Why is all house work Mona's responsibility

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 14 years ago

#31

Every single mother ont he earth is controlling for her childern. Which mother will not expect her son and DIL to be responsible enough.

Yes and so every mother shud also know the repercussions of being OVER CONTROLLING . And thats exactly what was shown in this serial ...that she was shown the mirror in a hard way . It was realism . She then sat down , shaken , shattered and hurt , and I felt sorry for her but I also felt she invited it . Her son is a good guy ...he never hurts anyone on purpose , is respectful , is responsible . If HE was forced to open his mouth , she better pay attention to what he is saying .

Trying to make bahu 'responsible' seems to be project of Ambaji . But open your eyes and ears and see that Anukapl as a husband has no problems with the dress designing ...he is a guy of this modern age who doesn't mind it , salary cut or not . The moment Anukalp said I dont mind it , she shud have retreated from the conversation prudently . After all its THEIR life . Moulding Mona into HER puppet or Her replica is not making her responsible , neither is throwing water over a young couple's different approach towards life .

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Taral

@taral83

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Posted: 14 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: pari812000

Totally Agree Pari...good analyses. Ambaji is egoistic that is her flaw. Mona is clumsy and lies that is her flaw. They both have things they need to work on to make their relationship better. Many times, people have more good in them which makes their flaws little. Yes Ambaji is egoistic, but she is also smart, weights out her thought, doesn't get influenced very quickly (phui has been trying for days), she knows deep down what is right and wrong and eventually it comes out, she really and honestly cares about ALL her children, dil se. Same goes for Mona, yes she is clumsy and lies, but she also cares a lot about her family, she will die for them, she lies to not hurt anyone, she is a very caring person. Both have their goods and their bads, its just a matter of them understanding each other.

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 14 years ago

#33

in this case Hetal and Karan should be left alone as well as they are newly weds and they should be left alone but they are not as

Oh please . Spare me that . Hetal is living the life of a princess compared to Mona , what more does she want to be left alone ...What she is doing , pretending to be sick and shirking work with her butt in bed whole day , even in nuclear family its not done . Yes I wud love it if Karan and Hetal r left alone EVEN MORE , they shud be kicked out of the house and told to stay SEPERATE so they have ALL the more PRIVACY . Then Karan will really understand HOW useless Hetal is . Right now her in laws are COVERING UP for her while Mona's Inlaws POUNCE on her

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 14 years ago

#34

We are watiching a show about a joint family and there is no theirs or mine in joint family everything is ours

Really ? No MINE and MY ? These are the forbidden words in joint family ...the word is OURS isnt it ? Then why did Ambaji say this won't happen in MY HOUSE when Anukalp asked permission for dress designing in the house itself ? That time where did OUR HOUSE go ? And Anukalp rightly pointed it out to her that its not just HER house but OUR house . Good for him , he is upholding joint family system principles more than Ambaji then .😉

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pari812000

@pari812000

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Posted: 14 years ago

#35

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
in this case Hetal and Karan should be left alone as well as they are newly weds and they should be left alone but they are not as

Oh please . Spare me that . Hetal is living the life of a princess compared to Mona , what more does she want to be left alone ...What she is doing , pretending to be sick and shirking work with her butt in bed whole day , even in nuclear family its not done . Yes I wud love it if Karan and Hetal r left alone EVEN MORE , they shud be kicked out of the house and told to stay SEPERATE so they have ALL the more PRIVACY . Then Karan will really understand HOW useless Hetal is . Right now her in laws are COVERING UP for her while Mona's Inlaws POUNCE on her

I completely agree to what you've said about Hetal and how should she be treated you ve just picked one sentense, i also said in the sentense after the one you've picked taht if Hetal is not improving her attitude then she will be Rifted apart form Karan big time. I was trying to make a different point here. My point was when you are married in a joint family it's not jut Husband an Wife and they should be left alone. It's whole family and the decisions are made with everyone's agreement to make sure that not one feels left out.

Regarding Hetal, I cannot wait for the Day when Amabji finds out the real side of what hetal is doing in her sasural. I also wish that CVs show taht Hetal was complaining everything about her saural was worng and alsot hat Foi had taught her everything.

Before all this happens i am expecting More Negativity to be shown form hetals side before she is reveald to her Mother.

I think that will be the next track after Anchal is Kicked out of the house.

Edited by pari812000 - 14 years ago

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pari812000

@pari812000

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Posted: 14 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
We are watiching a show about a joint family and there is no theirs or mine in joint family everything is ours

Really ? No MINE and MY ? These are the forbidden words in joint family ...the word is OURS isnt it ? Then why did Ambaji say this won't happen in MY HOUSE when Anukalp asked permission for dress designing in the house itself ? That is That time where did OUR HOUSE go ? why Anu had to remind her mothe that this was not only her house it is everyone's and Ambaji got the point, if she would not have gottent he point then she would have done another bhook hadtal as egoiestic she is. And Anukalp rightly pointed it out to her that its not just HER house but OUR house . Good for him , he is upholding joint family system principles more than Ambaji then .😉 Agreed with this. His mother was going to do someting worng by listining to Anchal without knowing her intentions and her son who is BROUGHT up by Ambaji showed her the right path.

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 14 years ago

#37

Agreed with this. His mother was going to do someting worng by listining to Anchal without knowing her intentions and her son who is BROUGHT up by Ambaji showed her the right path.

Son has also inherited the sense of Fairness from his Father . He really doesn't have any of the autocratic , dominating tendencies of the Gandhi women , especially his mother . He is quiet , well spoken , fair and responsible like the rest of the men most of the time . The only person he has not been fair to is Mona , who he has put through the grill simply for keeping up his image in front of his mother . Otherwise most of the time he is a pretty okay guy ...speaking from a mom's pov . He is willing to take on responsibility of feeding so many mouths , doesnt talk back , respects elders . Aajkal Ke zamaane mein aisa koun milta hai ? Where do guys behave like this in todays real world . By now , a guy wud have stayed seperate , tired of the kichkich of the women in the house who dont let him even rest in peace when he returns from a hard days work ...and surround him to tell tales of his wife . Ambaji shud step outside the house and look around a little , phir samjegi .

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SportsFreak

@SportsFreak

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Posted: 14 years ago

#38

Anu is the problem here.Why cant he tell his mom that he has had a salary reduction..When she discovers the truth she will really feel like an outside in her sons life coz i do feel children should share such things with their parents...I also think ambaji has never accepted mona whole heartdly

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Rani

@April2007

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Posted: 14 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: Sonjogl
Anu is the problem here.Why cant he tell his mom that he has had a salary reduction..When she discovers the truth she will really feel like an outside in her sons life coz i do feel children should share such things with their parents...I also think ambaji has never accepted mona whole heartdly

Anu cannot tell his mom for the fear of disappointing her. Ambaji has appointed Anu as her savior, somebody who will look after all her demands, very dangerous thing to do for a child. Anu feels he is reponsible for the happiness and well being of two generations of the family and they live through him. He is very very scared to dissappoint them in any shape or form.

It is not Anu's fault everybody in the family is living through him and he carrying their burden..the family has place huge burden on him, he is constantly reminded that he is responsible for all his mother's dreams and aspirations.

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