Bani - Woman In Love / Q & A!

Life is a moment in space
When the dream is gone
Its a lonelier place
I kiss the morning goodbye
But down inside you know
We never know why
The road is narrow and long
When eyes meet eyes
And the feeling is strong
I turn away from the wall
I stumble and fall
But I give you it all...

I am a woman in love
And I do anything
To get you into my world
And hold you within
Its a right I defend
Over and over again
What do I do?

With you eternally mine
In love there is
No measure of time
We planned it all at the start
That you and i
Would live in each others hearts
We may be oceans away
You feel my love
I hear what you say
No truth is ever a lie
I stumble and fall
But I give you it all

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All the ladies here who have fallen in Love at least once in their Life-time would probably identify with what Bani is going through! Even those who are yet to be touched by the most magical of all Emotions would atleast agree that Love definitely makes the World go round!

Look at Bani Walia nee Dixit's chequered Life till date! She arrives at Walia Mansion with the baggage of a broken family, cheerless childhood and an almost non-existent youth. At 23, Bani is the Head of her Family, responsible for two young sisters, responsible for their food, shelter, welfare and future! Not being the one to ever look back on Life or wallow in self-pity, here is a girl who has been forced to turn into a woman by circumstances! A strong, independent minded and self-respecting individual who ends up living in a benevolent stranger's house, not once losing her sense of uniqueness or pride.

The same woman is suddenly thrown into a whirlpool when she ends up marrying someone whom she hadn't considered as even a part of her cloistered life till date! From a secluded, lonesome and solitary life, Bani enters the Life of Jai Walia! A man who is larger than Life, a man who is almost a modern day King, a man with a family ,with a status, with recognition and a man with hatred and anger seething in his Heart, all for her!

For a woman who had not even considered a normal and happy marriage for herself, this was surely a shock, to say the least! Not only was she suddenly plunged into an alien world, she was bound in matrimony to a man who did not love her, who did not care for her and most sadly, did not want her! Bani had nothing to gain from the marriage, but at the same time, neither did she have anything to lose! For if Jai did not love her, neither did she!

But then Love happened one fine day and it took Bani unawares as it always does with everyone! And then, the snub that did not hurt her till now, made her cringe, the cold glare to which she was indifferent till now made her Heart sink, the thundering rage which was answered by an icy detachment till now made her eyes well with tears, the thought of seeing Jai with another woman that had not crossed her mind, made her seeth in an emotion to which she had been unaware till now!

But destiny and her own set of never-ending problems made Bani suppress the wave of emotions she felt for Jai! It did not stop her from acknowledging the deep feelings she had for her husand but it was something which she could never express outwardly! It is not wonder that Jai, who has always been surprisingly intuitive about Love, was able to guess what his young wife was going through, but was always in two minds because of the conflicting that was going on in Bani's Life, what his Heart could see his Eyes could not see and hence, inspite of the confidence in his Heart, Jai was always in doubt of 'How' much Bani feels for him, never on 'What' she feels for him!

Bani on the other hand, inspite of being so mature, responsible and sensitive could never fathom what Jai felt for her! She knew he liked her, she knew he was affectionate and protective towards her, she knew he respected, admired and cherished her as a Wife, but she could never guess what he felt for her as a Woman. Whether he shared the same intensity of Emotions that she had for Jai, whether he felt the same wave of unstoppable Love that she felt for him, whether she took his breath away the way he always did!

And then, when Bani saw, how much Jai was willing to forgo for her sake, how he could compromise not only on his wealth, but also his family, his happiness and most importantly on his self-respect for her sake, she knew that she had not taken the wrong road in her Life and that the path she had chosen would not be a solitary one! Bani realized that a man who refused to bow down to all tangible evidence against the blind faith he had for her, could only be so, because he Loved her. A man, who fought agains his Family, who went agains the advice of his Friends, who kept holding on to the last shreds of his patience and hope, could only be so, because he Loved her. A man, who called their child a blessed one because it was to be blessed with a Mother like Bani, a man, who saw truth in her eyes when the whole world called him blind, a man who called their relationship the coming together of two Souls, could only be so, because he Loved her!

Now that, Bani knows that Jai has loved her and loved her with all his Heart and Soul, what is to stop her from expressing what she feels? Why should she suppress what has been in her Heart and Mind for the last so many months? Why should she let go of what they can share for what they have lost? When travelling the path of life, and finding love along the way, everything looks new and different. Little do you know it is the same old landscape you used to see all of the time; Love has just given you new eyes.

Hence, the exuberance, the enthusiasm and the high spirits that is showering her life and making her look like the Girl she should be and not the Woman she was till now!

"I am Just another woman in love, a kid out of school
A fire out of control, just another fool
You touch me and I'm weak, I'm a feather in the wind
And I can't wait to feel you touching me again
With you I'm just another woman, just another woman in love"

So the questions based on my rather soppy and treachely post are as follows, incase you haven't got Diabetes till now after reading it, please do answer the following;

Do you like the new bold, confident and expressive new Bani or did you like the quiet, reticient and introverted old Bani?

