HILARIOUS IF NOT FOR... - Page 3

Originally posted by: princessunara

see i agree. BUT dadaji did NOT demand respect, he gets it.
he is NOT disrespecting the bahus, but UB is. cz the truth is he is some 80 or so year old man. he saw his wife covering the head and thinks that all women do it. BUT when he was explained CC had an accident also and was given permission, he DID not demand (which is what disrespect would have been) that she revert back to saris n cover her head.
sigh.. i wish i knew how to explain this.. but actually there is a thing where we bow down before elders its not only about respecting them but getting blessings from them. Our culture/religions have made it so that getting blessings from ur parents or any other elders is one of the most precious things one can get.
I will give u one example, for cooking for the family for the 1st tiem CC was about to get a gift, most likely gold or diamonds. But she says to bless her instead and bends down.
this is what i am talking about. Elders do not always ask for it, but youngsters simply give it..it has been taught to us from the cradle so to speak..

And hehe standing at attention was not needed, that i agree.. they showed it a little overboard in the show to make things spice up.. but its usually very casual..
when we worship usually it ends with a kiss on the forehead. And if loads of external family is there this standing in order is done to stop confusion and to get things moving quickly during functions..trust me u get entangled with everyone trying to cross paths..
what u see here is a very filmy depiction of the truth..😆

Originally posted by: LuvArnavKhushi

As far as I have seen Bollywood movies and Indian shows and such, feet touching is just a form os respect which I find alright since in other parts of the world, people kiss the elderly's hands (that is a part of my culture). but yeah the only thing I found odd was the bowing.

lol someone brought up Paro touching Dev's feet but I found that fit the era and style of the setting of the movie just perfectly. And not to mention it was two gorgeous people so they pulled it off quite well. 😉 lol

Originally posted by: showviewer

I understand your point of give and take respect and that is where the clash of ideologies is...this is the overarching theme of the show. What you are talking about is what Chhanchhan will lead this family to with her fair share of challenges and opposition through her journey.

In many conservative Indian households respect is given and demanded for age more than actions. Right or wrong is a different issue...that is the way it is. Another thing is that Indian society is largely patriarchal and most of our social and cultural norms are drawn from that. Most who grow in this milieu don't question this because for them that is normal and the way they have seen life. Many women themselves consider men better/ superior to women.

If these things were not believed or prevalent than we would not have male child preference or girl child infanticide and featicide, the male to woman ratio is skewed in many parts of the country and it is not restricted to rural areas, these things happen in educated families in big cities too.

Now, male preference does not always translate into killing of girl child but one can see various versions of it in terms of whose education and career is given importance, whose nutrition needs are better taken care of in a family etc. These are some basic examples patriarchal ideology translates into many big and small things we do in day to day life and large part of it we do not question because it is very normal for us.

What you are saying, equality for all and dignity for women are all valid points and should be there ideally, but the ground reality is diffrent.

Here Chhanchhan is trying to get to that but first she needs to understand and secure her position in Borisagar household and then she will slowly change things. Change will happen only with realization of other family members that things need altering, that will take time as years of conditioning does not change quickly. Even the women themselves (here the bahus) need to be aware of their rights.

What they are depicting in the show is a dramatized, a bit exaggerated version of many conservative joint family households across India. Sometimes it takes people like Chhanchhan to come, shake things up and ask questions.

Originally posted by: .Sarita.

Its done in india but not like it was shown in show ...people here bent down and touch elders feet to take blessing and elders also give blessings without the feeling of i am god or something like that...tv shows exaggrate these things

Originally posted by: kbtr

Wow! That was beautifully said!

And yeah, you are right - change is a necessity, resisted. Especially by those who would lose something were the change brought about.

( I guess that's why we have wars... too deep, I know!)

Just wanted to let you know that Italians are patriarchal, too. But I don't bow down to my nonno. Infant genocide happened with Spartacus, too. And if many women consider themselves inferior to men, then that is wrong. Because we were all created equally.

Whaat! It's shocking that a mother would feed her male child better food than her female child? Maybe I misunderstood this??

Yeah, I guess, they always exaggerate everything in movies.