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Posted: 11 years ago
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Ok random post, but its a really boring and lazy weekend and its showing on the forum as well.😆
I just have a question regarding the scenario in QH, this is not particularly about a character on the show or discussing whose right or wrong. But just to know what each of you would do in these situations. What if you were Asad/Dilshad what would you do in this scenario, because these two are stuck in tricky situations in the story. I believe even Zoya is stuck in a tricky one, but in this case she has little to do because she hasn't been a part of the past that the other two have.

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Posted: 11 years ago
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well if i had been in dillu's place:
then i would have never forgiven him in first place, he made her wife to live a miserable life for 17 years,, if i had really really decided to forgive em then i wouldn;t have ever pushed my son to do the same,, would never had blackmailed him by passing out statements, like My perfect son,, my pride..bla..bla..
is this really a scale to measure the obedience of a son??
n how we can expect him to be a perfec son, when he never got perfec parents

n if i was to be in Asad's shoes:
then i would have never done the same,, forgiving his parents that easily,,
i know he hasn't forgiven spineless Rashid yet,, but soon he would, whatever the reason may be, his health; dillu's pressure or whatever,
can his illness redeem all his sins,,
can his recent helplessness overshadow all the disgusts his family had to go through in his absence,,
the venom spitted by shireen on dilshaad n his son in presence of rashid can be swabbed back..NEVER,,
so how this can happen,,
n for me Asad isa character of Words,, so he shouldn't forgive rashid,,
n if he does then should walkaway simply,, without posing some Baap-Beta drama...
Edited by -Maliha- - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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can ires it? 😆

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If i were Dilshad.

Chosen AILING Rashid.

Why?
Najma is married. She now has to face her own battles.
Asad is about to settle. He is independent. He moreover will start a new phase of life. And my duties as a mother is over for the time being.
No i am not choosing my husband over my kids or abandoning my kids even.
Cause My KIDS will REMAIN as MY KIDS, for TAUMR.
But my Husband's sick, he needs me now. And i dont want to take a decision where at the end of my life i am left to lament that 'Gadi bahar mera itezar kar rahi thi, Rashid bimar thay, Asad bhi man gaya hota buss maine logo kya kahengey yehi sochte huye Rashid ki AKHRI khwaish puri nahi ki aur Asad ko ek mauka nahi diya apne Bete hone ka pharz ada karne ke liye!'

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If i were Zoya



I dont know frankly. 😆 Cause yes i would have had asked Dilshad why she wants to do this? and reason out how and why she should do this and she should not. But then remind her that it is Rashid who has never done a work of praise, and never wanted to reconcile with his Son. If he cant reconcile with his son how can he reconcile with his wife? and partly not have had shoved down the ABBU thing down Asad's throat, rather restricted at Dilshad needs him, Zoya needs him, and he is taking a decision too early. Moreover Dilshad needs him,stating the fact that she might be humiliated at SM and he needs to be there and beside his mother 😆

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If i were Asad



Broken furniture, yelled at everyone, screamed, and broken everything. 😆
Told Dilshad that she doesn't needs to go there, reason out why she needs not to go there. And how much Asad needs her. Rest reactions would be the same, cause Dilshad added the 'Mother's upbrining up!' thingy 😆 Asad take a life as well as give up his life for her too 😳 SM mein rehna toh thodi si hi baat hai 😆



OH MY GOOD LORD even the thought gave me STRESS 😆
Edited by MisHumptyDumpty - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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res
BTW Asad cut his hair..🤪 random dancing
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Posted: 11 years ago
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😆😆never been in such situation 😆😆and dnt want to either😆😆😆
i cant decide who's right and who's wrong !!!!everyone is right
even shireen ...plzzz tell me in real life would u let ur sautan stay with u ...😆and can any1 be as sane and forgiving as dillu!!!!!😆

the only person wrong here is rashid !!!!whatever may be d reason for his betrayal to dillu he should jst appplogise and leave her alone !!!!


