Is Bani emotionally Strong?

Is Bani Emotionally strong?

This is one question that has bugged me throughout the last few days! I would like to believe she is…but the girl confuses the hell out of me😕! There are a few aspects of her life that makes me believe she is… but on the other side, I see a complete different side to her! As far as my understanding of human being goes(which can be limited or completely wrong!) I cant figure how someone can be so different… or is it Double Standards, I am tempted to ask! I am making this post in the first place cause yday I made a post asking if this was the Bani Dixit we were waiting for…. And it is obvious what prompeted that question was the expectations we have from Bani, because she has proved to be a strong character throughout. What I want to find out is how strong is Bani, or is she strong at all now?😕 Before the Bani Brigade gets to my neck, let me add… this is not a Bani bashing post, I guess I have done enough and have reached a point of indifference not only to Bani but almost everyone on this show!

Bani undoubtedly has seen a lot of turmoil in the last 7-8 years that many of us cant even imagine (or even much before, she had KD for a mother listening to her pravachans is a torture anyday!) She has battled her way through most of it and survived. She lost her mother very early in life and took care of her sisters and father. She gave up her education to support her family. When she lost her father she still held her ground and in 2 weeks time she was dealing with the mortgage of her house, an alien city, a stranger to trust and his taunting sister as a host! She went through a heartbreak when the guy she feel in love(?) with turned out to be in love with her sister! Then she landed herself into a marriage with the world's most difficult husband. She saw her home being destroyed in a moment of fury, she faced loads of character abuses and acquisitions and still held her feet. She took up the task of saving Jai's billions single handedly braving resistance from none other that Jai himself. She even took the news of Jai's battling for life pretty calmly, and refused to even go meet him, she fought Jigyasa and security to see her presumed dead husband(ok, I admit the last 3 instances were meant to be sarcastic😕…but the point is they were equally traumatic!) She saw through all of that without breaking down for a minute… that signified the strength of Bani.

And then there is Bani of the present, she has gone into daze 3 times in a row in the last 6-9 months! Now how did that happen??? Was the crisis that she faced now all the more traumatic in comparison to the trauma she faced when she lost parents at such an young age and heading the family of hers pretty much on her own? I would say NO! Then what is that sends Bani into a daze each time…

And speaking of the situations she went into daze… they weren't all of a sudden, a complete shock that shook her ideal world into bits…

The first time she went into daze it was on learning Jai had been on the wheel of the car that killed her mother. But then, didn't she know before hand that Jai was involved in an accident? She was pretty cool with that, she even sympathized with him, she said Accidents happen… but when she knew it was her mother in question…there she slipped into a daze😕!

The 2^nd time she slipped into a daze was when she lost Krishna. The histrionics that she was involved in during the pregnancy this miscarriage was waiting to happen(avoiding food, rest, indulging in dangerous adventures, late night working in one of the most unhealthy conditions…are only a few to state😡!) But when she faced consequences for that, she withdrew into a shell!

The 3^rd time she lost her sense of being when she came to know that Jai was the father to Pia's child! Now that didn't come out of the blue, did it? If I am not wrong her brains were working overtime when she suspected Jai to be having an affair with someone… she had enough 'Clues' to suggest so, and it wasn't as if she trusted Jai blindly she very well went ahead and investigated… if Jai having an affair was meant to have such an impact to drive her numb for days, then how come she was so sharp & quick when she had got positive clues about him having an affair? Why didn't she breakdown at that time😕?

And she very well knew that Pia was hopelessly in love(?) with the father of her kid and she knew for a fact that it wasn't Pushkar… and she also knew that the guy was married, didn't she think she will be breaking a family in the process of getting her sister justice? No, at time she was this strong, responsible sister who wanted to give her sister all the happiness! Pia has a history of backstabbing her, So in that case, the effect should have been much less… why did fitting one missing puzzle into the two different story shake her up to such an extent, that it threatened her life? I fail to understand!

I know i am might come across harsh and heartless question her state of trauma but then we need answers dont we for the inconsistencies? I am not putting this post to bash Bani but to try to understand her, else I will go on a Bani bashing spree knowing me I seem to have enough reasons to😕. So can we reason out why this is happening instead of blaming Jai Walia for it? I know sometimes the best of people break down, simply cause fighting all their lives makes them give up…but then again the frequency is just too much to handle😕! Do u think it is possible for someone who is so strong to go through this situation? As far as i know people come out stronger eachtime, but in Bani's case it has gone downhill. Or is it Double standards? Or will u give credit to Ekta's creatives as usual to have notched it up big time for the purpose of dramtics😡?

