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ambolove

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Posted: 13 years ago

As I am not a hindu, I had to do a little bit of research around the web to discover what kanyadan means and this is what I came across:

Most commonly, the term kanyadan is used to describe the most highly valued form of Hindu marriage.More specifically, kanyadan is a certain Hindu wedding ritual and means "gift of a virgin" or "gift of a maiden" There are, however, different interpretations and practices across South Asia.

According to contemporary, orthodox Hindu theories, giving their virgin daughter to the husband's family not only increases and ensures the parents' prestige, but it is also believed to purify them of sin. Kanyadan mainly reveals that the wife is a form of Puruarthas like Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha. The ritual makes the bridegroom to think that his wife is the most precious gift given by the god Vishnu and the bride to think that her husband is a form of Vishnu.

Importantly, the kanyadan ritual occurs right before the Sindoor ritual (sindurdan), which marks the bride's symbolic loss of virginity.

So Purvi actually broke a rule, an actual important symbolic ritual. Because how can a kanyadan be carried out if on the day she was NOT a virgin?

Wouldn't carrying out a kanyadan actually dirty the parents with countless sins rather than purify them?

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Please explain as I am merely inquisitive on how it works.

Koolsadhu or Shashashyam I'd like to discover what your views are.

Edited by ambolove - 13 years ago

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Sheetal

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Posted: 13 years ago

Purvi's parents didn't perform the ritual for her and Onir.

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Esha

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Posted: 13 years ago

No one did Purvi's kanyadan

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ambolove

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: arjunpurvixo
<font face="Comic Sans MS, Times, serif">Purvi's parents didn't perform the ritual for her and Onir.</font>

What I meant to say was IF she had married Arjun. Thanks for the reply sweets.

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ambolove

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: eshaaax3.
No one did Purvi's kanyadan

Purely from a 'what if' speculative view. Thank you for taking the time to reply eshaaax.

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 13 years ago

Yup . That is the least of her deeds . She was asking , insisting on a kanyadan when she had no problems with pre marital sex ... i had said that she should do a court marraige and throw a reception as the circumstances were hostile . But she was insisting on a kanyadaan like no one;s business when one kanya [ Ovi] would beso hurt she would commit suicide if she even lost her dad after losing her fiancee .

For us hindus , kanyadaan is regarded as the greatest punya [ good merit ] one can accumalate in his life ...the punya goes to the father for the daan ...he gives his virginal daughter to his son in law by putting water on his hand . It is one of the most important rituals in a hindu marraige .

Asking a father to participate in this ritual when she had no compunction losing her virginity without even waiting one more day for the wedding and risking another kanya's life for it was a real . real travesty . We hindus believe that a vedic marraige must be done with blessings . the base must never be someone's hurt heart . Court marraiges r an option to avoid these sins .

The worst sin was giving her fiancee up immediately few hours after sex with him ...this shows a cold , cold heart . Where she willpay for all these sins god knows but each sin is tooted as a sanskaar in this serial .

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nalonynnej

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Posted: 13 years ago

Question for all:

(Not trying to defend what Purvi did, by the way.)

In cases of rape, does performing kanyadan of the woman detriment the parents with sins and is the symbolic ritual considered broken? After all, the girl is no longer a virgin. And what about cases of punar vivah?

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Dabulls23

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Posted: 13 years ago

Rape, molestation, incest are exceptional cases where it is not done by the female intentionally or willingly...

Father doing kanyadan of these girls are still pure at heart ofcourse the fact abt girl's past is known to the groom..Nothing is kept secret..

In Purvi's case she has played everyone and taken advantage of being raised by a good loving mother and grand mother...now father and rest of the family..

Purvi is disgrace to herself and the family...I am not saying this because she had pre martital sex...but everything she did after having one intimate encounter with her so called lover...Dumping him, forcing him to marry her step sister, manipulated him into consummating his marriage...Now we see the outcome of it all...As if it was not enough she has plonked her prego butt at deshmukhs..

If Kanyadan was so important to her as b4 why would she marry Onir w/o informing her Mother Archana? She was runnign and hiding with the tail between her two legs as she knew she had done something so disgusting..Not sure why she kept this baby to have humilliantion being hurled to him-her for rest of the life?? Innocent baby will suffer due to her stupidity and manipulations..

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koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 13 years ago

Punar vivah is not permitted in sanatan hinduism. Nowadays they do it but court marriges and parties hereafter r considered best .

Even rape victims r not allowed in sanatan hinduism to sit for kanyadan ...it isa ritual strictly for virgins .

Just as the white wedding dress in church weddings is actually asymbol for virginity so is this ritual .

Nowadays anything goes .The bride does various hairstyles by beautician doesn't she . Formerly in maharashtrian hindu weddings the young girl was brought after the haldi was applied and the traditional bath was given , in a yellow sari and open wet hair by the maama[ ' uncle]to the wedding fire where the marraige took place with a antarpaat in the middle held by two priests...the boy could not even look at the face of his bride till the marraige took place .The haldi was applied as it is antiseptic . It left a yellowish tinge in the wet youthful complexion ...the open wet hair and the yellow silk sari called the maatav sari , given by the maama [ itis the uncle's honor ] made the young bride look innocent and beautiful .

Nowadays many feel uncomfortable in distorting vedic marraiges so they prefer court marraiges and receptions .