In defence of sanchi

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sectoreight

@sectoreight

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Posted: 13 years ago

I am wondering if we know the whole story between sanchi and shiv.

I think instead of criticizing sanchi for her behaviour, to me it looks like she has had some deep feelings of hurt.

For this I would be curious to know what was the understanding between shiv and sanchi initially.

Had shiv agreed to sanchi choosing a wife for him? Was that their understanding.

If so, then i think shiv did a mistake by not taking saanchi into confidence about the anandi matter and not getting her buy-in.

Saanchi's behaviour is only obnoxious if there was no prior understanding with her brother.

If there was a prior understanding and shiv backed out of his commitment to have sanchi choose his wife, or if he did not take her seriously then it reflects badly on him.

It is obvious sanchi is deeply hurt, and though she targets it to anandi, I think she is deeply hurt that her brother blew her off and did not take his commitment/promise to her seriously.

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Vidya

@Shinya

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Posted: 13 years ago

Thank God, somebody raised this issue.

It is really immature to blame a teenager without knowing much about the mutual understanding between the siblings or how she has been raised by her family.

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Ela Singh

@elasingh

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Posted: 13 years ago

Hats off to you sectoreight for raising this topic.

Its hard to defend Sanchi's rude behaviour but Shiv has been equally ruthless with her.

His handling of Sanchi was all wrong. It doesnt show him in good light.

Wonder if he is going to tolerate only those ppl in his life who accept his Ajee ?

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Suchi-

@Suchi-

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Posted: 13 years ago

Shiv is after all human. He also has rights to get angry and feel hurt.

They might have entertained Sanchi with the idea that she can select the bride but in the end... the entire family assumed that Sanchi would accept Shiv's choice. He is an IAS officer who makes on so many people, can't he take a decision regarding his own marriage?

ANd when he did that, he expected his family to back him up and so they did.

At first CM was not all thrilled about it, and he did not try and convince her but let her be. He knew with time she would see A for who she is and that is exactly what happened.

So its not that he throws away people who do not accept A jee but its that he deals with people accordingly.

With Sanchi, she is like a stubborn child. He has laid his foot down with her because she will not listen to reason.

So I do not feel/see anything wrong with the way he told off sanchi. Anyone would have done so.

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roberoi

@roberoi

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

I am afraid I do not find this logical at all...in every family sisters specially younger ones are pampered and say I will look for my bhabhi...koi agreement sign nahin hota...it is marriage and everyone has right to choose his/her own spouse...koi bade bhai se is tarah baat karta hai...Shiv shouted at her when paani sar se oopar nikal gaya...

Till the time she was shouting at home he was ok but she misbehaved in front of all to Ajee he was angry...Defending Sanchi is beyond me and I would rather say Shekhars are also to be blamed...they just sit like dumbos...kaunse ma baap is tarah behave karte hain ya apne bacchon ko karne dete hain?

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Ela Singh

@elasingh

Stunner

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Posted: 13 years ago

CM didn't accept Anandi at first. If we remember she went to meet her and asked her to go back

to Jagia. Even with DS she was quite blunt and talked of breaking the Rishta. She accepted Anandi only recently. In other words she took her time. Ironically the same CM told Sanchi to stop talking nonsense.

Sanchi too would have accepted Anandi with time. In fact she herself said she was feeling guilty

of being rude to Anandi. That shows she is not all that bad.

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ankit111

@ankit111

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

So we sd dig out, whether Shiv hd a signed contract with Sanchi for choosing HER BHABHI or he hs freedom to choose HIS WIFE😆😆 i think mother hs more rit to choose her bahu thn a sister to choose her bhabhi. From this logic Shiv mother sd hv killed Anandi😆😆 sanchi even not knowing Anandi started her drama, only becoz it was not HER CHOICE. As concern to her DEEPLY HURT, becoz hypothetically she hd signed contract with shiv, for choosing HER BHABHI, thn i think Osama Bin Laden was also deeply hurt with USA, becoz once upon a time USA hd supported him😆😆 great logic na😆😆 how interesting to defend a girl, who without knowing Anandi as person, generalize tht all villagers r Gawanr and not deserve to be HER BHABHI😆😆 i think Shiv earned respect, with properly dealing with such stubborn stupid girl. His behavior was very balanced, and logical👏👏 the first male character in serial, taking a stand and hv his OWN voice and stand for tht.😆😆 If he is in bad light with his dealing to sanchi, thn i think its problem with light and not in him😉😉

Edited by ankit111 - 13 years ago

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Pratiksha

@Don_theEvil

Stunner

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Posted: 13 years ago

shiv deal according to situation... he to feel likes other did. if he said nor word against her. .then all will come up with saying that why he didnt answer back and now when he did again problem ... about sachi she is being stupid ... she just dont wanted to listen anyone.. she ignore everything that others wanted to tell her.. so shiv did rifght thing.. this is important matter to related to his life.. there is not place to tantrum.. so he took decision so what..i think its right..

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Yash Pal Dhavan

@Yash.Pal

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: ankit111
So we sd dig out, whether Shiv hd a signed contract with Sanchi for choosing HER BHABHI or he hs freedom to choose HIS WIFE😆😆 i think mother hs more rit to choose her bahu thn a sister to choose her bhabhi. From this logic Shiv mother sd hv killed Anandi😆😆 sanchi even not knowing Anandi started her drama, only becoz it was not HER CHOICE. As concern to her DEEPLY HURT, becoz hypothetically she hd signed contract with shiv, for choosing HER BHABHI, thn i think Osama Bin Laden was also deeply hurt with USA, becoz once upon a time USA hd supported him😆😆 great logic na😆😆 how interesting to defend a girl, who without knowing Anandi as person, generalize tht all villagers r Gawanr and not deserve to be HER BHABHI😆😆 i think Shiv earned respect, with properly dealing with such stubborn stupid girl. His behavior was very balanced, and logical👏👏 the first male character in serial, taking a stand and hv his OWN voice and stand for tht.😆😆 If he is in bad light with his dealing to sanchi, thn i think its problem with light and not in him😉😉

👏 👏 👏 👏

Bravo man !!