Did I get my point across or was it mindless blabbering as usual😕?

Would love to hear ur answers...😃

On today's episode... Pia has me waiting to see what fate holds for her, the day Jai and Pushakr get down to deliver justice😆. And i cant tell u how hilarious i found her nautanki. She kept saying the same dialogue...'yeh Mr. Walia bhi na, mujhse kitna pyar karte hain'😡😆 Jai -Bani, how much did u torture Tony that he joined hands with Pia? Acha khasa tha banda, usko bhi pagalk kardiya😕.

Nothing really amazing about today's show to speak about..but i loved Pawan's acting on hearing Bani's pregnancy... Tarun was so shattered and disoriented, it was as if he lost the battle he was fighting. The guy is in Love no doubt about that... na, before u conclude i am feeling sorry for Tarun, NO, i am not... it is just that Pawan put in a great performance in the parking lot scene, when he yelled at Bani and later when she told him abt the pregnancy. Well done, Pawan👏

On a positive note, it was wonderful to see Bani being so cautious, careful about her pregnancy, a welcome change for sure😃!

Lots of Luv

Anu.

sorry didnt read the whole of your article (didnt have time) but would say that when she is defending someone ie her family she is very strong mentally, but when its 1 on 1 she is very frail guess she has spent so much time on others yet not enough time on her own well being

I am a self proclaimed JW camper and have bashed Bani with the best of them. But I will write this post in her defense.

I think in JW Bani for the first time found someone to support her and love her, and where she did not have to be the strong one. JW's blind support of her during the divorce ting and and also taking her back with out questions asked. But in all of this I think she has made him out to be god rather than human and does not allow him for human mistakes.

Bani has always been shown as strong because she had to be as she had responsibilities that she could not ignore so she had to get on with it.

In the three circumstances you mentioned she had the luxury for once to let her emotions rule. I can imagine how hard it must be to deal with the fact that your husband whom you love more thna life is responsible for your mothers death. Rational thought is that it was an accident but the whole thing was too emotional and too traumatic. When she lost the baby it as her last link to JW and the way she lost it was brutal. Anyone would have flipped. Being in daze for a month is not unreal. In the last episode when she suspected the affair it was still unreal. When the truth came out and the way it came out involving the 2 people who were central to her life she lost her balance and her will to live.

Bani I think is as strong as she needs to be. She always rises to the occasion. Her methods might make her queen of dufferdom but her intentions are never wrong.

Now she will be strong for the baby. JW/Pia will still continue to hurt her (Pia intentionally, JW driven by circumstances) and it will undermine her on occasions as she has lost people who were almost a part of her btu she will keep on dusting herself and get back on track because of baby.

SO final analysis Bani is strong when she needs to be, mostly for people she loves.

Don't know if I made sense.

Meghna

Just to answer your question, Bani is no longer emotionally strong. She was when she first arrived at the crazy house a.k.a Walia mansion, but ever since she stayed she is an emotional basket case. But even though I haven't seen these episodes yet, the whole crying on Pia is only because stupid Jai put on that act earlier. So she cries because based on Mr. Walia's performance and Pia Madam's continued act, she actually believes all of this. If she knew the truth she could laugh it off and Pia is the one who would look stupid. Why does everyone on these shows think that putting on an act will result in good things? I don't get it! If Mr. Walia had not done all of this to get Bani back to her senses, her heart wouldn't be breaking now.

And I think with all that Bani has been thru in her short life, a breakdown now and then is understandable.

And why is everyone so mean to Tarun? He is just trying to help her to get over this, which is what she needs to do to move on with her life. He's the only one doing the right thing, even if he is motivated by a growing attraction for her. So what, he's only human.

Anu,

For me she was NEVER strong and i don't see any hope of her turning to be a strong character.

I know all of you hate the fact that i bash her nonstop but for me she is just weak, not because she values her relationships but because she just doesn't know how to react in situations. It's not like she can't, Bani is the one character who can show to everyone that Women aren't just made for emotional things but women can actually do more than that, but she just fails to do that.

