Business of Marriage

Gone are the days when marriage ceremonies were filled with joyous sentiments and a warm welcome to a whole new life of learning, happiness, understanding and salvation. Parents were rejoicing to see their son/daughter getting married and starting a new journey of life, a journey where they will get to experience ups and downs, and more importantly, they will one day become parents. Son/daughter will be taught to tackle daily family problems with understanding and adjustment.

Now, in the 21^st century, the desire for detached freedom has become so acute and pierce that people began to find the traditional way of living a married life as ridiculous and oppressive. Now marriage is all about flashy decoration, swanky outfits, pricy jewelry and flamboyant ceremonies. The marriage expenses quite obviously sky-rockets. Both the parties are competing for the fame of getting their son/daughter married in the most lavish way. Elaborate entertaining jests are organized to keep the guest spellbound by the immensity of the marriage. But the intoxication of celebrating the marriage ceremony doesn't even last for a week. Married couple will return back to their mundane life and will occasionally visit the moments of marriage watching the videos/photo albums.

Only when the man realizes that now he can start saving money for the education of his children, his wife will pull out her much deliberated lists of demands. She will demand her in-laws to live separately. She will demand equal rights in the in-law's ancestral property. She will demand the transfer of title of the house to her name. The husband, being gullible and God-fearing will not see any harm in approving most of her demands. He would, however, respectfully explain to her that he cannot ask his parents to live elsewhere. She will complain to her parents of being harassed by him and he will soon be reprimanded for treating her like this. He submissively tries to mitigate the situation by apologizing. After all, if the marriage breaks apart, the society will accuse him only irrespective of whose fault it is.

After regular blackmailing, she will complain to the police of dowry harassment and domestic violence. The police, like scavengers, will immediately arrest him and his parents. The cops are also helpful to them explaining the unofficial mechanism if they want to escape imprisonment. They will be asked to cough up mind-blowing monetary compensation as demanded by the accuser. Who would want to get entangled in our notorious legal system especially one who is accused by a woman? They reluctantly give away huge chunk of their ancestral property to the woman to settle the case. The woman is happy to earn so much money that it is only a dream of people to earn it in such a short span of time. She walks away with fortune and a tag of being a victim of domestic violence, and the husband walks away bankrupt and a tag of being a culprit who wrongly got acquitted.

It is all about money. As soon as the husband tries to re-collect his composure, he then gets slapped by the court orders commanding him to provide maintenance to his wife. Now he is slogging day and night to earn to make ends meet and a portion of his earning is going into the hands of a woman who legally destroyed him. The woman is thankful to such laws in place and also flaunts her assertiveness to her friends and relatives for fighting for her so-called rights.

Woman's rights are all about a man's liability. More and more women are happy to increase men's liability calling it as their rights. Women have proved that women's liberation is all about strangulating men's rights. What started off as a beginning of a new life of happiness for the husband, abruptly ends by becoming bankrupt, defamed, and humiliated. And for the woman, it has always been about money before marriage, after marriage and after divorce. There is no stigma on the woman for filing a false harassment case on her husband and in-laws and blackmailing them for money. What is more disturbing is that people continue to believe that women are always the victims. And to make sure that women continue to make a business out of the marriage, women groups work hard to propose women protective laws, gender sensitivity, legal leniency toward women, uplifting women's status and defaming men as born oppressors.

In the business of marriage, men are not more than money-making machines and women are no less than legal extortionists.

Men's status in India

Women's status in India

We are generalizing too much.

Disagree! Dont you think the "man" here seems way too spineless and cuts an unrealistic sorry figure!

Originally posted by: IndianRebel

Gone are the days when marriage ceremonies were filled with joyous sentiments and a warm welcome to a whole new life of learning, happiness, understanding and salvation. Parents were rejoicing to see their son/daughter getting married and starting a new journey of life, a journey where they will get to experience ups and downs, and more importantly, they will one day become parents. Son/daughter will be taught to tackle daily family problems with understanding and adjustment.

Now, in the 21^st century, the desire for detached freedom has become so acute and pierce that people began to find the traditional way of living a married life as ridiculous and oppressive. Now marriage is all about flashy decoration, swanky outfits, pricy jewelry and flamboyant ceremonies. The marriage expenses quite obviously sky-rockets. Both the parties are competing for the fame of getting their son/daughter married in the most lavish way. Elaborate entertaining jests are organized to keep the guest spellbound by the immensity of the marriage. But the intoxication of celebrating the marriage ceremony doesn't even last for a week. Married couple will return back to their mundane life and will occasionally visit the moments of marriage watching the videos/photo albums.

Only when the man realizes that now he can start saving money for the education of his children, his wife will pull out her much deliberated lists of demands. She will demand her in-laws to live separately. She will demand equal rights in the in-law's ancestral property. She will demand the transfer of title of the house to her name. The husband, being gullible and God-fearing will not see any harm in approving most of her demands. He would, however, respectfully explain to her that he cannot ask his parents to live elsewhere. She will complain to her parents of being harassed by him and he will soon be reprimanded for treating her like this. He submissively tries to mitigate the situation by apologizing. After all, if the marriage breaks apart, the society will accuse him only irrespective of whose fault it is.

After regular blackmailing, she will complain to the police of dowry harassment and domestic violence. The police, like scavengers, will immediately arrest him and his parents. The cops are also helpful to them explaining the unofficial mechanism if they want to escape imprisonment. They will be asked to cough up mind-blowing monetary compensation as demanded by the accuser. Who would want to get entangled in our notorious legal system especially one who is accused by a woman? They reluctantly give away huge chunk of their ancestral property to the woman to settle the case. The woman is happy to earn so much money that it is only a dream of people to earn it in such a short span of time. She walks away with fortune and a tag of being a victim of domestic violence, and the husband walks away bankrupt and a tag of being a culprit who wrongly got acquitted.