Do you think the Bani we are seeing now is the Real Woman who had been hidden behind years of lonliness and serenity? Or do you think that the new Bani is a just a product of temporary emotions and that she will revert back to her old-self when the first flush of love desends down?

How do you think Jai is perceiving his Wife now as compared to what he had seen of her till now? Is Jai put off by Bani's openness or is he just pleasantly surprised by her?

If Jai and Pia had not had the ONS (Which itself is pretty doubtful!) would Jai's behaviour towards Bani's new self have been any different from what it is now?

Jai fell for Pia because she was just his opposite, vivacious, frank and expressive about her feelings. Bani in a way is very similar to Jai, but now that that she is all that Pia was once upon a time, do you think that aspect will make Jai hesitant or will it attract him more towards Bani?

Inspite of Bani always being in Love with Jai, did you ever find Bani to be cold and unresponsive or do you think she is overdoing it now and it behaving out of character with Jai?

If you were in Bani's shoes, would your behaviour be consummate with Bani or would it be any different? Do you think Being in Love is a Subjective emotion and every woman reacts differently to it or do you think that Love as much makes everyone behave and react in a more or less same manner?

Loads of Love (I have killed this word by using it so many times in my post)

MT

PS: On a personal note, I remember behaving like a total goof-ball in Love! Its embarssing to even think of it now!😆

Originally posted by: soapbubble

On the other hand - this is what he's getting. Once she finds out, he ain't gonna have any candlelight dinners - so he might as well make the most of them. 😛

Bubble

😆😆😆 Is it just me or have you really developed an extra funny bone in your body, Bubbles? That was a really cute comment!!! As Pooja puts it perfectly, tujhe Jai ne bahut bada sadma diya hai...I can understand where you are coming from!

Will reply to your post later, Pri will reply to yours also!

Cheers,

MT

Do you like the new bold, confident and expressive new Bani or did you like the quiet, reticient and introverted old Bani?

I haven't seen the bold Bani yet on my television set but I don't see why not. Bani doesn't necessarily have to be the quiet woman, there's no harm in seeing the BB(Bold Bani). Plus this means we'll see a different side of Prachi, so ofcourse I'm going to love it!

😛

Do you think the Bani we are seeing now is the Real Woman who had been hidden behind years of lonliness and serenity? Or do you think that the new Bani is a just a product of temporary emotions and that she will revert back to her old-self when the first flush of love desends down?

Its no new Bani, this new found expressive Bani was always a part of her but she never had a chance to explore. After her parents death she had to look after sisters, she fell in love with Pushkar and mind you for the little time was in his trance, her dreams had no boundaries. Unfortunately or fortunately, she wasn't the woman for Pushkar so that obviously gave her a jhatka. She's been confident before, she always has been but not bold.

How do you think Jai is perceiving his Wife now as compared to what he had seen of her till now? Is Jai put off by Bani's openness or is he just pleasantly surprised by her?

Hmm. The last thing he should feel is being put off by Bani's behaviour. Its shocked him for sure, here is a woman who is not leaving a chance of saying the 3 beautiful words repeatedly and on the other hand he has slept with his wife's sister. So its guilt and shock mixed together.

If Jai and Pia had not had the ONS (Which itself is pretty doubtful!) would Jai's behaviour towards Bani's new self have been any different from what it is now?

The shock would be there but the guilt wouldn't. In both cases, he will melt as Ram said in the SBS video.

Jai fell for Pia because she was just his opposite, vivacious, frank and expressive about her feelings. Bani in a way is very similar to Jai, but now that that she is all that Pia was once upon a time, do you think that aspect will make Jai hesitant or will it attract him more towards Bani?

Oh no no. Pia and Bani have no similarity at all except the fact that they love each other so much. Bani's love has dignity,respect and purity....and Pia, well has she heard of those words? Pia is most likely to change her feelings with the click of the fingers. Bani knows how to stay comitted, she doesn't jump from one man to the other because she decides she wants to. Bani's boldness (said this word too many times) has dignity!!

Inspite of Bani always being in Love with Jai, did you ever find Bani to be cold and unresponsive or do you think she is overdoing it now and it behaving out of character with Jai?

No way. She was never cold and unresponsive to Jai. She has always been with him (except the whole PR case which we can't blame her for). She wasn't outspoken about her love back then because Mr.Walia never really gave her that kind of response. Going back to the dignity part, she knew that Jai once loved her sister, so a sense of unsurity(is that a word?! ) would be there. But she has never been cold to him. Rememeber that scene, where Mr.Walia is singing horrendously? Look at everyone else's reaction and compare them to Bani's facial expression. SIMPLY SUPERB!! Thats my favourite Bani/Prachi scene...this one scene summed up what she felt about him

If you were in Bani's shoes, would your behaviour be consummate with Bani or would it be any different? Do you think Being in Love is a Subjective emotion and every woman reacts differently to it or do you think that Love as much makes everyone behave and react in a more or less same manner?

I'm not sure if I get the first sentence. Do you mean if I were In Jai's shoes? But nevertheless, I've never been in love so I have no idea!

