I think motherhood should be something you decide you want and FEEL it, its your choice - everything in life has to be your choice.
I dont mind abortion and adoption (depends on one's view on it) if you dont want a baby, then abort it (bear in mind its not killing a human, coz the baby is not human yet) - it makes sense, and why not - no point bringing a child into this world if your not going to love it or treat a child well and with humanity instincts, and yes there is the other option of adoption, (just like adoption and ppl you want to adopt its their choice)
I do however see why Ratan cant fully give herself to Veera, its not just coz she is someone's else but alot of other stuff has happened in this situation and she cant be her mum if her heart isnt in it, yes Veera is family but just not mother-daughter relation is there yet