Shina

common Anu ... Love can break the strongest and mightiest of persons .' woh kehte hai na ..ache achhon ki chhuti ho jaati hai '

.just look How Jai has softened up to B compared to how only months ago he was roaring and snapping at her , couldnt stand her sight . Now The same Jai Cant imagine his Life without his Wife . Same way Bani is deeply in Love with Jai , she is possesive about him too . yes she had her suspicions that he might be seeing someone else ..But NOT WITH HER OWN SISTER.. thats a blow, a bloody hard Blow .woman cant handle another womans existence in their man's life , but when that other woman turns out to be your Own sister ..? thats horrendus ..shocking ..😡..The thing that hit her hard also was jai saying .."yeh mera baccha Hai " even though he consoled Bani many a times how it didnt matter if they didnt have kids ,as they loved each other . they were 2 soulswho didnt need a third to complete them etc . then To hear the same Husband crying his heart out for the child he is having with her own sister .
Its jai's betrayal that hurt her the most . just pia singing the song ..Yeh Mr Waliabhi na mujhe se kitna pyaar karte hai " bani wouldnt have been through such turmoil ..but The fact that jai slept with pia and p concieved, while she is longing to Give her husband that one thing he wants the Most and she is unable to give him that .
It shakes her being ,spins her out of control ,looses her mind and will to fight and live life .
Love can take you to amazingheights become yourstrength or send you crashing down completely .
Bani is strong enough to fight anything and everything except the pain of jai's betrayal .

His Love is her greatest strength and also her strongest weakness as we can see for ourselves .
ok No I am Not a bani Camper, just feel what Bani is going through , will always be ma Raging bulls faithful Supporter .

Klue

Originally posted by: klueless

common Anu ... Love can break the strongest and mightiest of persons ..just look How Jai has softened up to B compared to how only months ago he was roaring and snapping at her , couldnt stand her sight . Now The same Jai Cant imagine his Life without his Wife . Same way Bani is deeply in Love with Jai , she is possesive about him too . yes she had her suspicions that he might be seeing someone else ..But NOT WITH HER OWN SISTER.. thats a blow, a bloody hard Blow .woman cant handle another womans existence in their man's life , but when that other woman turns out to be your Own sister ..? thats horrendus ..shocking ....The thing that hit her hard also was jai saying .."yeh mera baccha Hai " even though he consoled Bani many a times how it didnt matter if they didnt have kids ,as they loved each other . they were 2 soulswho didnt need a third to complete them etc . then To hear the same Husband crying his heart out for the child he is having with her own sister .
Its jai's betrayal that hurt her the most . just pia singing the song ..Yeh Mr Waliabhi na mujhe se kitna pyaar karte hai " bani wouldnt have been through such turmoil ..but The fact that jai slept with pia and p concieved, while she is longing to Give her husband that one thing he wants the Most and she is unable to give him that .
It shakes her being ,spins her out of control ,looses her mind and will to fight and live life .
Love can take you to amazingheights become yourstrength or send you crashing down completely .
Bani is strong enough to fight anything and everything except the pain of jai's betrayal .
ok No I am Not a bani Camper, will always be ma Raging bulls faithful Supporter .

Klue

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Anu, glad to see you posting. Hoep you are well now. From your post, I think you are. 😉

I would agree with Klue here that Love can make or break a person. We always think of love as the strongest reason or link in our lives and understandably so. But it often turns out to the weakest link too. There are many cases for reference like many a war has been fought in the name of love when there was hardly any necessity. Maybe its not an apt comparion, but what I am trying to imply is that Love brings in both positive and negative influence in our lives.

Yes Bani had encountered a whole lot of problems in the initial days and have countered them succesfully. But once she fell in love with Jai, she found that missing part in her life, a part which allowed her to be vulnerable and emotional in front of the person she loves with all her heart and soul. Ok, we may not agree with her techniques but the intent can never be questioned.

We react to tragedies in different ways when it happens for our neighbour and in our family (in a general sense of the term). The pain and understanding is there, but the mental handling is different. So I guess in all the three occasions you mentioned, she reacted more when it hit her life and understandably so. Though I wish she had taken care of her child more.

She was suspecting Jai no doubt but Jai was giving her plenty of opportunities too. Well you may ask why ddisnt she suspect anything when she saw Pia? Well maybe due to the reason that she never believed that the two most important persons in her life would backstab her (Pia intentionally, Jai forcibly). And later to know the truth and in that manner will always be disarming. And she will be reminded that maybe its her inability to gift Jai a child had drove him to Pia since he iterated on the owrds 'mera bachha ...' and 'i can lose anything but not my child'.

