. divya will face shame just like sarita. so far raj's character is concerned, i would say he has been harsh wid sarita and even disrespectful (which is not right) but expecting love from him just coz sarita loves him makes no sense. he loves divya truly and madly and till he willingly falls in love wid sarita, i dont think i can blame raj for current situation of sarita. sarita has a lot of valid reasons to leave him. she is beautiful, has brains and is strong minded. so giving reasons like dependency on husband and that too for a strong woman like sarita doesnt make sense. why shouldnt raj and divya not be together in future? they love each other immensely. meanwhile if raj falls in love wid sarita and if she is willing, then why should raj and sarita not be together?

i totally agree with u TM ...

Problem lies in our misogynistic society that always tends to blame women. This is not the case with this show only but almost all Indian Tv shows which portray women as either devis or dayans with no middle ground. Thats what is fascinating about Sarita's character that she isn't shown as a typical abuse bearing bahu . Waiting for some good feminist Tv shows to storm Indian Television Industry... Fed up of typical saas bahu sagas and shows where abusive and rude male characters are glorified...

BTW nice to know there are feminists on IF as I typically encounter chauvinists or misogynists...😊

I applaud your post.. well said. 👏👏👏. The harsh critics need to imaginary put themselves in Sarita's shoes for a moment .