maika apna ghar! - Page 5

Originally posted by: meerag

I agree with you. Why does a girl have to stop being loyal to her parent after marriage. none said that after marriage a girl should be not loyal to her parents.no one😊

If her parents are sick why can't she go take care of them. It is my mother who fed me as a child. She is the one that held me when I was sad. no one denies So why should I forget her just because I a married. who told us to forget your parents. Even now when I am worried about something it is my mothers voice that reassures me that I can handle it. obviously...it happents to every one. So why should I not think that her home will always be a haven for me.

for sure you can think . i do so...

Originally posted by: AlmostHonest

I know its so bloody unfair!!! Why should a girl change her surname and why should she stop considering her dad's house her own? I always thought such things no longer exist but guess not ... 😲 Thankfully my parents are supercool ppl and would never dare call me paraya dhan 😆 My mom kept her maiden name and I am gonna do the same ... I like my surname better than my bf's lol I am not gona change it !! U don't change urs either we'll show them 😉

Originally posted by: an_jaani

abay this larki is confused about her feelings.....well sometimes she has no feelings at all....and most of the time she has this one look on her face

Originally posted by: kaasshh

🤣 gosh i dnt know why i cn NVR be angry on you....🤣

Originally posted by: tanthya

This can be stated otherwise too ...why can't both the houses be your husband's too ....if you are told to consider that your Sasural is your own home ..,then shud not your hubby too consider his sasural as his own home .....

.All right !! Now we consider your parent's house also as your husband's house ......and if you were to have a brother ...would he be pleased to see your mother fawning on him ... if you had a sister ,wud you be happy if your mother treated her husband more lovingly than yours [it is understood that there will always be a favorite one ] .. would you be happy if your husband asks for money ,just like he wud ask his parent's...would you be able to respect him in such a case !!


..it is part of growing up and realizing that the relationship is always evolving ,growing ,assuming different hues, ..but the bond underneath is UNBREAKABLE ...Your home will change ..but your bond will not ...that will always be YOUR OWN ..

and secondly ,this is not only prevalent in India ,it is prevalent in every culture ...flip thru the pages of history ..and you will realize that the princess of Denmark left her home to become the queen of England [She accepted England as her home ] ...if you chk the pioneer's history of America ..The girl alone or sometimes with a companion had to travel a long way to her future husband's family and get married there [without the presence of her family on this momentous day ] ...so is the case of egypt ,Arab countries ..etc

In the present day ..,where the social bond is weakening ...the breakdown of joint family and community has made the presence of nuclear family acceptable ...where you are not staying in your in-laws house nor in your parent's house ,,but you are living in your own space that you call your home !!

Originally posted by: tanthya

Rachna..

it is a limitation that we impose on our self ...the gender is not imposing it ...change will occur when we change ourselves and do not expect others to change for our sake

Originally posted by: Aabrayy

i want pratigya to b a dutiful wife at first.......then inshAllah..she'll giv her in-laws more importance than her maika......jus lyk wat komal is doing soo

Originally posted by: tanthya

Name change is the first time for me too ......I've never come across it before ...so will not comment on it ..


All these rules were made for a reason ...although the reason's don't exist now ...we are still following it blindly without questioning it ??

Originally posted by: tanthya

Meerg ;

one's parent's home will always your heaven ...it will always be your safety cocoon ,a place where you can shelter from storm .....

So why should I not think that her home will always be a haven for me.

As you put HER HOME will always be a haven for us ...but it will not be YOUR home !!

Originally posted by: tanthya

I know its so bloody unfair!!! Why should a girl change her surname


See ,in the earlier times..Women were married of far and wide or sometimes were just part of victor's good's .....So adopting the husband's house name ..,was a means of identification ,establishing yourself in the new community and letting the other member's of the clan know to which house you belonged ,whether you were an enemy or friend or a relative ...whether your status was higher than theirs ,lower than their's ...All these was established by a surname ...hence the importance of the SURNAME !!


Victory or empowerment is not achieved by merely not changing ur surname ....empowerment truly happens when you adopt ur husband's home and incorporate the good rules of your father's home and change the not so good rules of your husbands home ....and your efforts are appreciated and encouraged and accepted ...... and THAT acceptance will denote our POWER ...