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Joke! I actually wanted to express my anger and disappointment at some of the opinion expressed in this forum, which means that my title was clear sarcasm.
First off, let me say that I encourage you all to reply to me however you see fit, and I am not unaware of my own bias as a hard lined feminist while writing this post. I just felt the need to post it, as I too watch PV2 with my grandma since it is lunch time but never posted on this forum before (I did when it was PV1- which I watched but then grew bored of.)
I take offense to the comments hurled at Sarita, such as people calling her an idiot or stupid that she couldn't recognize Raj doesn't love her and should have left way before. First off, calling someone stupid doesn't look good on your character.
Secondly, I don't know if people are considering the context, as usual all they see is their favorite stars and will support whatever horrible storyline is being thrown at them. Please do not try to make the argument that it is just a tv show, because tv shows are a reflection of our society and have become strongly socializers in peoples opinions, and reinforce the standard.
What is that standard? The strong patriarchal society in which male flaws are thrown under the rug...like this show, why does no one blame Raj? Sarita is a woman solely dependent upon her husband and has quite obviously been socialized to take on the domesticated role, what face would she show her parents going back? She is not a career woman like Divya where she can just walk off, and probably not suffer the shame people will give her.
As for Divya, she is a career woman, she can walk in and out of situations because she is financially independent. Please consider places and spaces of privilege when forming opinions and the social mobility which they provide.
Coming to Raj, why should either Divya or Sarita be with him? Never mind that he didn't get over Divya in ten years (yea right...psych study after psych study has shown us that humans are the most adaptable creatures on earth), but he is blatantly disrespectful. What exactly did she fall in love with? The fact he has no respect that in ten years he made his wife sleep on the floor? The fact he lets his wife be treated poorly? What's the point? He is disrespectful, and that should be rewarded- Divya nor Sarita should be with him. At the very least, if he doesn't love her, at least show respect and not the respect he is showing now out of guilt that she is going to die.
WHY DO WE ALWAYS FORGIVE THE MOPING MAN, BUT NOT WOMAN?! People are all ready to jump on Sarita for moping around for ten years, but why doesn't someone say maybe Raj should learn to get over it and adjust? Because moping men are cute and more acceptable?
Why should the career oriented Divya, have to settle for Raj?
What is this show trying to convey? Raj also married Sarita, no one forced him to sit at the mandap.
Anyways, all opinions welcome :) and do not worry am not frustrated, just wanted to put my two cents in.
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
