If you were in Sanchi's place...?

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poorva

@poorvab

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Posted: 12 years ago

#11

I understand ur point completely. but in such a scenario i would try my best to atleast give my bhabhi and myself time to get to know each other, i would give her a chance to be a part of my life. because my brother has at the end of the day married her and now she is after all a part of the family. i will try my best to be cordial with her even if i end up disliking her a lot. why to create unnecessary problems in ur family by fighting with her or being cold.

and if i dont like her interfering in my life, ill try n tell her politely, so that no tension is created.

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642126

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Posted: 12 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: poorvab
I understand ur point completely. but in such a scenario i would try my best to atleast give my bhabhi and myself time to get to know each other, i would give her a chance to be a part of my life. because my brother has at the end of the day married her and now she is after all a part of the family. i will try my best to be cordial with her even if i end up disliking her a lot. why to create unnecessary problems in ur family by fighting with her or being cold.
and if i dont like her interfering in my life, ill try n tell her politely, so that no tension is created.

Yeah.

What else can one do? No need to create drama.

I wonder if Sanchi was really concerned about her family and brother or only her own insecurities!

Even if it's a matter for family then why blow up until the bhabhi is indeed a threat to your family?

We need not get along with everyone in family. More often than not people mainly tolerate each other...not exactly love or adore each other like those Sooraj Barjatya films! 😆

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poorva

@poorvab

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: Skepblun

Yeah.

What else can one do? No need to create drama.

I wonder if Sanchi was really concerned about her family and brother or only her own insecurities!

Even if it's a matter for family then why blow up until the bhabhi is indeed a threat to your family?

We need not get along with everyone in family. More often than not people mainly tolerate each other...not exactly love or adore each other like those Sooraj Barjatya films! 😆

had she ever been concerned about her family, u think she'll do a fake suicide??!! she had not a bit of concern for her parents who were crying in front of her. forget ur bhabhi, what kindof a person can see their parents so broken n crying so much in front of them n make things even worse for them 🤢

@last line... so true!!! those films r full of BS, noone can start loving a stranger so much just in a few days :P

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Jan50

@Jan50

Voyager

Posted: 12 years ago

#14

What they are showing with Sanchi about her control on Shiv is OTT. No sister these days

Have so much control over heir brothers.specially when they are young. In fact they get bullied

By the older brothers. These days brothers just go see the girl with their close friend and when it

Marerializes informs the family that theybave decided to marry such and such a person.

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divine_ram

@divine_ram

Sparkler

Posted: 12 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: Jan50
What they are showing with Sanchi about her control on Shiv is OTT. No sister these days
Have so much control over heir brothers.specially when they are young. In fact they get bullied
By the older brothers. These days brothers just go see the girl with their close friend and when it
Marerializes informs the family that theybave decided to marry such and such a person.

Shiv actually did the same thing. He decided and accepted the rista on his own will and informed later to his parents. He was confident that his family will accept his choice ESP Ira, alok, daddu and CM. he knew his sister saanchi will not like anandi instantly. He never thought she is so evil.

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tinoo

@tinoo

Rocker

Posted: 12 years ago

#16

I fully appreciate your post skepblun.

I too dont fault saanchi... but I feel the only area where she went wrong was her trying to act and pretend about being a village girl.

Nobody at the singhs expected it from her - they had already seen her in her full modern dress avatar - jeans and sleeveless tank tops - and they were okay with it -- because they were really happy that ANY girl would want to marry Jagya with his background.

I feel saanchi should have stayed true to herself, and not tried to start cooking and cleaning to change anandi's impression of her.

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DiVa

@Dihiva

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+ 6

Posted: 12 years ago

#17

Hmm.. if I were in Sanchi's place, there are a lot of things I would do differently just because my mentality is totally different from that of Sanchi's.

First, if Shiv is elder to me and he is a collector, I would respect his decision because he would be better at choosing his life partner than I would ever be! If he has chosen a girl like Anandi(with her past and all), and even if I don't like the match immediately, I will not say anything on his face.. I will think about what made him make that decision. If my handsome collector brother fell for a girl like Anandi, there should be something in her that was worth the honor!

Second, I will see the reactions of elders in the family as they are better judges when it comes to analyzing people given their experience and all. Even if I disagree with their acceptance initially, I will not be rude to them.. rather talk to the wisest in the family about my fears/doubts regarding the match. If they have some points about Anandi that are really good and those I did not know about(like she being the youngest Sarpanch, loved by all in her village, etc), I will definitely try to change my first opinion about her. Because these kinds of virtues do not easily come by in every person you see.

Third, I will observe my bhabi whenever I get a chance before marriage mostly in family functions etc and try to see life from her perspective. I will try to find out about her past and that would explain her calm/apprehensive behavior during the ceremonies.

I would try and be cordial with her family and yes, not mingle with them too much not because I wouldn't like them but because it is weird to mingle so much with your brother's in-laws.. forget even talking to Jagya! Initially, I may be angry at guy but then after spending time with my Anandi bhabi, I will forgive him for what he did to her and wish him well. But yes, I would NEVER want to marry him or interfere in my bhabhi's or bhayya's personal space!