It is all about money. As soon as the husband tries to re-collect his composure, he then gets slapped by the court orders commanding him to provide maintenance to his wife. Now he is slogging day and night to earn to make ends meet and a portion of his earning is going into the hands of a woman who legally destroyed him. The woman is thankful to such laws in place and also flaunts her assertiveness to her friends and relatives for fighting for her so-called rights.

Woman's rights are all about a man's liability. More and more women are happy to increase men's liability calling it as their rights. Women have proved that women's liberation is all about strangulating men's rights. What started off as a beginning of a new life of happiness for the husband, abruptly ends by becoming bankrupt, defamed, and humiliated. And for the woman, it has always been about money before marriage, after marriage and after divorce. There is no stigma on the woman for filing a false harassment case on her husband and in-laws and blackmailing them for money. What is more disturbing is that people continue to believe that women are always the victims. And to make sure that women continue to make a business out of the marriage, women groups work hard to propose women protective laws, gender sensitivity, legal leniency toward women, uplifting women's status and defaming men as born oppressors.

In the business of marriage, men are not more than money-making machines and women are no less than legal extortionists.

Please re read your post after ur anger decreases definitely u will definitely change ur own views!!!

Shanthi!!!! Shanthi!!!

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

Please re read your post after ur anger decreases definitely u will definitely change ur own views!!!

Shanthi!!!! Shanthi!!!

the author is not as much out on left field as one might think. i've heard of more than a couple of instances in well-known delhi circles where the gal has held the guy n his family to ransom threatening a case of domestic violence, n it's false... Mostly the gal is from a middle-class family n the guy is rich. the guy has had to cough up huge amounts to pay her off n fend off the cops. i know a few instances do not a trend make but i think the pendulum might have swung too far on the other side in reaction to all those bride-burning/ dowry cases. the laws are heavily scripted these days to usually assume that the girl has been wronged which is not always the case. I dont know what the solution is because there are always people who will exploit the system...

peace😊

ps. i am referring here to the following para:

"After regular blackmailing, she will complain to the police of dowry harassment and domestic violence. The police, like scavengers, will immediately arrest him and his parents. The cops are also helpful to them explaining the unofficial mechanism if they want to escape imprisonment. They will be asked to cough up mind-blowing monetary compensation as demanded by the accuser. Who would want to get entangled in our notorious legal system especially one who is accused by a woman? They reluctantly give away huge chunk of their ancestral property to the woman to settle the case. The woman is happy to earn so much money that it is only a dream of people to earn it in such a short span of time. She walks away with fortune and a tag of being a victim of domestic violence, and the husband walks away bankrupt and a tag of being a culprit who wrongly got acquitted."

Originally posted by: abhijit shukla

Dude, I did not read all three of your assays but I will close the other two till I read them. THis is not meant to be an genger-tirade forum. I am keeping this one open so people have an opportunity to express thier disagreement with this and the other two.

@abhijit: So you think that I am against women. You are mistaken. I am against injustice.

@Tanushree: I didn't know that you a orthopaedist specialising in analysing whether a patient is a mammal or an invertebrate.

Finally, women of India have successfully crucified the sacred institution of marriage. First, the proliferation of misuse of IPC 498A (anti-dowry law), which has created much apprehension in the hearts of many families who are under constant threat of being falsely implicated under IPC 498A. When that was not enough to satisfy the modern sadist (women), they have now introduced Domestic Violence Bill in order to loot the husband and his family legally.

More than 60,000 cases are filed each year, 800,000 families are badly affected and more than 90% of the cases are false. Shocking!!! The more shocking is to know that women organizations and the Government are aware of these figures but are not willing to protect the husband and his family from being victimized in the hands of their unscrupulous wife/daughter-in-law. Media, too, shamelessly is not willing to accept the blame for not raising this serious issue in the public. It is very clear that the women organizations have deliberately instigated such a plot to harass innocent families and the Government is helping them to ruin marriages.

It is important to note that those innocent people who have been falsely implicated didn't commit any crime, but they had to pay a very large sum of money to their sleazy wife to settle the case. This situation is even worse than dowry. To top it all, Domestic Violence Bill gives ridiculous rights to women to loot their husband and in-laws legally. Women call this as gender equality. Some women are bold enough to blurt it out that now its men's turn to suffer in pain. This clearly shows that sadistic approach in attaining gender equality. Unfortunately, with people's ignorance and lack of empowerment, they are simply living their helpless life under constant threat, thanks to bias media.

Anybody with reasonable maturity can figure out from these developments that women are not interested in gender equality; they are aiming for a World where men live like pet dogs to them who are stinking rich. Men will be legally obligated to live like pet dogs to women, earn lots of money and give it away to his wife, satisfy her sexual needs as and when, and finally to cheerfully dance on her tunes like a monkey.

However, in order to create the balance of power between the two genders, men are now beginning to realize that women can't be judged from their beauty. Men are becoming conscientious to an extent that they find it highly unreasonable to follow the age-old tradition of respecting, protecting and providing for women. They are now beginning to accept women as just another person in the society who can potentially hurt them. Now men will not fall for a beautiful and curvaceous woman having greed, jealousy and hatred in her heart. And there are plentiful of such women out there. This positive change will definitely shake the foundation of radical feminism. Needless to say, media will remain shameless and continue to protect the deception of women empowerment.