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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: -Maliha-

well if i had been in dillu's place:
then i would have never forgiven him in first place, he made her wife to live a miserable life for 17 years,, if i had really really decided to forgive em then i wouldn;t have ever pushed my son to do the same,, would never had blackmailed him by passing out statements, like My perfect son,, my pride..bla..bla..
is this really a scale to measure the obedience of a son??
n how we can expect him to be a perfec son, when he never got perfec parents

n if i was to be in Asad's shoes:
then i would have never done the same,, forgiving his parents that easily,,
i know he hasn't forgiven spineless Rashid yet,, but soon he would, whatever the reason may be, his health; dillu's pressure or whatever,
can his illness redeem all his sins,,
can his recent helplessness overshadow all the disgusts his family had to go through in his absence,,
the venom spitted by shireen on dilshaad n his son in presence of rashid can be swabbed back..NEVER,,
so how this can happen,,
n for me Asad isa character of Words,, so he shouldn't forgive rashid,,
n if he does then should walkaway simply,, without posing some Baap-Beta drama...


Word 👏👏👏

He should just put this in front of his mum.

"IF Janab Rashid Ahmed Khan can give me back my CHILDHOOD, Than i will forgive him and be the perfect son to both of you"
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: treasure11

😆😆never been in such situation 😆😆and dnt want to either😆😆😆

i cant decide who's right and who's wrong !!!!everyone is right
even shireen ...plzzz tell me in real life would u let ur sautan stay with u ...😆and can any1 be as sane and forgiving as dillu!!!!!😆

the only person wrong here is rashid !!!!whatever may be d reason for his betrayal to dillu he should jst appplogise and leave her alone !!!!



WORD TO THIS as Well
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: -Maliha-

well if i had been in dillu's place:
then i would have never forgiven him in first place, he made her wife to live a miserable life for 17 years,, if i had really really decided to forgive em then i wouldn;t have ever pushed my son to do the same,, would never had blackmailed him by passing out statements, like My perfect son,, my pride..bla..bla..
is this really a scale to measure the obedience of a son??
n how we can expect him to be a perfec son, when he never got perfec parents

n if i was to be in Asad's shoes:
then i would have never done the same,, forgiving his parents that easily,,
i know he hasn't forgiven spineless Rashid yet,, but soon he would, whatever the reason may be, his health; dillu's pressure or whatever,
can his illness redeem all his sins,,
can his recent helplessness overshadow all the disgusts his family had to go through in his absence,,
the venom spitted by shireen on dilshaad n his son in presence of rashid can be swabbed back..NEVER,,
so how this can happen,,
n for me Asad isa character of Words,, so he shouldn't forgive rashid,,
n if he does then should walkaway simply,, without posing some Baap-Beta drama...


I agree somewhere and disagree somewhere. Dilshad is a mother and a wife and an exceptional one at that. She has ALWAYS proven to be supporting, loving, caring for everyone. I've hardly seen her live her own life. Because people always made the decisions for her. I think this time around seeing him on the verge of dying made her realize that she could lose him for all she knows but would be unable to tie lose ends left over. She has not chosen her husband over her son, because she and her son have a relation beyond a normal mother and son relation, their bond is one that can't be named. She has chosen a DUTY that she wants to complete because she does not want to feel guilty or responsible if Rashid were to die some day with an incomplete wish and painful end. After all she has loved Rashid for years, before he left her and went away.

I totally feel for the emotional pressures that Asad has gone through and still is. I do not agree with anyone who tells him to forgive Rashid and nor do I want him to. I understand his anger, his uncertainties entirely and in his position probably I would also be doing the same. But as a mother and as a woman I see where Dilshad is coming from.

Thank you so much for sharing your views, its nice to have a healthy discussion. And I entirely respect your side to this story 😃 Love the story you're even writing on it.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: MisHumptyDumpty

can ires it? 😆


- - - - -

If i were Dilshad.

Chosen AILING Rashid.