Do you like the new bold, confident and expressive new Bani or did you like the quiet, reticient and introverted old Bani?

I like both facets of her personality. There is a time to be bold, confident and expressive and a time to be quiet. I like to see all these qualities in a person each coming to the foray depending upon the circumstances.

Do you think the Bani we are seeing now is the Real Woman who had been hidden behind years of lonliness and serenity? Or do you think that the new Bani is a just a product of temporary emotions and that she will revert back to her old-self when the first flush of love desends down?

Yep, definately we are seeing a new Bani now, she is young, confident and vivacious so she should act her age and go get what she wants and not sit and behave like an amma. Though I must say I am weary that she might revert back to her old self, out of habit but mind you she has always been a confident person, only not so vocal.

How do you think Jai is perceiving his Wife now as compared to what he had seen of her till now? Is Jai put off by Bani's openness or is he just pleasantly surprised by her?

Oh, he is shocked out of his wits I persume. He probably had no inkling this side of her even existed. She was always amma. "Bani, yeh kiya kar rahi ho?" wondering probably if she is on drugs 😆 . I doubt he will be put off , I should think he would be surprised and would kind of like it, after getting over the initial shock that is. It makes her alive and pump some vibrancy into her old man.

If Jai and Pia had not had the ONS (Which itself is pretty doubtful!) would Jai's behaviour towards Bani's new self have been any different from what it is now?

Most definately, he is so hung up on his guilt and he is afraid she will see it in his eyes, she reads them so well.

Jai fell for Pia because she was just his opposite, vivacious, frank and expressive about her feelings. Bani in a way is very similar to Jai, but now that that she is all that Pia was once upon a time, do you think that aspect will make Jai hesitant or will it attract him more towards Bani?

Initially he is going to be hesitant, simply because he is not accustomed to this new facet of bani, like unfamiliar territory. But eventually, he will love it.

Inspite of Bani always being in Love with Jai, did you ever find Bani to be cold and unresponsive or do you think she is overdoing it now and it behaving out of character with Jai?

She knows he loves her and that gives her the confidence to express herself. Earlier she was unsure about his love for her, hence the parda.

If you were in Bani's shoes, would your behaviour be consummate with Bani or would it be any different? Do you think Being in Love is a Subjective emotion and every woman reacts differently to it or do you think that Love as much makes everyone behave and react in a more or less same manner?

MT, gosh when I was in love, the things I did, God, I can never imagine. Definately, it gave me more confidence to act like a fool, fly like a butterfly. So carefree and happy. But not everyone behaves in the same manner. I know many who have remained coy and reserved about it but they loved with as much intensity.

Loads of Love (I have killed this word by using it so many times in my post)

MT

Do you like the new bold, confident and expressive new Bani or did you like the quiet, reticient and introverted old Bani?


I would like to see the new bold Bani. Simply because we might see the real one who was always was hidden in side her and never had the chance to come out until now... 😳


Do you think the Bani we are seeing now is the Real Woman who had been hidden behind years of lonliness and serenity? Or do you think that the new Bani is a just a product of temporary emotions and that she will revert back to her old-self when the first flush of love desends down?


Yes, I think the Bani we are seeing now is the real Woman who had been hidden behind years of lonliness and serenity... 😳


How do you think Jai is perceiving his Wife now as compared to what he had seen of her till now? Is Jai put off by Bani's openness or is he just pleasantly surprised by her?


I think he is just pleasantly surprised by her... 😳

If Jai and Pia had not had the ONS (Which itself is pretty doubtful!) would Jai's behaviour towards Bani's new self have been any different from what it is now?

I think Jai loved Bani and accepting her back was not an option to him , as he one way or another wanted her back but was also helpless to do so. And now finally when he got her, he is unable to even tell her how he is feeling, because of the bad position he is now. He is feeling guilty and is scared that, if the truth comes out (which it will sooner or later) it could destroy what ever they had or was between them and morely it could harm Bani... 😳



Jai fell for Pia because she was just his opposite, vivacious, frank and expressive about her feelings. Bani in a way is very similar to Jai, but now that that she is all that Pia was once upon a time, do you think that aspect will make Jai hesitant or will it attract him more towards Bani?


I'm sure it will atract him now more towards Bani.... but for how long will he get the pleasure?..... 😳


Inspite of Bani always being in Love with Jai, did you ever find Bani to be cold and unresponsive or do you think she is overdoing it now and it behaving out of character with Jai?


I think she is doing her character now even better. Simply because Bani is now clean about her feelings to Jai and this is making her love more and more every minute she spends with him... 😳

If you were in Bani's shoes, would your behaviour be consummate with Bani or would it be any different? Do you think Being in Love is a Subjective emotion and every woman reacts differently to it or do you think that Love as much makes everyone behave and react in a more or less same manner?

MT. This one is hard but I will try to answer.
Yes! I think my behaviour would be consummate with Bani and I also think that, love makes people behave in different ways but the feeling or the emotion is same thing "love"... 😳


Good Questions MT..... 👏 👏 👏



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