confused about urmi n trisha

Originally posted by: dumppurvi

@Likarsh

I agree with you. I understand Urmi very much. She is not a pushover, she handled the situation well under the circumstances.

I know Trisha meant well also, but in some ways she was not helping the situation. If Urmi decide to marry Samrat, despite what she told her, what can she do? Showing her disapproval cannot help the situation only cause more tension between Samrat and Urmi.

Urmi under such pressure would naturally ask Trisha that question.

Trisha left, because as I said more than once, she does not react with a cool head at times.

Ishaan is in one ear telling Urmi, Samrat is good and her Mother is telling her to accept the situation, what can she do? Her Mother is supposed to be the most important person in her life, and Ishaan is the one of most important persons to Samrat. In her mind she is getting the best of advice from both sides.

If she did not care about Trisha or what she thought she would not have gone to Ishaan for a final answer, nor would she show doubt to her Mother. So, Urmi is no pushover.

Originally posted by: Dolly-heart

It actually shows how naive Urmi is in this where she does not even realize that what and how she said all those things to Trishna will affect Trishna enough to leave.

And going to her Aunt and shedding tears as to why Trishna left was ridiculous.

And I do not feel sorry for Urmi because she will deserve what she will get when she finds out the real nature of the man she married.

Ishaan is also to blame in this as he has given a completely wrong impression of Samrat to Urmi by doing and saying nice things about him when the reality is completely opposite.

Originally posted by: likarsh

I don't think Trisha can be blamed for what happened at Sangeet and afterwards. Trisha had kept quiet. She walked off the stage because of what Samrat did, and I don't blame her one bit. I think everyone there realized she walked off due to the throwing of money, which is why Rashmi asked what the big deal was he gave her so much notes.None of them want to acknowledge Trisha was right, to them it's a haughty girl (any girl/women who refuses to tolerate such things are considered ahangaris). The "not feeling well" was an excuse that most knew wasn't the case, but chose to go along with it.

I don't blame Trisha one bit for walking off the stage. More than the throwing of the money, she saw how he looked at her as and after he thew the money. It was so demeaning and insulting. I commend her for walking off.

And she never said a word. She kept quiet when they all scolded her, she apologized to Samrat's mother, etc etc. It was only at home when Rashmi kept taunting her that she broke and admitted she got out because she didn't like it. And she defended herself when her mother apologized.

Still,she didn't speak bad of Samrat to Urmi. She kept quiet. Urmi confronts her and she still doesn't try to start any trouble. And when the question comes about her telling Samrat her opinion, Urmi doesn't give her a chance to explain herself, she doesn't want to hear anything against Samrat and takes Samrat as the right one and Trisha as the wrong one.

Trisha at this point is done. She doesn't even bother, and leaves.

So, I don't think from Sangeet on, Trisha can be blamed in how she reacted. She has only reacted to the situations. She was in no way wrong in walking off the stage there, no matter what everyone else at that place may think. She did what she felt because she was disgusted and she wasn't going to stand for an insult. She did not lash out or react when she was scolded. She kept her cool. She only lost it later with Rashmi, and that too she reached a breaking point, and still she didn't unleash or let much out.

At your last two lines @bold, I somewhat disagree. I was planning on making a topic on this (still am actually). Urmi asked Ishaan for validation and confirmation. Too many things were coming out right in front of her, no sane person wouldn't have Trisha's words echoing in their head. She needed that be calmed, so she asked Ishaan so she can get reassurance and she can go on with a calm mind.

If she really valued Trisha's opinion over her husband-to-be (and her family), Urmi would have called up Trisha and asked her to explain herself. They all have phones, and even if Urmi didn't bring hers (which I doubt) she would still have access to others' phones. Instead she asks Ishaan, Samrat's friend.

Originally posted by: dumppurvi

I did not disagree with her reaction in the Sangeet scenario, that is why I did not say all the time only at times. What Samrat did was completely wrong.

I am not trying to completely put blame on Trish for everything, because I know she means well. I just think in at times she needs to reevaluate her reaction to circumstances. Yes, I noticed she did not answer on those occasions, but I think she should have spoken then to Urm's Mother alone and explain how she felt. I want Trish to say something, I never thought she should be quiet, I just want her to do it at the right time and with a cool head.

I understand you disagreeing with me on my last two lines. However, the way I see it, is that Urmi does care about Trish's opinion, but remember her family keep forcing Samrat on her. No matter how she shows concern or questions things, most of the family members, excepting her brother, is insisting on this wedding. Urmi is in a tough place, she likes Samrat and she trusts and is obedient to her family.

At the same time, she loves Trish a lot and she knows there must be some truth to what Trish is saying. Remember the first time Trish told her about Samrat, she went to him to meet him alone and discuss her concerns. I understand why she would, because you have to be smart and know that even your family members can be wrong or not have your best interest at heart, you have to be smart. Plus, you have to give other people a chance to defend themselves. It is not fair for something negative is being said about you and you can't defend yourself, because someone believes the other person.

I can't say what I would do completely in Urmi's position cause I am a bit of a hot head myself when it comes to nonsense. Samrat is not behaving right. However, I would have to be careful in how I handle everything.

The only reason I am on Urmi and Samrat side is because I know the cvs will eventually make Samrat change because he is a lead character. If he was to be a villain I would never want Urmi or even Trish for him.