Why?
Najma is married. She now has to face her own battles.
Asad is about to settle. He is independent. He moreover will start a new phase of life. And my duties as a mother is over for the time being.
No i am not choosing my husband over my kids or abandoning my kids even.
Cause My KIDS will REMAIN as MY KIDS, for TAUMR.
But my Husband's sick, he needs me now. And i dont want to take a decision where at the end of my life i am left to lament that 'Gadi bahar mera itezar kar rahi thi, Rashid bimar thay, Asad bhi man gaya hota buss maine logo kya kahengey yehi sochte huye Rashid ki AKHRI khwaish puri nahi ki aur Asad ko ek mauka nahi diya apne Bete hone ka pharz ada karne ke liye!'

- - - - -


If i were Zoya



I dont know frankly. 😆 Cause yes i would have had asked Dilshad why she wants to do this? and reason out how and why she should do this and she should not. But then remind her that it is Rashid who has never done a work of praise, and never wanted to reconcile with his Son. If he cant reconcile with his son how can he reconcile with his wife? and partly not have had shoved down the ABBU thing down Asad's throat, rather restricted at Dilshad needs him, Zoya needs him, and he is taking a decision too early. Moreover Dilshad needs him,stating the fact that she might be humiliated at SM and he needs to be there and beside his mother 😆

- - - - - -

If i were Asad



Broken furniture, yelled at everyone, screamed, and broken everything. 😆
Told Dilshad that she doesn't needs to go there, reason out why she needs not to go there. And how much Asad needs her. Rest reactions would be the same, cause Dilshad added the 'Mother's upbrining up!' thingy 😆 Asad take a life as well as give up his life for her too 😳 SM mein rehna toh thodi si hi baat hai 😆



OH MY GOOD LORD even the thought gave me STRESS 😆


MY POV's are EXACTLY the same. I LOVE what you said, so well written 👏

As a dignified woman and honorable wife I feel that Dilshad hasn't chosen anyone over anyone else. She only intends NOT to give hate in reply to hate, she believes in doing good and always be with a clear conscience. She doesn't want to be left thinking she didn't complete a duty that needed to be.
Moreover when I think deeply. Asad has always feared being like his father, he has grown up hating and fearing the feeling of love because he was petrified that he'd turn out to be like his dad. As a mother she probably feels that if he leaves Rashid ailing, and does not perform certain duties that are needed to at this moment, and if something ends up happening to Rashid, Asad will curse himself and again go back to his shell believing he is like his father. Rashid abandoned his family when they needed him the most and Asad would though ENTIRELY RIGHT in his stand also end up doing something like that, the guilt in him wouldn't let him live in peace because of the good man that he is.

That is one way to see it ^But as Asad I would feel horrible about my past being bought up again. Rashid has snatched a happy family and a normal childhood from him, given his mom a lot of pain. He has every right to be angry and resentful. He has all the rights to not want to live in a house that has only taken away everything that is rightfully his and instead given only curses and pain. So in his position atm I would be as angry and as confused as he is at this moment.

If I were Zoya, I would stop Asad from going to NY as well, convince him to stay at SM as well, maybe just not use those bitter words or be harsh.
Edited by Ankita.M - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: treasure11

😆😆never been in such situation 😆😆and dnt want to either😆😆😆

i cant decide who's right and who's wrong !!!!everyone is right
even shireen ...plzzz tell me in real life would u let ur sautan stay with u ...😆and can any1 be as sane and forgiving as dillu!!!!!😆

the only person wrong here is rashid !!!!whatever may be d reason for his betrayal to dillu he should jst appplogise and leave her alone !!!!



I agree, Shireen is not an evil woman, her insecurities are justified. As a mother, as a wife, as a woman. I only feel that when you're a mother yourself you will NEVER curse another mother about her child. You know how it pains when anything happens to your children, you wouldn't want any mother to go through it. And so I think Shireen is extremely wrong there. But on other levels I am not saying I do not understand her.

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