Re: Craze for Apna Khoon

What is BV trying to show? Why this craze for Apna Khoon?

Is it not natural for wanting one's own child? This need is biologically built into living species.

Originally posted by: Jan50

Is it not natural for wanting one's own child? This need is biologically built into living species.

Only if every attempt fails coup,es are into adoption these days. In our country they are not

Even ready for that. In India a child is some one who is never detached from you in western

Nations. In western nations once the child is raised upto aduthood it is not parent's resposibility

Any more. In our country a girl is a life long responsibility. With so many poor relatives around

They dont alow a couple to adopt from outside. They expect the couple to do every thing for their

Own children rather than do it for an outsider.

I think BV is giving a regressive message here. Especially Ira's changed behaviour towards Shiv is really bad. Mannu's neglect equally wrong. That Basant is crazy about biological kids forgetting he was an adopted guy himself!

It's unimaginable to the extents that people go for a kid. Multiple marriages, surrogacy (sometimes people have various notions about the "womb" also so they prefer to have a woman of own family to give her womb than take an outsider), in case of male infertility the fate of woman is worse...she's almost raped by other male members of the family so that she gets a child that has the family's genes (Savdhan India once showed a case about FIL raping DIL to beget them waaris because the son was impotent. It was so exploitative! In past women were blamed as banjh just to hide the fact that it was the man who was impotent), buying kids or taking kids borne by other relatives etc.

I believe it's disgusting and craze shouldn't be this much. Men and women shouldn't just be considered as reproductive machines.

Biological kid isn't necessarily great. Many kids in BV have been an absolute embarassment and shame for not just their families but also their localities.

If you get a kid then fine but don't be so desperate. It should not be this much of a matter of sukh-dukh, doom etc.

And changing your attitude or getting repulsed after decades knowing the child you thought as your own is not your own is really uncalled for and unfair.

Ira was not repulsed by Shiv.

@Hooked

I understand Ira's anger at Alok and Meenu. But her lines like ayah and giving love, reposing hopes and dreams in someone else's child were harsh and ridiculous. Even on surface level how could she conjure up such thoughts and use such words?

Why didn't she accept when Shiv said only she'd be mom for him and not anybody else?

If she still had affection for Shiv the same way like she had earlier, then she wouldn't listen to Sanchi and get influenced by her. She's still distanced from Shiv. No amount of tears, reassurances and hugs from him have cut much ice with her.

From my own experience I can only say a mother cannot have a different feeling for adopted child , a child is a child it does not matter whether biological or not but every one does not have the same thought.

@ Reshmi

@Mahi

I believe Singhs are wrong in harping about it despite knowing Ganga's condition. Surrogacy was discussed today. But their behaviour and dialogues earlier were not right. Especially when Sumitra labelled DS' talks about Mannu being there as bahaana.

They do neglect Mannu a lot these days.

If Rat's family redeems then also they have lost rights over him since legally Mannu is Jagya and Ganga's now.

It'll be up to Singhs whether they want Mannu to have contact with Rat's family and upto Mannu if he wants to have contact with them or not. No way can they snatch Mannu from them.

Basant's still there with DS and co. despite Mahavir Singh reforming.

In fact it should be upto Singhs to build such a strong bond with Mannu that he doesn't even believe them when he learns truth of his biological family. DS had experience with Basant. Why not apply same to Mannu?

Had they not behaved the way they did then perhaps Ganga too wouldn't be so depressed and wouldn't risk her life the way she is doing now.

Surrogacy is a way for sure. But it will be damn hard to convince DS about it and to get such a woman in Jetsar plus manage it all in a place like Jetsar without stigma for either Singhs or the woman who agrees to be surrogate. They'll have to respect privacy and reputation of the woman also who agrees to be surrogate for money. Quite a task ahead of them.

Better behaviour was expected from them considering they had cases of Basant and Sugna before in their family. Do they wonder how'd it be if Shyam's family still hadn't accepted Sugna's child with Pratap? And Basant wouldn't be with them, he'd be at Nagore then with Mahavir Singh.

When a family has been there and done that then expectations from them get different. It's no different from their insistence for a virgin, young bride for Jagya even though their own family had cases of remarriages of widows and divorcees. If the bias still exists in their mind then it means that acceptance they made in case of other members in their family was not wholehearted then? Was it merely a tough compromise for them?