It is very hard to share intimacy problems

Everyone is bashing why anandi is not sharing her fears about intimacy. I too did not like the way she pretended to sleep, this is not expected from an honest person like her. Here CV are showing us a normal girl anandi who has issues about her past ruining her present. It is very difficult for any girl or boy to share intimacy problems with a partner..that too in an arranged marriage. The main reason is its a very sensitive issue bcos this might hurt the other person who is very eager to love. Anandi is a village girl and traditional upbringing. She and shiv are not so comfortable to share such sensitive topic. Shiv is the only person who can break the ice by giving her space and stop reminding her about SR. I seriously fee anandi problem can be solved very easily when treated by a psychologist.

she needs shiv to sit with her and talk to her thats all. Right now A is not able to understand what to do.. and how to react to Shiv's anticipation. Both just need some time out thats all

Forget India I know some educated Indian families even here who thinks seeing a Psychiatrist means being pagal only to be treated.

it is very difficult for abused woman to fall in second love easily and i m not saying anandi should fall in love with shiv immediately but bv cvs should first clear reason of fear of her regarding intimacy with shiv then show other tracks like basant gehna adopting child matter dadisa jagya search mission and ganga problem .

Well said..here Shiv is the counseller of Anandi he understand the unspoken words of Anandi sooner or late n with his support n love she can move forward in married life only bt at a slow pace..having SR or to go physical vd a person is nt so easy fr a women n especially fr anandi who has been hurt by jagya badly. .Shiv yestertday gt the hint abt it n i m sure he ll handle it n mske anandi overcome her past n fears. .her healing will take tym offcourse as its a result of her previous long marital life n cant be expected overnite n i m happy vd the pace of cvs n fulll faith on Characters of ShivAnandi..

Originally posted by: Sheetsden

Everyone is bashing why anandi is not sharing her fears about intimacy. I too did not like the way she pretended to sleep, this is not expected from an honest person like her. Here CV are showing us a normal girl anandi who has issues about her past ruining her present. It is very difficult for any girl or boy to share intimacy problems with a partner..that too in an arranged marriage. The main reason is its a very sensitive issue bcos this might hurt the other person who is very eager to love. Anandi is a village girl and traditional upbringing. She and shiv are not so comfortable to share such sensitive topic. Shiv is the only person who can break the ice by giving her space and stop reminding her about SR. I seriously fee anandi problem can be solved very easily when treated by a psychologist.

All of people in india are ignorant about counselling sessions. Any body gone through an abusive relationship should go for a counselling session by a professional doctor. They can easily make them open out their sensitive issues and give a resolution. I really wish CV show a message regardig this.

They are going to show a good message about artificial insemination on having children then why not give a message for indian viewers about counseling sessions.

I think that Shiv has understood that there are insecurities that Anandi is feeling, which is why he's arranged for them to be alone all day without anyone. He knows that if he brings it up directly, Anandi wont respond. He's trying to open her up. As for Anandi- I understand how difficult it might be. But This wasn't an arranged marriage. Anandi knew what she was doing, and im not blaming her or anything, but I still think that not only she, but any girl who is Anandi's situation needs to completely understand the implications of saying yes to marriage. Physical Relationship is to be expected from ones husband. That's what differs this relationship with all others. I hope anandi is able to voice her insecurities, for she's lucky to have a husband like Shiv, who now not only respects her, and loves her, but considers her an Equal. He will nurture her back.. since that too only he can accomplish. He will understand her. And help her.

All along on the show I have felt as if Shiv has to do most of the work, while Anandi reacts only when things get completely out of hand. I don't know why she thinks that just keeping his family happy is enough. Shiv is not a traditional guy where he would be happy with her just keeping the family happy. She herself hasn't shown much progress towards Shiv till he has had to work very hard to overcome her hesitation. I have felt a huge imbalance in their relationship. Now that they are married, Anandi is running around like a scared deer avoiding everything instead of sitting and thinking rationally. Whatever she does affects not just her but both of them. So she also needs to take a step rather than let Shiv do all the work.