I may be let down if someone compared me to my bhabhi at first.. but if she is any one like Anandi, I would aspire to be like her myself.. learn many things from her.. so, I would not be hurt if they said I should be like bhabhi or learn from her.

To me personally, I would want to be her best friend once I get to know her and try to give her companionship as a friend more than anything because I would never want to hurt her after all that she went through in her life.. that is once I get to know about her and have some heart to heart talks with her. According to my mentality, I would try to make the relationship positive unless my bhabi is someone like Sanchi!😲😆

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BeingMahiway

@maahi11

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#18

well real nice topic...

in many ways saachi is right but den she wrong in the same way... a pampered kid whoes all d wishes have been fulfilld... but was d same child shud have been scolded wen she was wrong... a gurl of 22 yr is no mre a kid n gradually her so called bachapana shuld be retricted by the family... dey shuld explain her nt today bt after a yr or 2 she will be sent to her sasural n dere nobody will take her bachpana...

yes i have dreams abt my bhabhi but do i have to stay wid my bhabhi d entier lfe or my brother... naturally if my bro is the most eligible bachelor i would want a most beautiful woman for him... but what if he is not happy dat most beautiful girl... will my family be happy or my bro whom i luv so much... n dat tme i would be d one who would have fought wid d same gurl in n out for making my bro's lfe hell... without thnkng dat she was d one i wanted n got as my bhabhi... nw i m wanting nuthng but peace n happiness of my bro n family...

saachi evn before meeting had made opinion abt anandi... she dint gave her opurtunity open mindedly for once also... what if staying in village still anandi would have wore suits or jeans n shirts saachi would have accpeted her no... she wouldnt coz she nvr for once thnk dat yyy her bro being the most eligible bachelor wanna marry a village gurl...but coz she has been so much hibitiuated of gettng her demands fulfilled dat gettng d bhabhi of her choice was a demand...

if i was in saachi's place i would once for d sake of my bro's happiness would have gven my bhabhi a chance n would like to knw abt her... after getting to knw what she have gone thrugh n hw she have proved herslf would itself mke an impact on me n i would be thirsty to knw abt her mre n mre... i have also trusted my bro n knw he is a sensible person so i would definitly mke n effort to mingle wid d gurl...

saachi n many gurls like saachi alwz thnks bhabhi bhaiya ko humse dur karna chahti hai... n she have said dis many tmes... its coz uske khud kay mann may chor hai dis is wat she thnks abt marraige a gurl gets full right on the guy n to hell wid family nw d guy have to lstn to me n dance on my tune... but wen it cums to her family she wont take... no if she have been brought up d family for 20 yrs evn d guy have been brought in the family for dat much yrs hw can she break d ties... nooo dis is wrong n to support dis by parents is also wrong...

my mom n bro have clrly told after my marriage my 1st house will be my sasural n den cums my maika... i can cum to mu maika have fun wid my family but if i ever thnk of leaving my sasural for studip demands dey have no place for me in my maika also...

in today's rate 4-5 yrs difference will hardly make a difference.. wen gurl gets married n goes to the new house except husband its d SIL she feel most close... coz being d daughter of the house she knws everyone in the house very closely... so wen my bhabhi cums in my house i would be the one who would try to make her comfortable n nt taunt her very 1st day...

its not my business to look into the private life of my bhaiya bhabhi... dey have dere own life n dey knw hw to deal wid it...

basically saachi had made rules for anandi but she forgot to follow dem... she dosent like ny1 interfering h=in her business but she have a habit interfering into every1 else's business...

druing UD fiascco she said anandi n family lied n traped her bro so nw wat was she doing trapping sum1 else son by all means...

she alwz lamlated dat anandi wanna separate shiv from family so what she wanted to do...

the ruels she made broke herself... she made dem on anandi but she forgot she preach what u urself can follow...

regarding dress we shuld alwz wear in what we r comfortable n nt for ppl..

she nvr appriciated anandi... she forgot today most of the girls donot take ny shit from in-laws n alwz reply back... but its anandi who nvr replied back...

if i were in saachi's place seeing dis a gurl taking care of my family my brother so well would have forgot everthng else... coz i knw how difficult it would be for me n my family wen i will leave dem n go... but if my bhabhi is caring n luks after my family i would be saticsfied dat yes i need not to worry coz sum1 is dere who is taking care of my family after i get busy in my world...

n regarding comparisons wen a new girl cums comparisons are bound... n ill be jealous also... but dat doenst mn i will bother every1 else... coz i knw if i cant take my bhabhi's place in my house its a vice versa thng also she too cant take my place in my family's heart... n 2ndly what is d harm in learing sum thng gud n new from sum one... if my bhabhi make better fud den my mother i would definitly learn from her... whats the harm in it... n dis i m nt just sayng... its a personal experince thugh in my case evevry one says including my mom who is very stricted n my biggest critics dat i prepare better fud den her...

Edited by maahi11 - 12 years ago

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