Yes, its natural to go in for a shock, since all teh occasions are highly sensitive in nature. Its a different issue that they have all been packed within a few months time frame.

Bnai is of course a strong person and this time, as per your wishes, she will take good care of the baby or should I say, Krishna. 😉

Originally posted by: m3ghna

I am a self proclaimed JW camper and have bashed Bani with the best of them. But I will write this post in her defense.

I am not bashing up Bani, so she doesnt need defence i guess😆

I think in JW Bani for the first time found someone to support her and love her, and where she did not have to be the strong one. JW's blind support of her during the divorce ting and and also taking her back with out questions asked. But in all of this I think she has made him out to be god rather than human and does not allow him for human mistakes.

Sweety, Jai was sirf naam ka in command! She has always been the one deciding everything related to them.. be in getting married or walking out, Bani's decision it was. And what will testify is the way she took charge of his wealth without even giving him an explanation... will go to say she was very much she insisted on believing Jai cant take care of hismelf, forget her! Does that mean Bani is more disillusioned than betrayed by Jai cause Jai didnt live up to an image she created?

Bani has always been shown as strong because she had to be as she had responsibilities that she could not ignore so she had to get on with it.

In the three circumstances you mentioned she had the luxury for once to let her emotions rule. I can imagine how hard it must be to deal with the fact that your husband whom you love more thna life is responsible for your mothers death. Rational thought is that it was an accident but the whole thing was too emotional and too traumatic. When she lost the baby it as her last link to JW and the way she lost it was brutal. Anyone would have flipped. Being in daze for a month is not unreal. In the last episode when she suspected the affair it was still unreal. When the truth came out and the way it came out involving the 2 people who were central to her life she lost her balance and her will to live.

I understand the magnitude of all the situations that sent her into daze, but i dont understand how it became selective when she has been through much trauma. Lossing parents for one is completely traumatic, much more traumatic i would say.

Bani I think is as strong as she needs to be. She always rises to the occasion. Her methods might make her queen of dufferdom but her intentions are never wrong.

I never have questioned her intensions but the fact is that her GOOD intensions till date havent done one living soul(except for Pia) much good, infact it has ony worsened situations and that negates every intension she has
Now she will be strong for the baby. JW/Pia will still continue to hurt her (Pia intentionally, JW driven by circumstances) and it will undermine her on occasions as she has lost people who were almost a part of her btu she will keep on dusting herself and get back on track because of baby.

I hope so for Krishna's sake she is. I would hate it if she anybit of the negativity she suffered is transformed to the baby... I dont want another Pia in the making!

SO final analysis Bani is strong when she needs to be, mostly for people she loves.
Frankly i dont think very high about people who dont think of themselves, their selfrespect their priorities...cause my belief is u cant take care of urself, u are of no use to help others. The one reason i always get angry with Jai is that he doesnt remember he exists for himself and same with Bani.

Don't know if I made sense.

Meghna

Nice reply dear😃

Luv

Anu.

Klue and Sangs!

Great posts 😃

call me stubborn, pigheaded or whatever, but i refuse to believe that Love can be a weakness... if Love is a weakness then it is NOT LOVE or the people involved dont know what Love is!
I can never believe that Love can break someone, it is far to divine to be labeled a reason for a person's destruction. Love is far too pure and divine, and i am talking about love in all the relationships.
The world may call Romeo-juliet,laila majnu, devdas as the greatest lovestories... but i think each one of them is a total LOSER who never understood the concept of love.

Love is the reason for life and how can something which is blessed with ability to give life, take away life? AS my siggy says When u love, u dont just love you LIVE it 😃 .
True Love gives u the strenght to move on in life, cause Love is unconditional, it doesnt expect anything in return!

Ok, what is that we are getting at? Bani would have fine if Jai had an affair with someother person who wasnt her sister 😕? I dont think so... she would react just the same way. When the truth was revealed Pia assumed the position of the other woman! The way she treats Pia post the fiasco is not like a sister but like another woman... so it is not Jai-Pia together that created the effect on her.

Sangs, i am posting cause i dont need to talk 😕 and i slept enough during the day to keep me awake for a few hours now.

Ok,i dont think i put my thoughts to words properly cause the replies i am getting are what i thought were the obvious reasons 😕 Now i totally confused 😕

Luv
Anu.