onir truth post arvi marriage? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Luv4games

so when purvi lies, manipulates and screws other peoples lives it is due to love and balai but if someone else does that then it is cruel...what hypocrites...

Originally posted by: naava

Actually, no. Every time you believe that Purvi did something wrong to another person, that other person had complete control over what they did or what happened.. (With one exception. Ovi was the innocent victim of the baby swap but Onir was the one who did it not Purvi) They each one made a choice. So the bad things that resulted were a result of their own choices.

Just because someone tells you to do something doesn't mean you have to do it !! You don't think Purvi also suffered by her choices? Of course she did. No one on this forum agrees with Purvi telling Arjun to marry Ovi or asking for the baby swap or a lot of things Purvi did. . They were wrong. But what Onir did was completely arbitrary and Purvi had no part in it and no knowledge that he was playing a game. And he did it in a cruel manner. Aaytha was right. Had Onir done what in the end Ovi did...to tell Purvi he loved her but that she belonged with Arjun...or even to lie and say he didn't love her but she still belonged to Arjun, it would be entirely different. Purvi may not have listened as she still was denying her love for Arjun, but at least Onir would have been exonerated. She like the others would have had a choice. Then her happiness or sadness would be on her own shoulders.

I have said a hundred times. I am a firm believer in repentance. (meaning turning around not only acknowledgement and asking forgiveness.) If Onir recognizes his manipulations of others, and decides to change, then he has my vote.

It's not so profound. It should be a governing principle in life for everyone.

Originally posted by: A HUGE FAN

Ii think ArVi will still be together at the end!

Originally posted by: naava

Actually, no. Every time you believe that Purvi did something wrong to another person, that other person had complete control over what they did or what happened.. (With one exception. Ovi was the innocent victim of the baby swap but Onir was the one who did it not Purvi) They each one made a choice. So the bad things that resulted were a result of their own choices.

Just because someone tells you to do something doesn't mean you have to do it !! You don't think Purvi also suffered by her choices? Of course she did. No one on this forum agrees with Purvi telling Arjun to marry Ovi or asking for the baby swap or a lot of things Purvi did. . They were wrong. But what Onir did was completely arbitrary and Purvi had no part in it and no knowledge that he was playing a game. And he did it in a cruel manner. Aaytha was right. Had Onir done what in the end Ovi did...to tell Purvi he loved her but that she belonged with Arjun...or even to lie and say he didn't love her but she still belonged to Arjun, it would be entirely different. Purvi may not have listened as she still was denying her love for Arjun, but at least Onir would have been exonerated. She like the others would have had a choice. Then her happiness or sadness would be on her own shoulders.

I have said a hundred times. I am a firm believer in repentance. (meaning turning around not only acknowledgement and asking forgiveness.) If Onir recognizes his manipulations of others, and decides to change, then he has my vote.

It's not so profound. It should be a governing principle in life for everyone.

Originally posted by: muse10

@ bold - Onir paid for his baby swapping mistake - so no need to keep re-iterating it. And if you know psychology, the origin of any bad deed is in the mind - for this one it was Purvi's mind. But fine, Onir made a mistake. He did pay for it though.

The whole point about Shalini drama was to make Purvi go back to Arjun - As you yourself say, Purvi would not have listened to Onir if he had done it in a straightforward manner. The guy makes himself look bad -( I do not see Purvi painfully recalling Onir or hurting because of what she heard from him unless it is in some off screen moments that we don't get to see. She is happily romancing with Arjun. Good for her.) So how is Onir cruel? If he is cruel to anyone, it is to himself. I fail to understand what the big compulsion about bad-mouthing Onir is.

Originally posted by: naava

I have no idea what you are talking about in your last sentence. There are only 2 or 3 of us who didn't care for his actions and we seldom mention it or post it. 99% of the forum loves Onir and thinks he's the best thing since sliced bread.

If it's not alright to criticize with respect as I have done, once in while, there is not a point to any discussion. As i said, I am an ArMan fan first and foremost, but I have been appalled at the language and hatred towards Purvi and also Arjun.

Please think about what you are writing before making such statements.

Originally posted by: naava

I have no idea what you are talking about in your last sentence. There are only 2 or 3 of us who didn't care for his actions and we seldom mention it or post it. 99% of the forum loves Onir and thinks he's the best thing since sliced bread.

If it's not alright to criticize with respect as I have done, once in while, there is not a point to any discussion. As i said, I am an ArMan fan first and foremost, but I have been appalled at the language and hatred towards Purvi and also Arjun.

Please think about what you are writing before making such statements.