GenX, Bollywood and Marriage - Page 2

When Rekha came onto Rendezvous with Simi Garewal, Simi asked her if she had been married to Vinod Mehra but she categorically denied it, although she admitted that Vinod was "very close" to her 😉

My point is that there are more unsuccessful marriages than successful ones in Bollywood. I think that it is extremely difficult being married to a film actor. As a star-wife, you have to deal with large amounts of insecurity (when your husband is on an outdoor shoot for long periods, for example, or if he's shooting 18 hours a day with beautiful actresses). Also, as a star-wife, you have to completely give up your identity. I mean, look at Jaya Bhaduri--she was an actress in her own right, but after marriage she's just known as Amitabh Bachchan's wife--the First Lady of Bollywood, even though she is a Rajya Sabha MP. Same is the case with Gauri Chibber-Khan (only known as SRK's wife), Sussanne Khan-Roshan, Malaika Parekh-Khan, Natasha Madhwani-Khan, Mana Shetty and all other star wives. The only exception to this rule is Malaika Arora Khan who does have her own identity, but then in this case it is Arbaaz who has had to adjust to hsi wife's stardom. In such a situation, where you have virtually no identity of your own, and have to deal with insecurity, and jealousy on a regular basis, sooner or later issues do crop up between couples.

I think that in the old times marriages were considered a sacrament, especially among Hindus. The girls were conditioned in such a way that they believed that their husband's home was their only home. Due to this, adjustment issues did not exist earlier, because the girl knew that she HAD to adjust to life in her new home and with her in-laws. Also men and women had traditionally defined roles as the breadwinner (men) and childbearer and homekeeper (women) so there were no ego clashes. Women got married to get financial and emotional security.

But today, that is not the case. Today girls are more independent, financially secure, and are aware of their rights. They are now brought up to believe that their parents' house is also their own and they have a joint share in the parental property. Today a woman does not need a man to provide her financial security, or a home. Today you would only get married if you wanted to have children. If you are in love with a person, you would want to live-in with him/her as opposed to get married, because it is more convenient. Marriage is no longer a sacrament. I think that more than anything else, the society's mindset regarding marriage has changed drastically.

Originally posted by: koihai

When Rekha came onto Rendezvous with Simi Garewal, Simi asked her if she had been married to Vinod Mehra but she categorically denied it, although she admitted that Vinod was "very close" to her 😉

My point is that there are more unsuccessful marriages than successful ones in Bollywood. I think that it is extremely difficult being married to a film actor. As a star-wife, you have to deal with large amounts of insecurity (when your husband is on an outdoor shoot for long periods, for example, or if he's shooting 18 hours a day with beautiful actresses). Also, as a star-wife, you have to completely give up your identity. I mean, look at Jaya Bhaduri--she was an actress in her own right, but after marriage she's just known as Amitabh Bachchan's wife--the First Lady of Bollywood, even though she is a Rajya Sabha MP. Same is the case with Gauri Chibber-Khan (only known as SRK's wife), Sussanne Khan-Roshan, Malaika Parekh-Khan, Natasha Madhwani-Khan, Mana Shetty and all other star wives. The only exception to this rule is Malaika Arora Khan who does have her own identity, but then in this case it is Arbaaz who has had to adjust to hsi wife's stardom. In such a situation, where you have virtually no identity of your own, and have to deal with insecurity, and jealousy on a regular basis, sooner or later issues do crop up between couples.

I think that in the old times marriages were considered a sacrament, especially among Hindus. The girls were conditioned in such a way that they believed that their husband's home was their only home. Due to this, adjustment issues did not exist earlier, because the girl knew that she HAD to adjust to life in her new home and with her in-laws. Also men and women had traditionally defined roles as the breadwinner (men) and childbearer and homekeeper (women) so there were no ego clashes. Women got married to get financial and emotional security.

But today, that is not the case. Today girls are more independent, financially secure, and are aware of their rights. They are now brought up to believe that their parents' house is also their own and they have a joint share in the parental property. Today a woman does not need a man to provide her financial security, or a home. Today you would only get married if you wanted to have children. If you are in love with a person, you would want to live-in with him/her as opposed to get married, because it is more convenient. Marriage is no longer a sacrament. I think that more than anything else, the society's mindset regarding marriage has changed drastically.

I think whether it is a star husband or wife one of them eventually have to let the other shine in the lime light... it is might be easier for a spouse who is not in the industry to be married to star b/c they were not popular before so they are not as affected if they are simply called someone's wife or husband. However, in my opinion, also as you stated it is often the wife who decides to step out of the lime-light rather than the husband. Like a lot of actress quit acting once they marry.... look at Raveena Tandon, Madhuri Dixit, Sri Devi, Jaya Bachan (she made a come back later with K3G etc...), Karishma, Kajol ...

Actors dont' usually quit after marriage (they might be married before starting their career even): SRK, Akshay Kumar, Sunil Shetty...the list goes on...

Another interesting thing... recent couples who are not married but dating... such as John and Bips, Shahid Kareena etc... have not opted for marriage perhaps for this reason... b/c Bips and Kareena both want to continue focusing on their career currently and it is known that after Marriage a lot actress's popularity goes down... it is sort of a double standard but that is how it is...😕...It will be interesting to see Abhishek and Aishwarya and how their careers etc change after they are officially married. In my opinion Aishwarya is already taking the back seat... as seen by her attitude during the Guru premiere where she kept refering to Abhishek and his acting etc... in my opinion this is sort of heartbreaking...b/c even if Aish was not the best actress of Bollywood, she is a big way responsible for taking Bollywood to the Global scale.....🤔...but let's wait and watch what happens...

The only actress I would say who has mainted a marriage and not compromised on career ... in my opinion..is Juhi Chawla... she is probably the only indian actress, who even acted while being pregnant with both her kids....Jhankaar beats and Ek Rishta... 👏...

As for what you said about Girl's today having more financial freedom, education and knowledge of their rights etc... I think it is very true and I agree with you. I think that what is happening is that women have progressed a lot in the last couple decades... they now know they are equal to man and women want to advance in their careers, go out and get education etc... whereas men who have always enjoyed this freedom aren't quiet understanding and expect the woman to act like their mothers perhaps who might have stayed at home... and this is where the clash of egos might come in.... I think society as a whole is reshaping and the defined roles as you said.. Man--breadwinner Woman--caretaker etc.. are also changing... and what we are in right now is the adjustment period... 😆