The Husband: What's Going On?

The woes of life bring me to think about many things and to ponder why
we do the things we do. I recently heard a story about a girl, Lisa and
Lisa's husband in a bit of a hazy, drunken state tried to pick up on his
friend's wife. Obviously, this led to a bit of a tiff between the Lisa's
husband and the husband of the girl he was flirting with who is also his
friend. It also upset Lisa as for one it was quite embarrassing and I am
sure it hurt her. Lisa said two things that are a bit bothersome. First,
when Lisa confronted her husband, her husband told her that it was not
what it seemed (then what was it?). Lisa also basically termed the girl as
loose and in a way protected her husband.

So I tell my husband about this story and my husband says to me that if
Lisa's husband could, he would have an intimate affair with another
woman. I disagreed with my husband, but things happen, so who knows.

Things to keep in mind about Lisa's husband. He is hard working and is
quite helpful. He is definitely a family. He likes to drink. He has been
known to make girl's uncomfortable and has made some derogatory
comments. However, he has never been known to go further than intense
stares and words…

I think there might be two parts to the debate. First, is it ok for Lisa to
term this girl as loose? How far would the husband go? What are your
thoughts?

It is easy to over look lisa'a reaction as being momentarily dazed by the circumstances. she might have lost her presence of mind then and maybe now has a different opinion after having thought the whole episode over.

as for the husband... soem people do act in a mock amorous manner. but i have seen this in couples who have perfect understanding and the wife just laughs along knowing it is a joke.
doesnt seem to be the case here though. I think this guy here is more likely to falter..but I also feel it is not for any of us to judge not knowing the details of the relationship and his side of the story

I do think that Lisa is being an ostrich like many women would do in this situation . Many are too afraid to break the peace around them and accept any riddicules explanation just to hang on to their marriage. It seems she is desperate to hang on to this marriage.

While like Abhijit said alcohol does not make a new person out of a drunk, i do believe it brings out the reality in many people. Many people are able to drop that mask they are wearing . So this guys sound like he may easily cheat on his marriage.

As for the Lisa's friend , who lisa called a whore !!!! I just feel sorry for Lisa for not recognising her man and blaming the third person for her husbands faults.

And Abhijits comments- I don't agree with you one bit that there must be something missing in this man's marriage that made him look around. A man like Lisa's husband needs no excuse to grope around.

As for a spouse being dissatisfied in a marriage , i personally know many such people , but i know them well enough to say they will never go and cheat on their spouse. They may ask to end the marriage/ relationship, but a good person respects the sanctity of marriage too much to take an action on desperate feelings.