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Posted: 12 years ago
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The way Bharathi is trying to put pressure on Madhav to talk to Aaru. She wants him to convey to Aaru that she has to get 1st class. Good that she is not engulfing herself into a Saas-bahu dialogue instead she is trying to communicate through Madhav. But her follow up ... inquiring him by calling ...

Similarly when she was not ready to come for the marriage also, she tried to put Pressure on Madhav to tell and convince Rahul.

Whenever she thinks the respondents are supposed to be controlled by Madhav, I mean she expects Madhav to be bossing/controlling Rahul or Aaradhya so she tries to push Madhav to do that and in order to achieve her ambition to see Madhav controlling them, she is pushing Madhav into an edge.

Ideally she very well knows Madahv's limitations. He cannot be bossy. He is actually nervous and with close family also he talks very less and limited. In this situation, she has to give Madhav lots of space to deal with people in his own way instead of pushing him.

she wishes to see Madhav as someone, who because of his knowledge and intelligence is more powerful. But she is actually making Madhav more lame...

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Bharti is a 'lost in translation' mom!
She has this twisted equation that beauty & brains don't go together!
She was in a way failure as a mom- to hang on to single incident of brownboo & 'label' her own offspring as deprived one!
Where she as a mom could have easily turned that incident in his strength & confidence building stepping stone.
She perhaps now thinks: by pushing issue-solving on Madhav, she is making him stronger,making him dominant.
But instead it is resulting into more chaos.
One thing: However sulza hua, calm Madhav is: He lacks ability of critical thinking in decesive moments!
Had he had that ability: he wouldn't have agreed to Dulha swap.
And No One but Bharti's 'push' is the reason behind Madhav's this disability.
Same goes for Prerna. Bharti has in way paralized her kids with her own stagnent thoughts of 'beauty'
In this current situation: I am really surprised: as why Bharti has never botherd to ask how Aru decided to come to their house. How did she miss out on such an important talk with her son? Or is she taking it as her son's victory - In a lame way?
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Even I am wondering why she did not question though she expressed this concern to Brij, who brushed it off...

Like you said, she is making her kids lame... She is a failed mom. After the love confession and Dadi questioning incident I thought she will retrospect herself but she is still the same...

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Posted: 12 years ago
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She keeps telling Madhav that people are using! As a mother, she gets mad that is justified but As a mother she uses him asking him to do things she does not want to do herself! It feels like Madhav is some ASSITANT not her son😳 Or she knows Madhav being Ehsaas will have greater impact on people than she has😆
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Posted: 12 years ago
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👏 ... madhav is what is he now because of Bharti.. only aaradhya can bring him out from there now... but currently even aaradhya is in dilemma... so bharthi is taking charge...
for me bharti is having complex herself n has made madhav has the complex too... u see being a bit ugly does not u are nothing... something this kind of people are way ahead from good looking ones in terms of everything... 😳
look at the contrast on aaradhya upbringining... shes changing ... i mean her basic nature is still there but she think of others... 😳
Edited by riyya6 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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@SeebZ, you are right. She is delegating those activities/tasks which she wants to avoid and then exerts pressure on Madhu to do them
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Posted: 12 years ago
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@riyya, yeah one good point you mentioned is, Aaru is open for changes and adoption where as Bharathi is making her kids closed. I mean Madhav was told n number of times by Rahul etc but the strong negative effects are not vanishing on him. Like you said, only Aaru can heal those scars.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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very true bhanu...
bharti is trying to make her son convince the things she isnt able o make others do...like rahul is one person she cannot control as per her wishes so she uses madhu to make him do things...likewise when she realzied that aaru isnt paying attention to her words...she is yet again sending madhu to her...she isnt even thinking if madhu will be able to talk to her also...after the way aaru behaved to madhu in her room?how does she expect aaru to listen to madhu?strange thing😕
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Nice post Bhanu!

Brij rightly said to Bharti that their kids consider themselves different from others coz of Bharti's mentality. Yes, its her mentality towards the society which made her kids (except Pallavi) what they are today. Madhav inspite of being talented is under confident to face ppl. Prerna is not able to remain happy seeing others happy. Bharti is using education as a mask to hide her inferiority complex. As long as she doesnt get out of it n see the real beauty of her children she wont be able to help them in any way. She shud see that they are no more small kids, they are capable to make own decision n choices. Let them be free to decide what they shud do.

During the first week when they showed a worried Madhav waiting for Rahul for press conference as he was not confident to attend it, we saw Bharti ordering him to attend it n not rely on Rahul. It would have made a big difference for him if she advised softly him n filled some confidence in him instead of ordering.

I guess she is using Madhav as a means to communicate coz 1. she is scared of Aradhya's replies 2. she want her son to boss on Aradhya. For problem no.1 she shud behave like a mother so that Aradhya will listen & for problem no.2 she shud look at own life where she is the boss in front of her husband, she will see that wife bossing over husband is running on her family.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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In few words she only claims to love Madhav a lots... the facts she loves him only how much she loves her other children and the only things as she knows that Madhav can be manipulated and will dance as if she has turned up the key in a toy so she used him depending on the situation, for resolving all the difficult matter in her life, for example she'll not face Rahul nor Aradhya but she asked Madhav to do so... isn't she using him?

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